I am 32 years old and moved from Brazil to another country at age 7, in 2001. I have not seen or talked to my father since. hes about in his 70s now. I did some research, and I have

his name

his date of birth

both his parents' names

his CPF

an address of where he once lived

a phone number that might still be active.

I want to know:

(1) his criminal history (more than what can be found in JusBrasil) and this is very important. All crimes and all documents filed in court and what the outcome was.

(2) marriage and kids' records, kids' names (I want to know if I have any half-siblings)

(3) photos of him ( I have no memory of what he looks like)

(4) his work history if he has one (where he's worked, for how long) and school history

(5) where he's ever lived, for how long

(6) his net worth, if possible.

(7) anything else that might be of interest.

(8) if he's still alive. If he's deceased, when he died and why and where he is buried.

I DO NOT PLAN ON REACHING OUT TO HIM. I have nothing to talk to him about. I am just curious because when I think of him, it's just a big question mark in my head. and I just want to know.

I want to hire someone, either an attorney or a private investigator or both. But I don't know how trustworthy people are in Brazil. And that person needs to be able to speak English to me.

There just can be no record of me requesting this.

My dad is a dangerous man, who tried to kill my mom several times, got very close, abused me, and did try to kill me too.

help!

Hi everyone,

I'm a junior attorney who's been licensed for less than a year doing labor and employment defense in California. I have a lot of questions, and I don't just want to learn what to do. I want to understand why we do it.

When you're defending a deposition, what's your goal? Are you mainly thinking about objections to preserve the record? Are you focused on the elements of the causes of action? What are you paying attention to? When it is your time to ask questions, what do you focus on and why? What do you not focus on?

When you're taking the plaintiff's deposition, what's your goal? Are you trying to discredit them, see if their story stays consistent, get admissions, or focus on whether they can prove each element of their claims?

Same with written discovery. How do you decide what questions to ask? Do you build everything around the causes of action and defenses, or is there another way you think about it?

I guess I'm really asking how experienced litigators think. How do you know what questions matter and what you're actually trying to accomplish instead of just following a script?

Any books, resources, or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I can't tell!

I've had my Oura Ring for a while, but I'm realizing there are so many features in the app that aren't fully explained. The Help Center is pretty basic, and when I've contacted customer support, they mostly send me links to articles that don't actually explain how the metrics are calculated or how I should interpret them.

I'm hoping some experienced Oura users can help. Assume I want to understand every screen, graph, score, and trend in the app—not just what it is, but how Oura calculates it, what data it's using, and how I should interpret it.

1. Body Temperature

• Does a reading of +1.2 mean 1.2° above my personal baseline, or compared to the previous day?
• How is my baseline established?
• How long does it take to create or adjust my baseline?
• What causes my baseline to change over time?
• What do the circles shown on some temperature graphs mean?
• Why are some days missing a temperature reading?
• Is this measuring skin temperature or estimated core body temperature?
• What amount of variation is considered normal?
• At what point should I actually be concerned?

2. Sleep

Can someone explain every sleep metric?

• How is the Sleep Score calculated?
• How much does each Sleep Contributor count toward the overall score? Is there a percentage or weighting for each one?
• What exactly does each Sleep Contributor measure?
• What does Bedtime represent? Is it my bedtime for that specific day, or is it an average over the past week or month?
• What does Wake-up Time represent? Is it for that day or an average?
• What is Sleep Efficiency, and how is it calculated?
• What is Sleep Latency, and what is considered good or bad?
• What does Restfulness measure?
• How is Deep Sleep measured?
• How is REM Sleep measured?
• How is Light Sleep measured?
• What is Awake Time? Is it simply the amount of time I was awake while in bed?
• What exactly is Time in Bed?
• What is Sleep Timing, and how is it different from Bedtime?
• How is Sleep Regularity calculated?
• For every sleep metric, what changes between the daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly views? Are those averages, rolling averages, totals, or something else?
• Which sleep metrics have the biggest impact on my Sleep Score?

3. Readiness

• How is the Readiness Score calculated?
• How much does each Readiness Contributor affect the overall score?
• What exactly does each contributor measure?
• Why can my Readiness Score be low even after what seems like a great night's sleep?
• Which factors affect it the most?

4. Activity

Can someone explain:

• Activity Score
• Activity Burn
• Activity Goal
• Activity Time
• Steps
• Move Every Hour
• Inactive Time
• Recovery Time
• Training Frequency
• Training Volume

Questions:

• What is the difference between Total Calories Burned and Active Calories?
• Does Total Calories Burned include my basal metabolic rate (BMR)?
• How does Oura estimate calories burned?
• How accurate are the step counts?
• How does Oura know what type of activity I'm doing?
• Why do some workouts automatically appear while others don't?
• How are the daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly activity trends calculated?

5. Daytime Stress

• What exactly is Daytime Stress measuring?
• How does Oura distinguish between physical activity and emotional stress?
• What is Spotlight?
• What is Resilience, and how is it calculated?
• What factors affect these metrics?

6. Heart Health

Can someone explain:

• Resting Heart Rate
• Heart Rate Variability (HRV)
• Cardiovascular Age
• Cardio Capacity (VO₂ Max estimate)

Questions:

• How are these calculated?
• What numbers are considered healthy?
• Which trends should I actually pay attention to?

7. Meals & Glucose

• How do these features work?
• What data are they using?
• Can Oura actually measure glucose, or is it estimating?
• Does it require another device?
• How accurate is it?

8. Tags & Correlations

This is one of the most confusing parts of the app.

For example, I'll see things like:

• Fever +17
• Massage +3
• Nasal Congestion +0.6
• Travel -2
• Alcohol
• Meditation
• Exercise

Questions:

• What do these numbers actually mean?
• What are they comparing?
• Are these statistically significant?
• How many tagged days are needed before correlations appear?
• Why do some tags never show correlations?
• Are they comparing me to my own baseline or to other users?
• What does a positive versus negative number actually tell me?

9. Symptom Radar

• What metrics is Symptom Radar analyzing?
• What combination of measurements triggers an alert?
• Can I see exactly which measurements caused the alert?
• How accurate is it?
• Can it detect illness before symptoms begin?

10. Blood Oxygen

• How is blood oxygen measured overnight?
• Why isn't there a reading every night?
• What percentage is considered normal?
• When should I be concerned?

11. Oura Labs

I'm enrolled in the Blood Pressure beta.

• How does it estimate blood pressure?
• Is it replacing a blood pressure cuff or just estimating trends?
• How accurate has it been?
• Does it need calibration?

12. Health Panels

• Can I connect outside bloodwork or lab results?
• Can I import results from Quest, Labcorp, MyChart, or other providers?
• What medical data can Oura actually use?

13. Integrations

How do integrations work with:

• Apple Health
• Google Health Connect
• Garmin
• Strava
• Natural Cycles
• Cronometer
• MyFitnessPal
• Continuous Glucose Monitors (CGMs)

14. Trends & Graphs

• How are the daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly trends calculated throughout the app?
• Which metrics are averages versus totals?
• Are the averages rolling averages?
• Can I export the raw data?
• Can I view every individual measurement instead of averages?

15. General Questions

• Are there hidden features most users don't know about?
• Which metrics should I actually pay attention to every day?
• Which ones are less important?
• Which metrics come directly from sensors versus algorithms or estimates?
• How much of Oura's analysis is AI-driven?
• Is there a comprehensive manual, guide, or YouTube series that explains everything in detail?

I'm basically looking for the Oura manual that doesn't seem to exist. 😅

If anyone has a deep understanding of how Oura works—or knows of a great guide, video series, or resource—I would really appreciate it. Customer support hasn't been able to answer these questions beyond sending Help Center articles, and I'm hoping to better understand what all of this data is actually telling me.

I got facial balancing filler after gaining weight. My injector never told me weight loss could affect my results. What would you do if you were me?

I'm looking for honest advice because I'm not sure what to do next.

• December: I had a virtual facial balancing consultation. I emailed photos of my face, and at the time I weighed about 145 lbs. Based on those photos, I was recommended: Total: 5 syringes of filler.
  • 1 syringe in my right cheek
  • 1 syringe in my left cheek
  • 1 syringe in the center of my chin for projection
  • 1 syringe on the right side of my chin for the chin shadow
  • 1 syringe on the left side of my chin for the chin shadow
• Their earliest available appointment wasn't until May.
• Between December and May, I gained about 30–40 lbs. I'm 5'2", so the weight gain made my face much fuller.
• Treatment day (May): Before we started, I specifically told my injector that I had gained weight and asked, "Does this change your recommendations?" She said no, so I trusted her judgment and went ahead with the treatment. I spent about $5,000.
• Six-week follow-up: We compared my before-and-after photos, and honestly, the changes were very subtle. My cheeks were a little fuller, my chin projected slightly more, and the chin shadows improved the most, but overall I don't think the results justified five syringes.
• During that follow-up, I mentioned I had started losing weight. That's when she told me that when people lose weight, filler is often one of the first things they'll notice losing.

If I had been told before treatment that losing weight could significantly affect my results, I would have waited until I reached my goal weight before getting filler.

Now I'm actively losing weight, so I honestly have no idea what's going to happen. Maybe the filler will mostly disappear. Maybe it won't. Maybe it'll end up looking uneven and need to be dissolved. At this point, I won't know until I reach my goal weight.

What would you do if you were me?

Part of me thinks I should just accept the loss and move on because I don't really trust this injector anymore.

The other part of me wonders if I should contact the practice. If I did, I feel like the only fair resolutions would be:

• If the filler disappears after I lose weight, they retreat me at no cost.
• If losing weight leaves the filler looking uneven or unnatural and it needs to be dissolved, they dissolve it and retreat me at no cost.

Am I being unreasonable, or should this have been discussed before I spent $5,000? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

My dog was recently put down after developing sudden cluster seizures. She went from completely normal to having seizure after seizure in a single day. The vets tried multiple medications, but nothing worked, and whatever was causing it was too advanced to treat.

She had been on NexGard for years. I know there's no way to know whether NexGard had anything to do with what happened, and I'm not claiming it caused her seizures. However, I've since learned that NexGard and Simparica can lower a dog's seizure threshold, meaning seizures may be more likely in susceptible dogs.

Because of that, I'm considering switching my other dog to either Comfortis or Trifexis, which my vet recommended.

From what I've found:
• Both require a prescription and annual vet visits.
• Comfortis covers fleas only.
• Trifexis covers fleas, heartworm, and some intestinal worms.
• Neither covers ticks, so I'd need a separate tick preventative.
• Neither is in the same class as NexGard and Simparica.

For anyone who has used Comfortis or Trifexis:
• Which do you use?
• Any side effects?
• How long has your dog been on it?
• If you switched from NexGard or Simparica, why did you switch?

Just looking for real-world experiences while I decide what's best for my other dog.

Anyone switch from NexGard/Simparica to Comfortis or Trifexis?

My dog was recently put down after developing sudden cluster seizures. She went from completely normal to having seizure after seizure in a single day. The vets tried multiple medications, but nothing worked, and whatever was causing it was too advanced to treat.

She had been on NexGard for years. I know there's no way to know whether NexGard had anything to do with what happened, and I'm not claiming it caused her seizures. However, I've since learned that NexGard and Simparica can lower a dog's seizure threshold, meaning seizures may be more likely in susceptible dogs.

Because of that, I'm considering switching my other dog to either Comfortis or Trifexis, which my vet recommended.

From what I've found:
• Both require a prescription and annual vet visits.
• Comfortis covers fleas only.
• Trifexis covers fleas, heartworm, and some intestinal worms.
• Neither covers ticks, so I'd need a separate tick preventative.
• Neither is in the same class as NexGard and Simparica.

For anyone who has used Comfortis or Trifexis:
• Which do you use?
• Any side effects?
• How long has your dog been on it?
• If you switched from NexGard or Simparica, why did you switch?

Just looking for real-world experiences while I decide what's best for my other dog.

I have a few voice recordings with multiple people talking, and I’d like the transcript to show something like:
Speaker 1: …
Speaker 2: …
Speaker 3: …
and then switch back to Speaker 1 if that person starts talking again.
Accuracy is important, but I’d prefer something free if possible. Any recommendations?

I was on wegovy, then my insurance stopped covering it. Endo changed me to Qsymia, I was not losing and having side affects that affect my heart (I have a heart condition), did test and imaging and found out I have fatty liver. health net with medi-cal covers wegovy if you have that diagnosis. just sharing, my previous endo (who retired) did not know this.

Domestic Asset Protection Trusts, Private Retirement Trusts, or Bridge Trusts for a Family With Several Million in Real Estate?

My parents have a revocable living trust that was set up by an estate planning attorney. The trust holds their primary residence and a couple of rental properties, with total assets worth a few million dollars.

I've recently been reading about Domestic Asset Protection Trusts (DAPTs), Private Retirement Trusts, and Bridge Trusts, and I'm wondering whether these offer meaningful advantages over a standard revocable living trust for asset protection and long-term planning.

For those who have experience with any of these trust structures:

• What type of person or family are they actually designed for?
• At what asset level do they start making sense?
• Have you found the added complexity and cost to be worth it?
• Are there any major downsides that people don't realize until after setting one up?
• If you were in our situation (primary home + a few rentals + several million in assets), would you stick with a basic trust or explore one of these alternatives?

Not looking for legal advice, just trying to understand how these trusts are used in the real world and whether they're mostly for ultra-high-net-worth families or if they're useful for more typical real estate investors as well.

Thanks!

I worked on a case where we were somehow able to pull and export years of someone's text messages into PDFs. It wasn't just messages currently on their phone—it seemed to include basically the entire history of that phone going back years. I wasn't involved in that part of the process, so I'm not sure exactly how it was done.

Now I'm wondering how I can do this for myself.

I've had an iPhone since around 2014, and before that I had phones like the Voyager and a few other older phones. I'm not asking how to scroll through messages on my current phone. I'm asking if there's a way to obtain all of my historical texts and call records from wherever that data is stored (iCloud, carrier records, backups, etc.).

Has anyone done this? How would I request or retrieve everything that's available? Is there a way to get all texts and call logs associated with my phone number/account, including from phones I no longer have? Or is that only possible in legal cases?

Basically, how do I get the most complete record of my own calls and text messages that still exists somewhere?

I worked on a case where we were somehow able to pull and export years of someone's text messages into PDFs. It wasn't just messages currently on their phone—it seemed to include basically the entire history of that phone going back years. I wasn't involved in that part of the process, so I'm not sure exactly how it was done.

Now I'm wondering how I can do this for myself.

I've had an iPhone since around 2014, and before that I had phones like the Voyager and a few other older phones. I'm not asking how to scroll through messages on my current phone. I'm asking if there's a way to obtain all of my historical texts and call records from wherever that data is stored (iCloud, carrier records, backups, etc.).

Has anyone done this? How would I request or retrieve everything that's available? Is there a way to get all texts and call logs associated with my phone number/account, including from phones I no longer have? Or is that only possible in legal cases?

Basically, how do I get the most complete record of my own calls and text messages that still exists somewhere?

I've had my Oura Ring for a while, but I feel like I'm constantly discovering new metrics that I don't fully understand. For example, I just found out there's a Cardiovascular Age feature. How is that age calculated? Why did mine change from before? What factors affect it?

I keep finding short explanations in the app, but I can't find a comprehensive guide that explains what every metric means, how it's calculated, what causes changes, and how I should interpret the data.

Things like Readiness, Resilience, Cardiovascular Age, Cardio Capacity, Stress, Sleep Contributors, etc. all seem interconnected, but I'm struggling to understand the bigger picture.

Any recommendations for detailed guides, videos, YouTube channels, websites, or resources that really break down every feature? Thanks!

[Landlord US-CA] How do you protect yourself after a tenant causes $15k in damages and moves out of state?

We’re landlords in Moreno Valley, CA (Riverside County), and we just had a nightmare tenant situation. Looking for advice from other California landlords on how you actually protect yourselves from this happening again.

A former tenant caused around $15,000 in damages to our property.

Some of the damage included:

• Ripping out all bedroom doors
• Ripping out closet doors and shelving
• Breaking windows
• Damaging cabinets to the point we had to repaint/fix/replace parts of them (looked like someone had been punching them)
• Damaged walls (holes/punch marks)
• Broke concrete/pathway area leading to the front door by driving/parking cars where they shouldn’t have been (we have before-and-after pictures)
• General destruction that required major repairs/remodeling

Just the repairs ended up being about $15k total. Their security deposit was $4,000 (rent was about $2,000/month and we collected 2x rent as deposit), which obviously didn’t come close to covering the damage.

The biggest issue: the tenant moved out of state, so now collecting feels impossible.

A few questions for experienced California landlords:

1. How are you protecting yourselves from situations like this? Are you requiring cosigners/guarantors so if a tenant disappears or leaves the state, someone else can still be held responsible?
2. Walkthroughs: I was thinking about requiring a move-out walkthrough with tenants, but what happens when tenants avoid it or refuse to show up? Do you schedule/document everything and move forward without them?
3. Small claims: Do you file in small claims immediately after move-out? Or do you start the process once notice is given? How are you serving tenants who move out of California?
4. Enforcing judgments: Even if you win in small claims, how are you actually collecting? Wage garnishment? Collections? Is it realistically worth pursuing?
5. Security deposits in California: What’s the best way to legally protect yourself now that California has limits on security deposits? Any strategies you’ve found that actually help reduce risk?

We have extensive photos/videos from before move-in and after move-out, invoices, receipts, and documentation of damages.

Looking for practical advice from landlords who’ve actually dealt with destructive tenants in California.

I’m in Southern California and the cost of Wegovy here is honestly crazy. Even compounded semaglutide is running me about $350/month right now, which still adds up.

I’ve been seeing people mention getting semaglutide from places like Mexico or other countries, either brand name pens or compounded (the vial + syringe kind), and I’m trying to understand what’s actually real vs risky.

For anyone who has looked into this or done it:

• are people actually getting it from Mexico or outside the US?
• is it something you have to pick up in person, or do places actually ship?
• do you need a prescription in those situations?
• how much cheaper is it really?

I’ve also heard mixed things about customs, shipping, and quality, so I’m trying to figure out what’s legit vs not.

Not trying to do anything unsafe — just trying to find something more affordable because US pricing is honestly not sustainable.

Would appreciate any real experiences 🙏

I’m in Southern California and the cost of Wegovy here is honestly crazy. Even compounded semaglutide is running me about $350/month right now, which still adds up.

I’ve been seeing people mention getting semaglutide from places like Mexico or other countries, either brand name pens or compounded (the vial + syringe kind), and I’m trying to understand what’s actually real vs risky.

For anyone who has looked into this or done it:

• are people actually getting it from Mexico or outside the US?
• is it something you have to pick up in person, or do places actually ship?
• do you need a prescription in those situations?
• how much cheaper is it really?

I’ve also heard mixed things about customs, shipping, and quality, so I’m trying to figure out what’s legit vs not.

Not trying to do anything unsafe — just trying to find something more affordable because US pricing is honestly not sustainable.

Would appreciate any real experiences 🙏

Hey! Does anyone know good spots around McClellan-Palomar Airport to watch planes take off and land?

I’m not looking for anything fancy, just somewhere you can park or sit and watch them come in close. Ideally somewhere chill where you won’t get kicked out.

I’ve heard there might be some spots off Palomar Airport Rd or near the business parks, and maybe even a coffee shop nearby where planes fly overhead?

Any recs would be appreciated 🙏

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 12 years. His brother has been with his now-wife for about the same amount of time. We all used to be really close.

Things changed when I got into law school (a huge, long-term goal of mine that everyone knew about). When I told them in person, her smile dropped, she looked like she wanted to go home, said “oh,” and looked away. When I turned to her husband, he looked uncomfortable, avoided eye contact, and acted like he didn’t hear me. I literally had to change the subject because it was that awkward. It was very clear they were not happy for me. And this only ever came from them—everyone else in my life was genuinely supportive and excited.

For context: her wedding was mid-April. My graduation was late April exactly one year later.

She actually started asking me about a year before her wedding (so about two years before my graduation) when I graduate, and it continued for about a year, even a month or two after her wedding. Every time I answered, she would nod, look down, and kind of keep tabs on it—but she never once said anything like “I can’t wait to be there.” It felt like she was tracking it, not celebrating it.

Right after her wedding (about 9 months before my graduation), she stopped asking—and that’s when they booked a trip and ended up being out of town basically all of late April, when I graduated. During that time, I had been telling her to just think of it like her wedding—mid-April for her, late April the following year for me—so she knew.

They say it was a coincidence. Maybe. But honestly, it doesn’t look like one when the only two people who had weird energy about me going to law school—and who would literally look away when I said I couldn’t wait to see them there—just happened to be gone.

That said, even putting that aside, the bigger issue is how they acted the entire time.

Another pattern: whenever I would say something like “I can’t wait to see you guys at graduation,” both of them would go quiet, look away, or pretend they didn’t hear me. This happened multiple times.

They didn’t come. They didn’t celebrate me after. They didn’t even say congratulations. I wasn’t expecting anything huge, but they couldn’t even give me basic support.

Meanwhile, everything I did for her (bachelorette, wedding, engagement stuff) happened while I was in law school, during finals periods. I was stretched extremely thin, moved things around, spent money I didn’t have, and still showed up for her.

I even had people I hadn’t talked to in years show up for me and be more excited for me than they were. The difference was very noticeable.

After that, I pulled away, which created distance between all of us. They knew something was off—they’re not oblivious. They had to know it had to do with how they treated me, even if we didn’t fully talk about it at the time.

Then I posted that I passed the bar—she deleted me almost immediately. Her husband liked the post at first, then unliked it a few days later.

After that, I tried to reach out and have a conversation, and they refused, saying too much time had passed.

Since then, they’ve had a baby (the baby is about 7 months old now). My boyfriend showed up during the pregnancy (announcement, baby shower, ultrasound, etc.) because those are moments you don’t get back, and I supported that. But after the baby was born, he pulled back because he doesn’t feel comfortable with them.

At one point, his sister asked him to take a photo of her daughter and his brother’s baby, and he said no. His reasoning was basically: he’s not going to do anything that benefits the wife when she refused to even have a conversation with me. In his words, she can be best friends with the girl who was sleeping with her husband for years, but she can’t have a conversation with his girlfriend who showed up for her.

There’s also been a lot of drama with her—she’s told people her husband was cheating for years, there’s been public accusations, fights, even physical incidents in the family. It’s just constant chaos.

Fast forward—about 7 months after the baby was born, the first time all four of us were really around each other again (like Easter), his brother suddenly said, “you don’t really acknowledge my kid.” My boyfriend responded that he’s not comfortable around them because of how they treated me. It felt weird that this suddenly became an issue right when I was there.

And now—after refusing to talk before—they suddenly want to have a conversation.

So when I tried before, it was “too late,” but now it’s not—now that it benefits them.

It also feels like if the situation were reversed, they wouldn’t do this for us.

Another thing: before his brother reached out, my boyfriend kept his distance—wouldn’t like posts, would say no to plans. Now that his brother reached out, suddenly he’s liking posts and open to hanging out. That shift bothers me—it feels reactive to them.

The truth is, since we’ve distanced ourselves, it’s actually felt really peaceful. I don’t miss the relationship.

At this point, I’m okay being civil (hi/bye), but I don’t want a relationship with them. I absolutely would never invite them to my career milestones, and honestly I don’t want them at other life milestones either. It’s not just that they didn’t show up—it’s that they felt like haters.

And it’s not even about the baby—they could be celebrating anything and I’d feel the same way.

Where I’m struggling is my boyfriend. He’s more of a “keep the peace” person, and it’s hard for me to watch him engage with people who I feel have treated him (and me) poorly. That’s not something I’m okay with.

I don’t want to be controlling, but it does hurt to see him open back up now that they want something.

Ideally, I’d want:

• Civil, surface-level (hi/bye) only
• No real engagement with his wife
• No going out of our way for them anymore
• He can have whatever relationship he wants with his brother
• No hanging out as a group of four again
• Not going to their home / not having them in ours
• Unsure about boundaries with the baby

What would you do?
What boundaries would you set?
And what would you do if you and your partner aren’t on the same page about family?