u/Helpful-Sympathy1364

I sent the most pathetic message last night - pls send advice

Context: I broke up with my bf of 3 years exactly one month ago. it’s been so hard, I saw a future with him but he didn’t respect me as a person, crossed boundaries multiple times and I truly had no trust in him. The trust part only happened after we both fought very hard very our relationship and he didn’t make much change.

Once we broke up I was very emotional and hurt and judged him so hard when he opened up to me about how he was feeling about his mistakes and how he regretted but he was venting about it to me and I felt so terrible. He kept telling me the things he did was him not respecting me, that he would forget about me, he stop trying and took me for granted.

I felt terrible about judging him. I felt terrible for the way I broke up with him. I sent a short paragraph saying how I felt guilty and apologized for my actions. I told him he didn’t have to respond but I just feel even more pathetic than when I was in the relationship.

when do things get better. When do I get over him? When do I stop crying over him? Less than two months ago I thought I was gonna spend my life with him.

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u/Helpful-Sympathy1364 — 4 days ago

How to get over my first love, the love of my life.

I still love him so much. we broke up less than a month ago. I broke up with him. He was so amazing but he didn’t respect my boundaries after telling him numerous times. I would beg him to text me, to communicate with me. If I look past that he is the most amazing guy ever. Such a small thing we broke up over but I want to talk to him for the rest of my life, marry him, be with him forever. I can only picture him for the rest of my life. I cannot picture myself with anyone else. I wish I could be with him. I want to be with him but I know I can’t be. I can’t even mourn my relationship in my living situation as no one knows about him.

We dated for three years, grew up together from 15-18. I know I’m young and there will be other people but when will it get better when will I be over him when will I stop thinking about him.

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u/Helpful-Sympathy1364 — 13 days ago

The last 4 weeks of my life have been hell.

I broke up with my bf of 3 years that I truly thought I was going to spend my life with, I had to deal with finals and groups projects that subsited the finals and one of my groups projects, my whole group didint even show up so i had to present myself, had to move from my dorm to back to my terrible home life with no bedroom or bed, i sleep on a hard, pointy leather couch in our living room right next to our window so i can hear and feel everything, my dad is fucking me over with my lease for sepetmber, thought i was pregnant and had to do a pregnacny test by mseylf in the mall bathroom because i didnt want to be caught by my religous family, and my overnight summer camp job doesnt start till june 14th and thats when i can leave but i am strugllign so much.

Losing the loml is by far the worst thing to ever happen to me. He was my rock, he was everything to me. I hate not being able to talk to him. Everywhere I go reminds me of him; my friends will be talking up, and it connects back to him. I don't even see my stuff because there's no room in my house, but I see my clothes and see what he bought me, and outfits I would be excited to wear when I saw him.

My family didn't know I was dating him; they are very religious, and I don't believe in religion, so I can't discuss this with them. My friends are either working or starting the summer semester. I am losing it.

I have no privacy, I have no access to my stuff, I am barely sleeping, I miss my ex bf everyday. I miss him so much. I hate that he hurt me so much, but I still miss him. I love him. I'm still so in love with him, and I cannot picture myself with anyone else, but I need to have self-respect for myself and had to leave that relationship, but I feel terrified every day.

Everything is terrible. I am all alone. I am dealing with everything alone, and I am genuinely just losing it every day and am so lonely.

Does anyone have any advice or have gone through something similar? I really need some advice to move on. I can't even mourn my relationship proposal at home because of my circumstances.

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u/Helpful-Sympathy1364 — 14 days ago

Hi! I am F18 and have been having irregular periods since September 2025, with them being very late or not having them at all. I assumed it was just stress and anxiety of starting university, but I wanted to make sure that was the case as this has never been an issue for me.

My campus doctor prescribed my birth control to help even out my periods. I was a bit skeptical about it because he didn't really ask me any other questions besides "are you sexually active,ive" which I am, and just hurried the appointment along.

He told me to start the birth control when i get my next period, but I was a bit confused on how that would happen if my periods were irregular lol. I actually did,y end up getting my period in March, but it was late, my 4-5-ish days, with my period lasting march 18th to start on 22nd.

I started my birth control on the 22nd as instructed, but that was just a placebo week. My issue is that the following week I started it, I had already missed days 3 and 5 due to multiple reasons, but I know I should have been more on it to be taking them. On top of that, during placebo week, I got the sickest I've ever been in my life. I was fainting in my communal shower, couldn't stomach anything, had the craziest chills ever and couldn't even sleep.

I also experienced the worst symptoms from birth control. Dealing with the symptoms and the sickness, I decided to get off of it for my health and because finals were right around the corner.

I saw my bf easter weekend, and please no judgment, but we weren't as safe as we should have been. We had sex multiple times that 4 day weekend u protected. I want to say about maybe 5-6 times.

I understand that this was irresponsible, and I genuinely regret it because the people are right, 10 minutes of fun is not worth it sometimes lololol.

I ended up breaking up with my bf on April 17th, but have yet to have a period, and it's been 17 days late. I'm probably overreacting and its probabl just delayed because of stress and due to finals, moving, and unfortunate living circumstances, but I am panicking so much.

Me and my ex bf ended on good terms. Do I reach out to him and tell him what's going on? Do I take a test? Do I wait it out? I can't even take a test in my house because my family is very religious.

I am genuinely so anxious about this and am really struggling to figure out what to do. If anyone can offer me any advice, please let me know.

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u/Helpful-Sympathy1364 — 18 days ago