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I really need solid advice on this.

I’ve been dragged into drama since a year and in total of three relationships/ situationship that I’m starting to wonder whether I’m the problem here.

So first was that I was dating this person for few months. He was from my work and yes I know worst thing to do. And yes I did learn my lesson gravely. I came to know that he was cheating on me with two different women and one of them was from our workplace as well , married. So she harassed me a lot until I had to get the authorities involved. So I got out of that hell hole and the relationship.

And then my colleague shared her situationship experience with me. She was also involved with one of the coworkers. She told me this because she thought I’ll empathize and my first advice was that “girl don’t. Learn from my experience” and I left her to that. Well her partner started asking me out after we all met for our annual Christmas celebration and despite telling him I wasn’t interested he wouldn’t budge. So I told my colleague about him and they broke up. He blamed me. Whatever. Classic. Not surprised lol. But he kept dragging it. Send me reels through her about me being snake and all. Whatever. I cut them off.

Now this is the latest one. My childhood friend got involved with someone who was older than her. She already has a bf and she told me later that she was seeing this other guy or something. Nothing clear. I told her this is not something I support nor entertain and please do what is right. Well few weeks ago she came to me crying saying she was being harassed by this guy and I told her to inform her parents or someone and maintain distance. And then my friend , I’m still in shock btw , goes and tells him that I told her to stay away from him. And so the guy wanted my number to talk to me and then threatened he will come to my house because I was the reason causing issues in their relationship.

I was hurt. My mentor got involved because he works in the same office as my friend’s and he protected me. Since then I haven’t talked to her nor I want to. I know that girl for more than ten years. So yeah. I’m very numb.

But I don’t get it. Why has this happening to me? Do you girls have any advice how to stray away from these things? I don’t really have friends much. The ones I have are out of state. I hangout with my mum or read books at home. Idk what this has to do with anything, but still. I would really appreciate some perspective or insight.

EDIT: spelling errors

I feel very sad and down today. So my salary might be cut because I took leave for Chaturthi that too half day and it’s because I took on the spot whilst having leave balance. Whatever. I felt like crying because one of my colleagues called and blamed me for such things because apparently my manager asked her to cut off her leave but in the end everything was sorted out but still I just feel stupid for putting up with it.

Felt like crying so went to the mall and did some shopping but still I don’t feel good. I feel lonely and unwanted and uncared for some reason Idky.

And here is my homemade chocolate chip cookies.

Original Post : https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianBeautyTalks/s/KohtiAHC3w

So yeah. Here’s the update. Nothing much. It’s just that they colored my hair again , free of cost.

They said it’s 1k refund or re-color for free and after many front and back in the end I let the color my hair. No bleach ofc. My mom said the same thing.

It’s much darker than before. Looks good but idk man 9k wasn’t worth it at all. Ain’t going to salons ever again. Or better go to a REALLY GOOD ONE AND INVEST IN A REALLY GOOD HAIRSTYLIST.

My curls are still not properly styled because it’s dry. So yeah I’m focusing main on maintenance.

I’ll show the photos in such order

1. What they did initially
2. Later fixations

Edit : when I mentioned “no bleach ofc” I meant they didn’t bleach my hair again. Sorry for the confusion. And yes I’ve made peace with it. It’s better than before imo , I just need to style it better.

UPDATE: I’m not really happy idk. The excitement is gone but whatever. I spoke to them and the manager. Apparently they can only provide 1k refund because unka time and all sab Gaya hai and stuff. Whatever. I completely checked out. And said ki they will color and fix it again free of cost tomorrow using streax only because Igora doesn’t have that shade. Whatever. I really didn’t wanted to do it but my mom was like just color it. Atleast it will grow out and then we can trim from down instead of having that green color that I don’t like it. So I said okay and tomorrow I have an appointment with them.

ORIGINAL POST

I paid 8.9k at the salon to get my hair colored and the result was not that I wanted.

I’m so sad and heartbroken. I wanted this color for so long and it’s gone. My money too. I was honest with the stylist and told him that I didn’t want any green tones. It’s a proper indigo color with purple tones. I had told them I had L’Oréal color before but it didn’t show so he bleached my hair and did balayage. I had asked him which color they use and he said Igora but I saw that he used streax. Like wtf. It was green when they washed with few strands of blue. I did this yesterday and today in sunlight it’s bad.

What should I do? I don’t want to color again and ruin my hair. They blowdried it but I have natural 2c/3a/3b curls. I want a refund honestly.

But is there anyway around with this color. Like I don’t want it. Was thinking to fade this out till September and then go back to browns. Please any advice. I’m already crying.

Edit : SORRY I DIDNT BREAKDOWN THE PRICING PROPERLY. ITS 6k For the colour and 2.5k or

Something for olaplex rebonding hair wash ir something which they did for like two minutes after coloring my hair and so total I paid was 8.9k.

Also once he blow dried I saw the green and he was like oh I kept the green tones to add little bit vibrancy and so that your hair doesn’t look flat. And I was like WTF in my head and paid and left.

I specifically told them no green or teal tones. And still I smiled and said okay thanks and went but I was crying so bad because I was alone there and no other customers and it was Kate at night and I was just so heartbroken. But now I’m so dejected fuck.