I’m sorry but why would it be a priority to go out to the movies, for 3 hours with a 4 week old? I just don’t get it. What about watching a movie at home? I couldn’t fathom leaving my babies at 4 week old for the freaking move theatre.
Why is she wearing the same clothing for the past 2 weeks? Did the washing machine break? Did all her clothing disappear? I don’t get it… am I missing something?
Anyone else having trouble placing an online order? Won’t go past the cart to checkout for me. Been trying all day
This is a follow up from last post… she asked to come visit my kids last week, his response was , this week is too busy see you next weekend (we were invited over there next weekend for a “party” about a month ago, our frequency I like keeping for his family is about every 2 months) her response was, I won’t be long. Haven’t seen them in 3 weeks. He did not respond.
It’s been longer not sure where she gets 3 weeks 😂 and we also don’t give a shit if in your brain it’s been 3 weeks…? We usually see you around every 2 months, just cause I have a baby again doesn’t mean you come often… sorry. Now I’m thinking to myself she probably texted and called my phone like she usually does when things don’t go her way with husband. I blocked her when I found out she asked husband about a visit this week, I know her games. She would come to me if he said no. I’m much better with my mental health having her blocked, I’ve blocked her before but unblocked her out of guilt. So now I think it’ll be too awkward next weekend, I’m sure she will bring this up. I don’t want to go to this “party” anyway? No idea why I am? I guess out of obligation for husband? Any thoughts..
This is a follow up from last post… she asked to come visit my kids last week, his response was , this week is too busy see you next weekend (we were invited over there next weekend for a “party” about a month ago, our frequency I like keeping for his family is about every 2 months) her response was, I won’t be long. Haven’t seen them in 3 weeks. He did not respond.
It’s been longer not sure where she gets 3 weeks 😂 and we also don’t give a shit if in your brain it’s been 3 weeks…? We usually see you around every 2 months, just cause I have a baby again doesn’t mean you come often… sorry. Now I’m thinking to myself she probably texted and called my phone like she usually does when things don’t go her way with husband. I blocked her when I found out she asked husband about a visit this week, I know her games. She would come to me if he said no. I’m much better with my mental health having her blocked, I’ve blocked her before but unblocked her out of guilt. So now I think it’ll be too awkward next weekend, I’m sure she will bring this up. I don’t want to go to this “party” anyway? No idea why I am? I guess out of obligation for husband? Any thoughts..
Just an update in my story for anyone following along -
Last weekend she asked husband if she can come over this week, he didn’t give a response, now it’s Thursday night - she said he didn’t give an answer and if she can come tomorrow. Husband approaches me about it, I say no. We already have a date coming up set. It does start an argument slightly but I remain firm. We go round and round in the same old speal about why don’t want to see her often.
He sends a response saying “we are busy, we will see you xyz” she gets back saying “it will be quick, it’s been 3 weeks since I’ve seen the kids”.
WHAT does stopping by QUICK do for you???? You even know it won’t be quick! Just another guilt and manipulate tactic. What do you can take photos? Send to people? Hold my baby?
It’s been 3 weeks???? (It’s actually been longer) but we are use to seeing you every 2 months! (That’s the frequency I’ve been having the visits as it’s all I can stand). But now she’s bringing up 3 weeks?!? She’s keeping track of time? You aren’t close with my kids! I don’t want to see you often! For numerous reasons!
Vent
Just an update in my story for anyone following along -
Last weekend she asked husband if she can come over this week, he didn’t give a response, now it’s Thursday night - she said he didn’t give an answer and if she can come tomorrow. Husband approaches me about it, I say no. We already have a date coming up set. It does start an argument slightly but I remain firm. We go round and round in the same old speal about why don’t want to see her often.
He sends a response saying “we are busy, we will see you xyz” she gets back saying “it will be quick, it’s been 3 weeks since I’ve seen the kids”.
WHAT does stopping by QUICK do for you???? You even know it won’t be quick! Just another guilt and manipulate tactic. What do you can take photos? Send to people? Hold my baby?
It’s been 3 weeks???? (It’s actually been longer) but we are use to seeing you every 2 months! (That’s the frequency I’ve been having the visits as it’s all I can stand). But now she’s bringing up 3 weeks?!? She’s keeping track of time? You aren’t close with my kids! I don’t want to see you often! For numerous reasons!
Vent
Had a great weekend, except around noon she calls husband asking when a good time to visit this week is? .. I get triggered by her. I told husband immediately no.
I had to decline going to visit my family this week due to how far away they are, my round the clock breastfeeding / fussy baby, toddler travel. All his family lives close, mine does not. We last saw his 5 weeks ago. We were all going to get together at a location 12 hours one way from me. I thought hard about it but just with my current situation I did decide not too. I’ve been thinking if I made the right choice or not. His family has gathering so often. His super over bearing grandmother asked a month ago about celebrating his parents birthday on the long weekend, I never responded, she then texted again saying she hasn’t heard back. I said I’ll let her know. - I don’t want to celebrate his parents birthdays? I couldn’t give 2 shits. Honestly. His mother is aware that we’ve been invited to this, she’s just trying to get another close visit in so she can pretend she’s relevant in our lives. It’s pathetic.
I’ve explained to chatGPT my situation and it does recommend blocking both them on my phone, I have since. I’m tired of these people taking space in my head so often and ruining a great weekend (although she texts husband trying to arrange visits cause she knows I don’t respond to her anyway).
You can read my lengthy post history for why our relationship is like this. (Made fun of my daughters name, tried to arrange a wedding for us to get married before we had a child cause it was the “right” thing to do, has told husband she and FIL don’t like me, got mad one Christmas that my mom cooked husband breakfast when he should have spent the entire day with them and whatever breakfast my mom made him was awful, postpartum pushing her away into us - I wouldn’t answer texts, she would persistently call, demand visits for relatives, the list goes on.)
Husband asked why she couldn’t come, I let him know it isn’t fair for one, I’ve had to decline going to see my family 12 hours away due to my kids and current sacrificing (I don’t expect him to understand). I also don’t need to explain myself, seeing her is bad for my mental health. I need distance. With that upcoming event that’s plenty, I don’t want to attended it but know I’ll be forced to. We usually see his family on an around 2 month schedule as that’s all I can handle. He usually feels bad for his parents. After our discussion I said it’s making my mental health not well, he then apologized and said he doesn’t want me upset and understands my boundaries.
Had a great weekend, except around noon she calls husband asking when a good time to visit this week is? .. I get triggered by her. I told husband immediately no.
I had to decline going to visit my family this week due to how far away they are, my round the clock breastfeeding / fussy baby, toddler travel. All his family lives close, mine does not. We were all going to get together at a location 12 hours one way from me. I thought hard about it but just with my current situation I did decide not too. I’ve been thinking if I made the right choice or not. His family has gathering so often. His super over bearing grandmother asked a month ago about celebrating his parents birthday on the long weekend, I never responded, she then texted again saying she hasn’t heard back. I said I’ll let her know. - I don’t want to celebrate his parents birthdays? I couldn’t give 2 shits. Honestly. His mother is aware that we’ve been invited to this, she’s just trying to get another close visit in so she can pretend she’s relevant in our lives. It’s pathetic.
I’ve explained to chatGPT my situation and it does recommend blocking both them on my phone, I have since. I’m tired of these people taking space in my head so often and ruining a great weekend (although she texts husband trying to arrange visits cause she knows I don’t respond to her anyway).
You can read my lengthy post history for why our relationship is like this. (Made fun of my daughters name, tried to arrange a wedding for us to get married before we had a child cause it was the “right” thing to do, has told husband she and FIL don’t like me, got mad one Christmas that my mom cooked husband breakfast when he should have spent the entire day with them and whatever breakfast my mom made him was awful, postpartum pushing her away into us - I wouldn’t answer texts, she would persistently call, demand visits for relatives, the list goes on.)
Husband asked why she couldn’t come, I let him know it isn’t fair for one, I’ve had to decline going to see my family 12 hours away due to my kids and current sacrificing (I don’t expect him to understand). I also don’t need to explain myself, seeing her is bad for my mental health. I need distance. With that upcoming event that’s plenty, I don’t want to attended it but know I’ll be forced to. We usually see his family on an around 2 month schedule as that’s all I can handle. He usually feels bad for his parents. After our discussion I said it’s making my mental health not well, he then apologized and said he doesn’t want me upset and understands my boundaries.
The gray sweats need to be on payroll at this point
Here again…
Yet another Friday, opened my phone to husbands grandmother sending me a text inviting us to YET ANOTHER get together in a month, a long weekend if that. It’s husbands mom & dads birthday get together apparently? Yawn. Another reason for a get together. Oh and I guess it’s at the mom and dad’s house? But using the grandparents to invite us….? Weird. Using the siblings coming into town as another tactic (now SIL, hasn’t met baby).
We went to a birthday get together for our LO about 3 weeks ago now. Last weekend MIL invited us over (again) cause BIL was coming to town and hadn’t met our baby yet. We declined. As it’s a long drive, our weekend time.. etc. BIL stopped by as he has plans with husband and met baby that way.
I’m just sick to my stomach about all these invites? Weekends, long weekends, holidays it’s beyond me. I’m noticing it’s ruining my mood getting these invites, I start getting pretty angry and spiral a bit.
I’m not wanting to go to MIL & FIL’s birthday event in a month… what do I say?
Last together 3 weeks ago, MIL wouldn’t stop pestering my baby. Baby was sleeping away peacefully in car seat, where everyone could see and enjoy and she said “sorry to do this, but I would like to hold”. And held my baby for an hour. The behaviour is just gross
Here again…
Yet another Friday, opened my phone to husbands grandmother sending me a text inviting us to YET ANOTHER get together in a month, a long weekend if that. It’s husbands mom & dads birthday get together apparently? Yawn. Another reason for a get together. Oh and I guess it’s at the mom and dad’s house? But using the grandparents to invite us….? Weird. Using the siblings coming into town as another tactic (now SIL, hasn’t met baby).
We went to a birthday get together for our LO about 3 weeks ago now. Last weekend MIL invited us over (again) cause BIL was coming to town and hadn’t met our baby yet. We declined. As it’s a long drive, our weekend time.. etc. BIL stopped by as he has plans with husband and met baby that way.
I’m just sick to my stomach about all these invites? Weekends, long weekends, holidays it’s beyond me. I’m noticing it’s ruining my mood getting these invites, I start getting pretty angry and spiral a bit.
I’m not wanting to go to MIL & FIL’s birthday event in a month… what do I say?
Last together 3 weeks ago, MIL wouldn’t stop pestering my baby. Baby was sleeping away peacefully in car seat, where everyone could see and enjoy and she said “sorry to do this, but I would like to hold”. And held my baby for an hour. The behaviour is just gross
Here we are, husband received a text Thursday evening telling him, his brother is coming to town (WHY can’t brother text husband? Why is MIL still trying to control everything??) she asked if there’s a day this weekend we can go over and visit. Absolutely not.
Read my last posts.
We last visited 2 weeks ago, went there.
She’s asking about this because BIL hasn’t met our new baby? He doesn’t give 2 shits, he’s never interacted with our toddler either. He’s very very introverted. He doesn’t say anything, and when you ask him something he looks away and responds with one word. Totally fine, but I know he doesn’t care about meeting our baby, MIL does lol.
I’m wiped and laying it down, I am not going anywhere. Enough visiting, he can meet the new baby at Christmas. Husband said ok, and that he will reach out to his brother and do something together with him. I said great! MIL will definitely spaz over this.
It’s seriously so bizarre BIL can’t reach out to husband and tell him that he’s coming to town and wants to get together.. but I guess that’s the introvert in him..
Here we are, husband received a text Thursday evening telling him, his brother is coming to town (WHY can’t brother text husband? Why is MIL still trying to control everything??) she asked if there’s a day this weekend we can go over and visit. Absolutely not.
Read my last posts.
We last visited 2 weeks ago, went there.
She’s asking about this because BIL hasn’t met our new baby? He doesn’t give 2 shits, he’s never interacted with our toddler either. He’s very very introverted. He doesn’t say anything, and when you ask him something he looks away and responds with one word. Totally fine, but I know he doesn’t care about meeting our baby, MIL does lol.
I’m wiped and laying it down, I am not going anywhere. Enough visiting, he can meet the new baby at Christmas. Husband said ok, and that he will reach out to his brother and do something together with him. I said great! MIL will definitely spaz over this.
It’s seriously so bizarre BIL can’t reach out to husband and tell him that he’s coming to town and wants to get together.. but I guess that’s the introvert in him..
Any advice?
Day 2 of potty training my 24 month old. She did ok yesterday, tons of accidents around the house, I’ve blocked off most rooms so we are just hanging around 2 rooms for the day. Towards the end of the day yesterday, there was a big fuss me taking her to the potty but she did go pee. We did a huge celebration.
Today, not much luck. Didn’t really pee all morning? Holding it maybe? Did a poop outside, this afternoon lots of pee accidents around the house. She has been repeating words of , wet, clean up, pee and poo.
What should I aim for, for tomorrow? More days no clothes waist down? Just redirection to the toilet? Any help appreciated.
(Lightly following the “oh crap method” and just myself as we go).
I’m needing other moms to chime in, what am I doing wrong??
I have a freshly 2 yr old, and a 2 month old. I get 0 alone time. Nothing. I feel like I’m going off the deep end soon mentally. I’m drained. My 2 yr old doesn’t nap really during the day anymore, and is STILL sleeping in my bed. The bed situation is hard, toddler has own room, just on another floor so we aren’t ready for it yet for safety reasons. We have a huge master bedroom so I do have a bed here for toddler, we just haven’t buckled down and made toddler sleep in it. We have tried a few times but tantrums happened. My 2 month old sleeps crib side. Contact naps mainly through the days. Can’t get much done. Is an ok sleeper at night… but I’m barely sleeping with toddler / baby as is.
Feeling really done. What can I do?
I have a freshly 2 yr old and also a newborn. I’m a SAHM. For the past 2 months ish? My toddler hasn’t been napping during the day. Misses a nap then goes to bed at 6PM. We start our day at 6am/7am. Toddler sleeps all night no problem. Lately, has been falling asleep around noon in the car, only the car. Which isn’t ideal.
Also if we aren’t in the car, a nap will take place at 2-3PM and toddler wakes up an absolute nightmare, a solid tantrum for 30 minutes after waking.
What should I do? This cannot go on! Should I keep toddler up all day?
Hun is wearing a wedding ring all of a sudden in Lo’s recent ig story
Me again, see my previous posts.
I’ve taken advice from here and also decided I need to start standing up for myself / family. I have a toddler and newborn. Baby is 5 weeks old. MIL has come twice now, tried a third time but was shut down. Ever since we get weekly texts and calls about arranging visits for herself or her to bring other relatives. They have all had a chance to come the other 2 times she’s come over. She asks us to go there (2 hour drive, 1 each way, I won’t do this). I’ve said to myself, how do we make this go away? I knew my toddlers birthday is coming up (2 weeks away). so I sent a text out about “come over this date, causal birthday for toddler”. I got no response.
Then this morning I get ANOTHER call. “Hi, grandmother so and so would like to come sooner. I’m available to bring her this weekend or next”. ??????!!!!!! WE ARENT VISITING SOONER. I GAVE YOU A DATE. I DONT CARE WHAT GRANDMA SO AND SO WANTS. SHE CAN WAIT!.
As you can tell the pushy naggy bullshit runs in the family, MIL + great grandmas don’t take no for an answer. I’ve taken this sites advice, provide an alternate date. This is what I get!