This post is for your self betterment. Let me put this into perspective for you.

As a man just imagine every day you get this message

'Yaar, tum bohat achay lag rahay ho'.

Then every night a girl messages you

Kya hum aaj raat mil saktay hain?

And every time you go out a girl says to you

Aao main tumharay liye khana kharidata hoon kyunki tum bohat achay ho

How are you going to feel? You're gonna feel like you're ontop of the world. You're gonna feel special right? You're gonna feel like Mr Samnabad or Mr Allama Iqbal town.

Now reverse the roles, this is what the average/good looking Pakistani girl will receive on a daily basis. Her attitude/ego and perception will be shaped by men constantly praising her and talking to her in this way. Is it something blameworthy? Absolutely not. If you received messages like these you wouldn't say no to them.

Therefore the first step is to move away from this, stop messaging random girls on insta or bombarding girls with texts. Work on yourself and focus on those higher goals whether that be business, religion or education.

#6 will be the next post and will focus on business ideas

This is the only time in my 25 years of supporting Leeds united that I've wanted them to lose.

The Role

We’re looking for someone to take ownership of building and managing a men’s advice platform, spanning a website/app and a growing subreddit community.

You’ll be responsible for both the technical development and the community side, making sure everything runs smoothly.

You’ll be:

• Building and developing a website and/or app with a clear focus on usability, performance, and clean design
• Maintaining and improving the platform over time (features, UX, speed, scalability)
• Setting up and managing backend systems including user flows, content structure, and basic automation
• Managing and growing a subreddit/community platform centred around men’s advice
• Creating, organising, and moderating content so the space stays useful, respectful, and engaging
• Encouraging active discussion while keeping quality high (removing spam, low-effort content, etc.)
• Developing systems for content pipelines (posts, guides, discussions, FAQs)
• Working independently
• Keeping everything organised such as code, content, or community rules

 

What We’re Looking For

• Experience building or contributing to websites, apps, or online platforms
• Understanding of how platforms actually work
• Comfortable learning independently and figuring things out without supervision

Location

Remote.

Salary

70,000 to 100,000 PKR

What You Get

• 30 days paid annual leave
• Remote working
• For the right candidate a potential partnership and co-ownership of the business with international placements.
• Wages can be paid in PKR or GBP.

Can you please send an anonymized CV (remove your name and address) and any examples of projects you've done to ballyfernfabrics@gmail.com

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Make sure you're meeting for marriage purposes!

Before the meeting

- Brush your teeth, floss and use a tongue scraper

- shower (obviously)

- wear plain colours, smart clothing. Leave the chequered shirts; they don't suit Pakistani men whatsoever.

- arrange a meeting in a standard restaurant or coffee shop. Don't go above and beyond to go to a more pricey/posh restaurant. A girl who is interested in you won't mind what venue you're going to.

During the meeting

- sit back, don't lurch forward. Don't start popping your eyes out like a monkey and speak from the chest in a confident deep natural tone. CONFIDENCE IS KING

- never reveal your wealth. Don't brag about yourself and stop talking about yourself too much.

- Dr. Arthur Aron’s famous 36 questions that lead to love; plenty to talk about :)

- try to let the conversation flow naturally.

- keep the meeting between an hour and one and half hours

Tricks of the trade

- end the meeting when she's really into what you're saying. Leave the meeting on a high

- do something like dropping the fork, spilling a bit of tea on the table. Then act like nothing happened. It's about showing confidence. If you act normal when something embarrassing has happened she'll definitely be impressed.

- when looking at a woman, use the triangle method. Left eye, right eye and then lips.

Keep it all halal and you're all good.

Company Description

Ballymoney Fabrics designs and makes well-built backpacks using quality materials like technical nylons, laminates, and canvas. We’re a small family business and focused on getting the details right rather than pushing out volume.

The Role

We’re looking for someone to take the lead on designing and some prototyping of some new backpack designs

You’ll be:

• Designing backpacks with a clear focus on function, durability, and clean design
• Producing technical drawings, specs, and construction details for manufacture
• Working with performance fabrics, foams, webbing, hardware, and trims
• Managing sampling and prototyping with suppliers.
• Refining construction methods so products are strong, practical, and efficient to make.
• Keeping build specs and revisions clear and up to date.

 

What We’re Looking For

• Experience designing bags or other sewn products
• A solid understanding of backpack construction and how things are actually stitched together (or a willingness to learn)
• Experience working with nylon fabrics, laminates, canvas, and structural components (or a willingness to learn)
• Ability to create clear, practical production drawings and specifications (or a willingness to learn)
• Comfortable working independently and taking responsibility for outcomes

I’m not looking for qualifications at all. I also don’t care about your age or gender. I’m looking for the right candidate who can learn independently and quickly with a passion for the apparel/fashion business. I value those with old fashion skills.

 

Location

Remote. Some travel to markets may be required on an ad-hoc basis.

Salary

70,000 to 100,000 PKR

What You Get

• 30 days paid annual leave
• Remote working
• For the right candidate a potential partnership and co-ownership of the business with international placements.
• Wages can be paid in PKR or GBP.

Can you please send an anonymized CV (remove your name and address) and any examples of projects you've done to ballyfernfabrics@gmail.com

For the young Pakistani men out there who post about wanting an older lady, aunty, DHA aunty and the sort please read this carefully. The reality of what you desire is not what you envisage.

- Pakistani aunties do not have the wealth that you envisage. The majority of single or widowed older women in Pakistan with wealth is minimal. The majority of single 'aunties' are from poorer backgrounds; with their poorer husbands dying of various conditions; primarily related to their lack of wealth to treat them.

- Older richer single 'aunties' do exist, but only in countries such as the UK and the USA. They will certainly provide for you, but how much of your religion will you sacrifice to get there? Nothing is worth giving up your virginity or your religion for a few momentary acts of pleasure.

- Marrying a women the same age or younger than you is far better for you. Firstly it's easier to find someone a similar age or younger than you through halal means; rishta aunty, family, school even. Marrying or being with an 'aunty' will also be known about within your community in Pakistan.

- A younger women will bring up a family with you, be more in sync with you when it comes to romance (use your imagination on this one 😄). Do you want a women that hobbles about with a walking stick every time you get out of bed? Pakistani women are not healthy at all when they get to middle age.

- In the rare case that you do end up finding this 'DHA aunty', they certainly wouldn't go near you with your level of wealth. Why would they? The class system in Pakistan matters a lot; more so than what we have in the UK or USA.

For most of you, its a fascination and 99.9% of you will get nowhere near an 'aunty'.

Focus on not trying to circumvent the money route and actually try to better yourselves. Learn a new skill, become an expert at it, put your trust in Allah and because you didn't try to cheat the marriage/wealth system you'll find yourself a girl that will resemble in what you're looking for.

Those that end up chasing this 'rich aunty' end up getting old and never finding a wife that's suitable for them.

Good evening all,

I'm recruiting for the company I own. What is the best way to find employees in Pakistan online?

Please only comment if you can directly answer the question above

Many thanks

Some advice to men in their 20s, 30 and even 40s

Texting girls

Rules of the game

- Always mirror and match the texting frequency. If she replies in an hour, you reply in an hour. If she takes a day, you take a day

- Do not try to show off as Elite or any of that gobbledegook. Keep the conversation about her and keep it light-hearted. Keep it natural

- You must portray yourself as not really caring, but caring a tiny bit. Do not ever double text and keep yourself busy in your spare time. If she doesn't like you then gracefully move on.

- don't get emotional or soppy.

- texting is only a means to organise a meetup. Don't text too much.

Pakistani girls are exactly the same as their English, Scottish, American counterparts. A girl who really is into you will look past your lack of wealth.

For those that are wealthy it is even more important that you don't reveal how wealthy you are.

Don't blame girls for being picky. It's only your behaviour that enables their attitude. Don't give them constant validation, Instagram following etc....