u/Herprolificjournal

I think I’m done. Why would I say yes when I can clearly see it’s just a mere transaction? Some people need dowry. Some people are after this because you look a certain way and they have a handsome son who deserves better. Others want you just because you have a certain degree. People care about the body that’s going to rot. What about emotional compatibility? The feeling of loneliness when you have a partner right next to you… unfulfilling marriages

I think I’m done trying to carry a connection alone.

Met this guy through arranged marriage setup. In the beginning I kept giving benefit of doubt because he’s busy, different timezone, work pressure etc. But slowly I realized I was always the one reaching out first. Texting first. Calling first. Trying to keep conversations alive. Trying to understand him.

Whenever I texted, replies came hours later or conversations got postponed: “Call later” “Will talk once I’m back” “I’ll call in sometime”

But that “later” rarely came.

And what hurts isn’t even delayed replies. It’s the lack of curiosity. Not once did I truly feel emotionally seen. No real questions about how I’m doing, what I’m feeling, what’s going on in my mind. Conversations felt dry, surface-level, practical.

 I finally gathered courage and called him despite feeling stupid for trying again. His tone felt distant, almost frustrated that I called. Said he's not well and would call later. Never did.

And something in me just went quiet after that.

I’m tired of decoding mixed signals. Tired of overextending my heart to keep something alive that maybe only exists from my side emotionally.

I’ve realized I value emotional depth, consistency, warmth, curiosity. I can’t spend my life begging for basic emotional presence.

Maybe this experience taught me that I need to stop abandoning myself trying to earn connection.

For now, I just want my peace back. My routines. My own life again.

Felt like he was trying to get rid of this connection.

Now that I’ve tried my best, I won’t have any regrets. I’ll quietly disappear from his life. Won’t block him or deactivate my socials — I just won’t reach out anymore.

I’ve done enough.

Did anyone else ever walk away not because there was a big fight or betrayal — but simply because the emotional effort was one-sided for too long?

26F, mbbs , looking for a partner from the same medical field.

Kanyakubja Brahmin preferred, with a family based in Madhya Pradesh.

Strictly vegetarian and a complete non-smoker/non-drinker.

Seeking someone who is religious/spiritual, emotionally available, mature, and older than me.

I’m 5'6", so preferably looking for someone 5'10" or taller.

A flexible, understanding mindset and strong family values are important to me.

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Ps- Sick-minded people in the comments… guys, look at yourselves. This is you.

Hate is real guys. It's my personal choice.

And PPL crying in comments 😂 Yes please, reject me.

Ahh I forgot I'm supposed to do inter religious marriage for the sake of equality.

Pathetic. I don’t need to marry a foreigner to prove that I’m educated. It’s a personal choice. How educated are you to judge someone for having preferences

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Marrying someone from the same caste is evil.. WHATTT It’s evil only when I harm someone. Marrying someone from the same community — how is that harming anybody enough to be considered evil?

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Coz I need to write after seeing absurd comments. EDIT

My dad is in a government job thanks to reservation. My grandfather also got a government job using a caste certificate, thanks to reservation. Yet somehow, I’m still considered oppressed and poor.

I’ll be taking a seat from a poor guy who scored 200+ marks more than me in an exam because I’m “oppressed.” But trust me, I believe in equality.

Meanwhile, I want to marry within my own community… and suddenly I’m the “bloody casteist.”

WAKEUP GIRLS

That’s why it’s important for girls to work out and be strong enough to punch them in the face... PROTECTING DIGNITY AT ALL COSTS🌸

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An eye-opener for every girl out there, unaware of how many people already hate them simply for existing.

Children must be raised well

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I’m a bit confused about what stage I’m in with someone and wanted outside perspective.

We connected through a matrimony setup. Our families have met and both families have verbally said they’ve decided positively from their side. It’s a respectful, serious family setup — not casual dating.

The catch is: he currently lives in another country for work/training, so I’ve only met his family so far, not him in person yet. We’ve spoken through calls/messages and get along well when we talk.

Both of our matrimony profiles are still active though, which adds to my confusion.

The current plan from both families is:

• we’ll meet properly when he comes back in a couple of months
• and if things continue well, we may wait around 1–1.5 years before marriage so both of us can focus on career growth first

Communication-wise, we talk maybe once a week on average. When we do talk, conversations are good and engaged, but he’s not someone who texts constantly.

So I’m confused about how to emotionally view this situation:

• Is this basically still “early getting-to-know-each-other” stage where once-a-week communication is normal?
• Or should this already be treated more like an exclusive/committed connection because families have already informally agreed?

I think my confusion comes from not knowing what expectations are reasonable at this stage.

How often should I text /call him given he has a really busy schedule?