u/HeyILoveYa

PLEASE learn how street parking works and how much space your vehicle takes up- bit of a vent, bit of a psa, bit of a “is anyone else dealing with this”

I've lived in this city for going on 5 years, I'm 21.
I've been driving for 3 of those years, and have had to adjust to street and parallel parking. it was tricky to learn, but i had to do it, because what other choice is there?

i’ve recently discovered that there is, in fact, another choice- and it is to act like we are in gta and just zoom around without looking or giving much of a fuck at all.

I don't know what's in the air recently, but over the past month or so, my car has been hit no less than THREE times. It's getting funny at this point.

I was sideswiped once before, 2 years ago by a kid pulling out of a spot near vcu. it was his parents’ car, he started crying, i got a fat insurance payout, no biggie. i forgave and forgot.
since then everything's been fine… until now

what is the deal?!

1.I was driving in Oregon Hill on a one way street-a dude pulled out of a parking spot along the sidewalk without signaling or looking and rammed right into my car. This caused $2k in damage (I was declared not at fault and am getting paid out, but not before a lengthy battle with insurance and cops since the other driver was not giving correct info and was not cooperative)

2. THREE DAYS later, across town, a man in a parking garage quickly reversed and switched lanes while reversing (??) with no warning, hitting my car and denting my front bumper.

3. today, a woman in carytown tried to parallel park and hit my car once again. There was plenty of space between the cars, she just wasn'tpaying attention or looking in her mirror.

every time the other driver has admitted to being in the wrong. I have a kinda crappy car so it's not the end of the world, but has anyone else noticed an increase in irresponsible driving/ parking?
It's honestly driving me crazy.

Most of these are new cars with backup cameras and safety features. i have a shitty 2010 sonata with none of that, yet somehow i have yet to hit someone.

is it like… a false sense of safety (due to cameras and features) and therefore complacency? or are people genuinely this dumb?

3 times in a month is wild, i’m sorry. with the pedestrian deaths and overall carelessness, i am lucky that it’s just my car that’s gotten hit. i’m glad im getting paid out for all this, thanks, i guess, but holy shit.

i’ve been watching a bunch of older videos lately and genuinely cannot tell if nik’s nipples are edited or not. no hate to the guy, it’s not his fault if they are large and in charge, and it’s not a problem- but i legit cannot make sense of it.

in some videos they look normal, just dark lol but in other clips they’re so very prominent.

thank u for any insight 💕

it’s like every other week i see a new good samaritan setting up a community fridge or pantry, and it’s quickly and repeatedly destroyed or vandalized.

what’s the point? why break something that is only there for the good of the community? something that legitimately does NO harm to anyone?

people always bring up mental health crises, etc, and while i understand the empathy and appreciated the perspective for the first 2-3 times, it seems that the destruction of these things happens constantly. there is no excuse. at some point we’ve got to start allowing ourselves to get a lil pissed. those in crisis deserve help and support, but there is no valid reason for breaking down and destroying something that was there for the good of the community, whether intentionally/in your right mind or otherwise.

it genuinely breaks my heart for our city and for those who benefit from the fridges and pantries. i truly hope no one is going out with hate in their heart and intentionally breaking these places of comfort and kindness- and if it’s a mental health issue, i wish nothing but calm support and stability for those going thru it. you’ve gotta be in a really dark place to do something so awful. i hope they can get out of it. this whole situation just makes me so sad.

my boyfriend and i have been together about 2 years, and have known each other even longer. i adore him and it is reciprocal.

about 6 months ago, his schedule has changed and our time together/talking is very limited. he’s working nights and it (along with other factors) has rlly taken a toll on our relationship. i have been going thru major anxiety spirals and he is always on abt 3 hrs of sleep and doesn’t have the energy to be my comfort, but feels bad and gets stressed out himself. we bickered constantly.

he sat me down recently and said something’s gotta give. i agree. neither of us wanted to break up, and i don’t take “breaks” (at that point just leave lol) so we agreed on a middle ground where we give each other space to grow and improve as people, talking significantly less, etc until we are both in a better and stronger mental place.

he’ll be off night shift in about a week so i anticipate that to help.

anyway. it’s been 2 weeks since we decided to take space, and he’s sending me the worst mixed signals ever. we have plans coming up (concerts, outings) and he’s iffy on whether we shld go or if it’s too soon after this big blowout. however, he’s texting me continually nd being sweet still- not AS open and lovey as before, but still like we act like we are back to where we started.

do i set the boundary and say enough is enough, you need to give me the space YOU asked for or just be normal? i’m confused and don’t know where we stand. it’s like he’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. i want to work on ourselves, like we agreed to do, but staying apart is hard. our boundaries are fucked up and all over the place.

any tips on resolving this and moving forward? thanks :)

EDIT FOR CLARITY- we are still together and loyal to each other. this little arrangement does not affect our monogamy. we made this very clear

Hi! I was just selected for an interview for a receptionist role at a major local public media company.

I have been working for the company (first as an intern, now as a freelancer) for 6 months, but that job was content-focused instead of administrative. So I’m kind of an internal candidate, but in different department yk?

This receptionist role pays $50k with benefits, and as a new college grad I could REALLY use that kind of money. I’ve never had an interview for this sort of job before, and am a mildly-alternative 21 yr old. I am trying to figure out how to present myself for the interview (it’s over zoom) and what your interview processes were like at your respective workplaces!

Thanks so much for any advice or input!!

i’ve (21f) been with my boyfriend (24m) for almost 2 years, and he’s definitely on the bigger end- giving head isn’t my favorite thing to do because of this. It hurts my mouth and I have to try continually not to gag.

up until today, i’ve done a good job of keeping it in and not actually throwing up. he told me a horror story abt a time years back where a girl did puke all over him, and how awful it was- he felt bad ofc but it was still a yucky experience. so i was hyper aware

but a little bit ago it finally happened. i threw up in my mouth RIGHT as he was about to finish.

i held it there because he was so close and i didn’t want to tell him or ruin the moment

and it was such a horrifying experience havin both puke and a penis and semen all in my mouth at once

as soon as he was done i SPRINTED to the bathroom to spit it all out but now im honestly scared to give head again. he didn’t even rlly notice anything was wrong, and i guess i was a trooper about it, but i just can’t fathom risking that another time

if yall have any advice to get past this lmk, or maybe you will find entertainment in this story, idk

just needed to tell someone :’)

I’ve lived in this city for four years. Not once have I been pulled over, or gotten in any trouble at all. I’m a safe driver by all accounts, and follow the rules of the road.

However, in the past month or so, I’ve had at least 3 red light camera citations mailed to my house. These are $50 each, and all are completely nitpicky and ridiculous. Each happened around 7am. I saw th videos/pics the camera took- turns out if you turn on a yellow, they will take a pic and fine you.

If you turn right on red, they will fine you for that too apparently. Even without No turn signage.

The only solution is to stop completely and not turn unless it’s pretty much just turned green- but when i’ve tried that, people behind me honk and yell. Which is understandable. Because you’d expect that you can turn right on red…

I have had to change my route completely to avoid Cary and Belvedere, because of the amount of tickets received. I drive this way every day for work and have never had this happen until very recently.

Upon further research, it seems there’s no way to even go in and contest these. I just wanted to warn yall because it seems this is a new program they’re doing, and it’s completely automated. Be careful.