u/Hello7378World

Hello! I am very much a noob when it comes to fragrances, so apologies if I say anything too stupid. But I have been growing some herbs in my garden and I absolutely love the way they smell and kinda wish I could smell like that. My original idea was to just make an essential oil via steam distillation and then dilute it with ethanol, but as I research fragrance making more, it seems that would probably not make an amazing perfume. From what I understand, essential oils tend to not last very long and they can have high amounts of hazardous chemicals. The herb I was most wanting to make a perfume from was basil, but unfortunately it seems that it has high amounts of estragole which isn't the most healthy apparently. Is it possible to make any fragrances just from a single essential oil? I know that it wouldn't be great by any means, but I don't think I have the time or energy to make proper perfumes, and I just want to smell a bit like some of the plants in my garden lol

I drive a sudan and it's nearly impossible for me to sit up straight while driving. I can't see stoplights when I'm next to them, and my head hits the ceiling. It's really frustrating since the car seat is the only chair I consistently use that actually has enough back support for me to sit up straight. And for me, trying to sit up straight just causes me pain unless I do have good back support. The last vehicle I drove was an SUV which somehow was even worse since the ceiling curved down on one side and forced me to sit at an angle. I'm 6'2" which is tall, but not really that tall. It feels like the maximum height car makers ever consider is 5'10" or 6' though. I frequently have to drive for 8+ hours at a time and I just wish that I was able to sit comfortably while doing that. I'm sure there are cars that are comfortable for tall people, but it's not feasible for me to get a new car anytime soon. Is there any way to install lower seats or something? I'm guessing not, and even if I could, it might just make my legs more uncomfortable then.

I have been using Amazon pharmacy for the last several months, and for whatever reason they always ship me my medications using UPS. Every single time I've ordered medications, they have been at least a day late. Usually several days. Currently, I'm waiting on one of my meds to arrive and it's been stuck at one shipping center for almost a week now, and it's been five days since it was supposed to arrive. Is there anything I can do to prevent this issue? If I could, I would just order my meds earlier, but that's not always an option for me. It's not like I'll die without them, but it can be hard to function. If possible, I'd like to keep using Amazon pharmacy since it's been a lot easier to use over my previous pharmacy, but the fact that UPS has been so consistently late might cause me to switch back.

Hello! I am a trans woman and have only recently begun transitioning about half a year ago, and I currently do not look particularly feminine in any way :( I am attracted almost entirely to women, so I do consider myself a lesbian, but I feel kinda like an imposter for saying that while looking the way I do. At what point would it be alright for me to be in a lesbian centered space? I guess I technically am a lesbian, but I feel like I would just make other people uncomfortable.

It feels like almost every post I see about someone exhibiting avoidant tendencies involves shitting on them for being an inherently terrible person. I get that being in a relationship with an avoidant person can be less than pleasant and that sometimes avoidant people do rather shitty things, but it really makes it all seem hopeless. I'm FA and I've tried my best to be a good partner, and even when a relationship makes me feel like absolute shit, I do my best to try and fix things if possible or end it in as amicable of a way as possible. I thought I had finally met someone that I felt comfortable around recently. She was polyamorous and was ok with the both of us dating other people separately as well. I am rather unattractive, so it's not like I ever ended up dating anyone else, but the fact that the option just existed made me feel a lot more comfortable to be around her. However, just recently, she's starting expressing that she might be uncomfortable with me being with other people as soon as I got the slightest bit of attention from someone else and I'm now really feeling like shit and the avoidant tendencies are feeling really strong. I'm going to keep discussing with her about what our needs in a relationship are, and try to get back to where we were, but I'm afraid that my avoidant tendencies are going to ruin this relationship also. It really makes me wonder if there's any point in me trying. Even if I try and talk things out as much as possible through a relationship, it's just like my partner doesn't comprehend my needs. I really want to have a good relationship with someone and really hate disappointing people, but it feels like I'm doomed to fail.