u/Hideandseek14101

I’m 32, single and feeling incredibly stuck in what you call the "Splinter Era"(the life stage in your 30s when close friends start moving in different directions). Every single week, another friend announces an engagement or a baby.

Meanwhile, my reality looks completely different. I went out a lot with my friends in my 20s and dated a few guys but nothing was ever successful. And now in my 30s, for the past two years, I have been caring for my mother (I know I didn't have to, but I mentally could not relax knowing she was suffering). I have now placed her in a memory care home, but I am still having to handle other aspects of her life (finances, cleaning out her home, dealing with her insurance/taxes/etc.)

Between my responsibilities and trying to survive, I have zero time for myself to date, let alone meet someone. My ultimate goal in life is to fall in love with the right person, but right now, it feels impossible to even try...

How do you protect your peace when friends are hitting major milestones but you haven't been able to hit any? How do I open myself up to love when I'm already carrying so much emotionally and mentally?

I just feel so down about it right now. I try not to compare my life to my friends' lives, but they are all having so much fun. When do I get to have fun? 

I’m 32, single and feeling incredibly stuck in what you call the "Splinter Era".(the life stage in your 30s when close friends start moving in different directions). Every single week, another friend announces an engagement or a baby.

Meanwhile, my reality looks completely different: for the past two years, I have been caring for my mother dealing with a life debilitating illness. I have now placed her in a memory care home, but I am still having to handle all other aspects of her life (finances, cleaning out her home, dealing with her insurance/taxes/etc.)

Between my responsibilities and trying to survive, I have zero time for myself to date, let alone meet someone. My ultimate goal in life is to fall in love with the right person, but right now, it feels impossible to even try...

How do you protect your peace when friends are hitting major milestones but you haven't been able to hit any? How do I open myself up to love when my time is not my own?

I know this is a topic comes up a lot here. I just feel so down about it right now. I try not to compare my life to my friends' lives, but they are all having so much fun. When do I get to have fun? 

it is truly unfathomable to me how assisted living homes allow alcohol

my mother needs to be in a home with professional care but none will accept her because of her behavior with booze. i’m at a loss. i fucking hate how alcohol is EVERYWHERE. ALL. THE. TIME.

happened 3 times to me in the last 6 months. wtf??

anyone have experience transitioning their parent into assisted or supportive living? any thoughts or advice welcome

she doesn't explicitly say it to me. but i know she doesn't want to be living anymore. i just put her in rehab and plan to put her into assisted living after, trying to get her to focus on the little things like taking a walk or going out to eat. but she's given up, and just hates being alive :(

it pains me to see her so weak, depressed and defeated.

i took her to the ER but dont really know where to go from here. everything in her home was soiled. she hasn't showered in weeks or probably months. what do i do from here?

it’s excruciating and happens at least once a month. i can’t handle it.

she hasn’t answered her phone in a few days. we are supposed to meet with a lawyer next week to update her Will and power of attorney and other important documents. idk what to do.

has anyone dealt with having an ex in the same friend group? how do you go about events and seeing each other?

my friend's husband is friends with my ex. they are how we (me and my ex) met in the first place. luckily, the friends are already married so we dont have to attend a wedding where we'd see each other, but there is an event this weekend that my friends are hosting and i'm not sure if i should attend or not.

my friends are all going, and im 99% sure my ex and his new gf will be there. i really have no problem seeing him (it will be the first time we see each other in person though since we broke up), but i dont want to ruffle any feathers with her (new gf) by me just being there. idk. im torn on what to do.

I just binged this show and LOVED IT.

the vibe reminded me a ton of TSITP & Tell Me Lies - these are my fav types of shows!!! I know they're based of novel series, questions:

should I read the books?? do they go more into Logan's backstory? I have an alcoholic mother too so I really resonated with him in the show.

any other book series suggestions that are similar to this, TSITP, Tell Me Lies etc.?