u/GymBabyBunny

I'd seriously recommend everyone here to find a way to access therapy or counseling. Posting on the subreddit is nice to be heard but, we cant all give good advice.

Everyone heals differently. Make sure to not use reddit as an alternative to therapy

Husband divorced me right after our one-year anniversary of marriage. I have been living alone, working a new job, and making lots of friends. I love my life. I haven't had a bad day since living on my own (over a month.) Every single day is awesome for me and I have new experiences. I am in therapy, medicated, and I'm finally not lonely. I didn't realize how lonely I was after moving across the country with my ex was.

Even after he divorced me and all the shitty things he's said and done. I still don't hate him. I miss him but, have no desire to contact/talk to him. My parents don't even hate him. We all see a deeply traumatized person who just won't get help. I disliked my ex in laws but, now I hate them. I believe he is an invisible child turned fearful avoidant.

I hate how much they fucked their kids up. I see how it manifested in him. I understand why he is an anxious avoidant. Yet, I don't hate him. I hate his parents. Why do I have this unconditional love for a person who clearly didn't have it for me?

Its weird. The anger and love I have for him live side by side but, my love for my new, single life is louder. Crazy because I was in distraught when the discard happened. Once I got my own apartment, I've been soooo happy (: !

Husband divorced me right after our one-year anniversary of marriage. I have been living alone, working a new job, and making lots of friends. I love my life. I haven't had a bad day since living on my own (over a month.) Every single day is awesome for me and I have new experiences. I am in therapy, medicated, and I'm finally not lonely. I didn't realize how lonely I was after moving across the country with my ex was.

Even after he divorced me and all the shitty things he's said and done. I still don't hate him. I miss him but, have no desire to contact/talk to him. My parents don't even hate him. We all see a deeply traumatized person who just won't get help. I disliked my ex in laws but, now I hate them.

I hate how much they fucked their kids up. I see how it manifested in him. I understand why he is an anxious avoidant. Yet, I don't hate him. I hate his parents. Why do I have this unconditional love for a person who clearly didn't have it for me?

Its weird. The anger and love I have for him live side by side but, my love for my new, single life is louder. Crazy because I was in distraught when the discard happened. Once I got my own apartment, I've been soooo happy (: !

Husband divorced me right after our one-year anniversary of marriage. I have been living alone, working a new job, and making lots of friends. I love my life. I haven't had a bad day since living on my own (over a month.) Every single day is awesome for me and I have new experiences. I am in therapy, medicated, and I'm finally not lonely. I didn't realize how lonely I was after moving across the country with my ex was.

Even after he divorced me and all the shitty things he's said and done. I still don't hate him. I miss him but, have no desire to contact/talk to him. My parents don't even hate him. We all see a deeply traumatized person who just won't get help. I disliked my ex in laws but, now I hate them.

I hate how much they fucked their kids up. I see how it manifested in him. I understand why he is an anxious avoidant. Yet, I don't hate him. I hate his parents. Why do I have this unconditional love for a person who clearly didn't have it for me?

Its weird. The anger and love I have for him live side by side but, my love for my new, single life is louder. Crazy because I was in distraught when the discard happened. Once I got my own apartment, I've been soooo happy (: !

One of the signs that my ex was avoidant was the fact that he shamed me for not being hyper independent. He shamed me for the fact that I could rely on my parents and ask for help. The fact that I still lived with them when we met (20.) He's an invisible child and thought people being abandoned at a young age is normal, I guess.

After a big fight, Exhusband wanted divorce. I went from a secure attachment to an anxious one. I went through all the stages of it. Shock, begging, pleading, anger, and acceptance.

He told me everyday that he wanted divorce but was hesitant to start. I thought he wasn't rushing to give me space but, turns out he was unsure of it. He didnt know what he wanted to do. He convinced himself that divorce is for the better. He watched how it destroyed me. I had just moved across the country to be with him. Started a new job. Have no friends or family near me.

He still didn't care. I had 2 stays in the mental health hospital because i couldn't eat or sleep. I vomited whatever little food I ate and could only eat soup. I was even suicidal because I had to quickly make a big decision on what to do with my life.

The divorced had settled in about 5 weeks. I got a luxury studio and moved out the following week. He was cruel to me the whole time. We said our goodbyes and hugged.

Ive never felt more relief in my life. He's definitely a fearful avoidant who refuses to change or even go to therapy. I've made peace with the fact that he will never change. He'll just repeat the cycle to another unlucky victim.

We've been no contact since and, im enjoying it. I dont have to deal with the mental torment or his confusion. I still have some stuff that I need to go pick up but, I told him that Ill be back in a month or so.

I dont have him or social media anymore. I've never posted anyone so there's no stalking. I got jealous at the thought of him being with another person but, it only lasted about 15 minutes.

I have been on an antidepressant and in therapy for the last 2ish months. Its my first time living on my own and im genuinely happy. My biggest concern rn is parking because I live inner city now.

I know he's gonna regret it and come back to me. I wont take him back immediately. I want a few months. He HAS to change. If He hasn't changed or has no desire to, then there's no me.

After a big fight, Exhusband wanted divorce. I went from a secure attachment to an anxious one. I went through all the stages of it. Shock, begging, pleading, anger, and acceptance.

He told me everyday that he wanted divorce but was hesitant to start. I tgought he wasn't rushing to give me space but, turns out he was unsure of it. He watched how it destroyed me. I had just moved across the country to be with him. Started a new job. Have no friend or family near me.

He still didn't care. I had 2 stays in the mental health hospital because i couldn't eat or sleep. I vomited whatever little food I ate and could only eat soup. I was even suicidal because I had to quickly make a big decision on what to do with my life.

The divorced had settled in about 5 weeks. I got a luxury studio and moved out the following week. He was cruel to me the whole time. We said our goodbyes and hugged.

Ive never felt more relief in my life. He's definitely a fearful avoidant who refuses to change or even go to therapy. I've made peace with the face that he will never change. He'll just repeat the cycle to another unlucky victim.

We've been no contact since and, im enjoying it. I dont have to deal with the mental torment or his confusion. I still have some stuff that I need to go pick up but, I told him that Ill be back in a month or so.

I dont have him or social media anymore. I've never posted anyone so there's no stalking. I got jealous at the thought of him being with another person but, it only lasted about 15 minutes.

I have been on an antidepressant and in therapy for the last 2ish months. Its my first time living on my own and im genuinely happy. My biggest concern rn is parking because I live inner city now.

I know he's gonna regret it and come back to me. I wont take him back immediately. I want a few months. He HAS to change. If He hasn't changed or has no desire to, then there's no me.

After a big fight, Exhusband wanted divorce. I went from a secure attachment to an anxious one. I went through all the stages of it. Shock, begging, pleading, anger, and acceptance.

He told me everyday that he wanted divorce but was hesitant to start. I tgought he wasn't rushing to give me space but, turns out he was unsure of it. He watched how it destroyed me. I had just moved across the country to be with him. Started a new job. Have no friend or family near me.

He still didn't care. I had 2 stays in the mental health hospital because i couldn't eat or sleep. I vomited whatever little food I ate and could only eat soup. I was even suicidal because I had to quickly make a big decision on what to do with my life.

The divorced had settled in about 5 weeks. I got a luxury studio and moved out the following week. He was cruel to me the whole time. We said our goodbyes and hugged.

Ive never felt more relief in my life. He's definitely a fearful avoidant who refuses to change or even go to therapy. I've made peace with the face that he will never change. He'll just repeat the cycle to another unlucky victim.

We've been no contact since and, im enjoying it. I dont have to deal with the mental torment or his confusion. I still have some stuff that I need to go pick up but, I told him that Ill be back in a month or so.

I dont have him or social media anymore. I've never posted anyone so there's no stalking. I got jealous at the thought of him being with another person but, it only lasted about 15 minutes.

I have been on an antidepressant and in therapy for the last 2ish months. Its my first time living on my own and im genuinely happy. My biggest concern rn is parking because I live inner city now.

I know he's gonna regret it and come back to me. I wont take him back immediately. I want a few months. He HAS to change. If He hasn't changed or has no desire to, then there's no me.