u/Grouchy_Leopard6036

Is it normal for the cake decorator to be responsible for their truck orders and doing the decopac on their own device? Is it normal for a full time cake decorator to be expected to do as much work in the deli as a part time deli associate while also doing all the cakes? And all this for $17? And with a decade of experience and extremely good work not to brag but my training and experience was in high end bakeries. I do very neat looking work very fast I can fill two carts of backstock in a shift.

Would it be fair for me to tell my dept manager that she needs to take over the decopac order and truck orders for cakes?

They even call me at 8 am on my days off because my deli manager and assistant manger never had to do any training on cakes so they don’t know anything and it’s literally like I’m running my own separate department while also helping them run the deli. I don’t feel like I’m being compensated fairly for all the mental work I do and I’m about to tell my managers they need to take all of that over and I will just actually decorate.

I’m trying to find a job but I try to google listing or even go to job listing sights and it’s nothing but fake spammy job ads. Like the same job posted in every city or township when you know that place is not in all those zip codes literally just same jobs posted over and over I can’t even scroll through to find a legitimate listing

My only professional skill at the moment cake is decorating I was building my own business and it was doing pretty great during Covid but I stopped to be sahm when my child was born almost 4 years ago. When my child was less than a year old their dad kicked us out on our asses. I had to move back in with my parents and got the first cake decorating job I could find at a grocery store. I get full time hours and I’m paid better than most positions in the store but $17.50 is just not a lot to live on especially for the amount of work I do and level of skill I bring to the job (which is mostly wasted there but whatever)

I finally saved up enough to get my own place for me and my child but now I’m barely scraping by. I made enough to cover bills and very budget groceries and that’s literally it. I get 500 a month from my kids dad and he thinks that’s way too much but it really stretches pretty thin these days.

I’m looking for another line of work or a different place than grocery stores to do cakes. I feel like that market has become really saturated tho and the type of cakes I use to do for my business were considered high end luxury cakes and were in a recession now so.. idk where to start I obviously don’t have a lot of time or money to invest right now so looking for something with transferable skills or a degree that wouldn’t be super expensive or time consuming to obtain. I just need to be doing more and making more money $17.50 is not enough for a single parent in their 30s

I adopted my cat from the shelter a little less than a month ago. I took him the very next day to be neutered, vaccinated, checked for worms/dewormed and treated for fleas and ticks. I just took him back for a booster shot today and the vet said that he had worms and ask what could be causing him to get reinfected that it’s usually from eating rodents or fleas. I literally don’t know? He and his brother stay inside all the time he doesn’t have access to rodents or anything like that and he was given flea prevention less than a month ago along with my other cat. I’m not sure how this is happening could his infestation have been so bad the last time the dewormer didn’t get all of them? He was given more dewormer today and a round of Bravecto I also got more for my other cat but I’m worried about it happening again if I don’t know where they’re coming from.

Basically I caught my ex cheating when our son was 10 months old. The affair had been going since early in my pregnancy. When I didn’t get over it and share a bed with soon enough after finding out (2 days) he put me and our son out on the streets after he had convinced me to quit my job to be SAHM and use my saving to pay off my car. I had to move back in with my parents 2 hours away. He said he’d send money if I didn’t put him on CS and has been sending me 120 a week. He messages me constantly but only sees our son maybe every other month, it’s really inconsistent rarely he’ll see him twice in the same month but a lot of times he’ll go 3 or 4 months without seeing him.

If I ever try to set boundaries about us not talking so much or try to ask him to be more consistent about seeing our son he starts with the manipulation and threats. How everything is actually my fault because I’m the one who up and moved 2 hours away and “keep him from his son”. This is the only time he ever brings up wanting custody or taking me to court when I try to set a boundary or ask for financial help other than that he never mentions it. It’s been 3 years and I told him 3 years ago that I want him to have overnights with our son but he needs to build up to that and build a relationship and actual father son bond first. My kid is shy and mamas boy and he doesn’t even know his dad like that every time my ex talks about coming to get him or ask him if wants to come stay at his house he gets really upset and starts crying. I’ve begged his dad for years to be more consistent in his life.

Now I have finally got back on my feet enough that I have found a nice little rental house for us and I’m about to move in. Money is really tight right now because I have to pay first license and security deposit and also furnish the entire house. I ask my child’s father if he could help pay half for only the stuff for my sons room (bed, dresser, curtains) and now he’s going off about how I keep our son from him it’s bullshit I ask for help with my house and don’t even let our son go to his house and now he’s taking me to court and I’m gonna be sick when he gets his lawyers. Literally hasn’t seen his child in over 2 months mind you and that’s because I drove him two hours to his house.

I truly don’t wanna keep my son from his father that’s not what this is about but I’ve pleaded with him for years to get his shit together and build a relationship with our son so that he can have overnights but just won’t and my son is gonna be so terrified and upset if he gets weekends automatically. Am I being too overprotective here? Am I really the problem? How can I even go to court and I have no money for lawyers or time for that right now