I am currently the definition of “I’m not mad, just disappointed”.
A couple of weeks ago I matched with this girl (Jess) on Her. Turns out we get along pretty well. We’re both trans and poly (both partnered) and I found her super easy to talk to.
About a week ago we made plans to meet up at a restaurant near my place and she ended up not being able to make it due to health reasons.
Ok. That’s fine. Shit happens. The last thing I wanna do is make someone feel bad for something they can’t control. We keep talking and she’s just so sweet and pretty y’all omg. We make plans to meet up again. Today in fact.
Got to the meeting place and messaged her that I was a bit early. A few minutes later I get a response saying that her partner was having a nervous breakdown and that it in turn made her all stressed out. I talked to her for a bit, calmed her down, let her vent a bit, then she had to go make sure her partner was ok.
I really like her. We have a lot of similar interests. she’s got the cutest puppy. But this is the second time we’ve had to reschedule and it’s kind of making me a bit paranoid.
I, like most of you I’d imagine, have had to deal with catfishes. I was chatting with some guy who wanted my nudes on here for like a week before I swore off dm’s on social media.
With Jess, I checked. I had her take a selfie with a super specific hand gesture. We’ve sent pics and vids of our pets to each other. But I’ve never actually had a conversation with her over the phone or did a vid call.
If she really is this busy and stuff that’s fine. I get that life happens. But there’s this little voice in my head whispering that “she’s not real” and that I’m just being catfished again. Like a situation where things seem too good to be true, y’know?
Anyways. I told her that it’s fine. She said she needs time to sort things out before we make plans. I want to keep moving forward with this. But if it happens again I refuse to be that stupid idiot.