u/Historical-Care70

This December, it will be 3 years of NC with my parents. During that whole time, I always planned on reconnecting with them at some point. At a minimum, me saying my piece as peacefully as I can. At some point, figuring out how I want them in my life.

But I don't know if I'm ready yet. The years of distance were necessary to detox and hear my own voice, but I feel like I'm still deconstructing and putting myself back together. My life is also the worst it's ever been — no friends (close or otherwise), no partner — and I don't want them to think I'm just reaching back out because I'm desperate, when really, I've thought about them all this time.

Yet...they're heading toward their late 60s. Anything can happen, old age or accidents or otherwise. I don't want to miss my window, you know?

I'd appreciate anyone else's thoughts or kind words right now.

I was hanging out with "Chris" and our other friends yesterday at Chris's place. Chris and I are sitting on the couch chilling while everyone else is talking with each other and suddenly I smell a stank smell. I jokingly ask Chris, "oh my gosh did you fucking fart?" (which Chris HAS done before, at least a couple of times over the past few years I've known him, farting silently and pretending it's not him then laughingly owning up it or whatnot).

And he looks at me, "girl maybe that's your pussy." And he was joking back but I could tell he was a bit offended I asked — even though no one else heard us — and I told him, "that's a little too far. i really don't like jokes like that." To which he says "you're talking about my body, accusing me of farting" but I don't feel like it's the same (especially when he fucking FARTS) + Chris took it a little too far. AITB?

Hi, "Lisa!" (not her real name obv)

I wanted to give you some context before our appointment Tuesday. This past week I have been the most suicidal I've ever felt. I have experienced suicidal ideation since late 2025 — this is the first time in my life I have experienced this and I have disclosed this to my brother. I'm safe right now and don't have current intent to act, but I wanted you to have this before we meet so we can use our future sessions together well. Thank you.

OR this one?

Hi Lisa!

I wanted to give you some context before our appointment Tuesday. This past week I have been the most suicidal I've ever felt. I have experienced suicidal ideation since late 2025, including having thought through a specific method. This is the first time in my life I have experienced this and I have disclosed this to my brother. I'm safe right now and don't have current intent to act, but I wanted you to have this before we meet so we can use our future sessions together well. Thank you.

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Bottom teeth ever so slightly impacted, top two completely out (and decaying fast).

Taking these suckers out next month. If I skip their "Infiltration of Sustained Release Therapeutic Drug" (a nerve block, I think?), I save $430, bringing my OOP total to $1027. If I get it, then $1,457 for the removal.

Is it worth it, or can I survive wisdom teeth removal with ibuprofen and tylenol alone?

Hi! I’m a 29-year-old Black woman currently in DFW. I’m single, have no children, and I work remote in communications making 75K.

I'm considering these three cities because I value walkability, diversity, and safety. As a very close bonus, I want close access to nature too. These cities seem to provide these 3-4 things, according to my research.

So, what's the tea? For people who've lived here, would you move to Chattanooga? Richmond? Greenville?

What is the diversity like?

Are they really walkable (you can go without a car)?

What's the safety like?

Edit: Everyone is telling me to stay away from Greenville. Noted! That's not an option anymore lol.

29F. I'm considering these three cities because I value walkability, diversity, and safety. As a very close bonus, I want close access to nature too. These cities seem to provide these 3-4 things, according to my research.

So, what's the tea? For people who've lived here, would you move to Chattanooga? Richmond? Greenville?

What is the diversity like?

Are they really walkable (you can go without a car)?

What's the safety like?

Edit: Noting that I'll visit all these places before moving officially, ofc.

TL;DR My coworker is accusing my ex/close friend, "Simon", of semi-cheating on me during our non-monogamous relationship because she says Simon went on a date he never told me about while we were together. AITB for asking Simon if he went on the date?

I am close friends with my ex, "Simon." We were together for 2 years and we had a non-monogamous relationship. While I dated other partners, Simon chose to not date anyone else + it's partly the reason why we broke up: Simon always avoided talking about our relationship structure but I could tell he wasn't fully happy with it + I had to realize we'd be better as just friends instead.

Recently, my coworker/friend told me that her sister thinks she may have went on a date with Simon two years ago. Her sister didn't remember what the man exactly looked like, but he was the same race, same background (recent transplant with separated parents), and same name.

I thought Simon didn't date anyone while we were together, which he told me over and over. I know it was just a date — if it even happened — but consent is everything in non-monogamy and it would be unethical if he lied about a date while I was very upfront about every person I dated. I also understand our relationship is over but I'd also prefer not to be friends with a liar who possibly cheated, so I asked Simon if he went on this date and he said no. (Bolding because this is important!) My coworker and her sister still think Simon is lying though.

Now I admit some other details don't add up. Her sister says they went to a Korean BBQ place and Simon hates Korean BBQ. And usually when Simon is lying, it's so easy to tell because he gets nervous, but he's been laughing this entire thing off + keeps saying the sister is mistaking him for someone else.

Anyway, I was talking about it the other night with Simon and "Chris", my best friend, also friends with Simon. Chris has some trauma with being cheated on in the past so he's been sensitive about this whole situation. And we had some other friends over the other night — another coworker/friend of mine, "Jessie", and another friend, "Leah" — and I gave them the spill on the situation.

Simon is also getting really defensive this time and while I'm trying to be neutral + just let the truth come out in due time, I propose the idea for Simon to FaceTime the sister to see if she remembers him, which he agrees to because he's getting really anxious about clearing his name. Chris also says he wants to stop talking about it because he's uncomfortable and if Simon is lying, he will not be friends with Simon anymore.

Then Leah says "I think things are getting blown out of proportion", which kinda pisses me off (being possibly betrayed is not a small thing) but I decide to just change the conversation. But now Leah is acting off with me + I'm trying to reflect if I'm the buttface in this situation.

TL;DR My coworker is accusing my ex/close friend, "Simon", of semi-cheating on me during our non-monogamous relationship because she says Simon went on a date he never told me about while we were together. AITB for asking Simon if he went on the date?

I am close friends with my ex, "Simon." We were together for 2 years and we had a non-monogamous relationship. While I dated other partners, Simon chose to not date anyone else + it's partly the reason why we broke up: Simon always avoided talking about our relationship structure but I could tell he wasn't fully happy with it + I had to realize we'd be better as just friends instead.

Recently, my coworker/friend told me that her sister thinks she may have went on a date with Simon two years ago. Her sister didn't remember what the man exactly looked like, but he was the same race, same background (recent transplant with separated parents), and same name.

I thought Simon didn't date anyone while we were together, which he told me over and over. I know it was just a date — if it even happened — but consent is everything in non-monogamy and it would be unethical if he lied about a date while I was very upfront about every person I dated. I also understand our relationship is over but I'd also prefer not to be friends with a liar who possibly cheated, so I asked Simon if he went on this date and he said no. (Bolding because this is important!) My coworker and her sister still think Simon is lying though.

Now I admit some other details don't add up. Her sister says they went to a Korean BBQ place and Simon hates Korean BBQ. And usually when Simon is lying, it's so easy to tell because he gets nervous, but he's been laughing this entire thing off + keeps saying the sister is mistaking him for someone else.

Anyway, I was talking about it the other night with Simon and "Chris", my best friend, also friends with Simon. Chris has some trauma with being cheated on in the past so he's been sensitive about this whole situation. And we had some other friends over the other night — another coworker/friend of mine, "Jessie", and another friend, "Leah" — and I gave them the spill on the situation.

Simon is also getting really defensive this time and while I'm trying to be neutral + just let the truth come out in due time, I propose the idea for Simon to FaceTime the sister to see if she remembers him, which he agrees to because he's getting really anxious about clearing his name. Chris also says he wants to stop talking about it because he's uncomfortable and if Simon is lying, he will not be friends with Simon anymore.

Then Leah says "I think things are getting blown out of proportion", which kinda pisses me off (being possibly betrayed is not a small thing) but I decide to just change the conversation. But now Leah is acting off with me + I'm trying to reflect if I'm the buttface in this situation.

TL;DR My coworker is accusing my ex/close friend, "Simon", of semi-cheating on me during our non-monogamous relationship because she says Simon went on a date he never told me about while we were together. AITB for asking Simon if he went on the date?

I am close friends with my ex, "Simon." We were together for 2 years and we had a non-monogamous relationship. While I dated other partners, Simon chose to not date anyone else + it's partly the reason why we broke up: Simon always avoided talking about our relationship structure but I could tell he wasn't fully happy with it + I had to realize we'd be better as just friends instead.

Recently, my coworker/friend told me that her sister thinks she may have went on a date with Simon two years ago. Her sister didn't remember what the man exactly looked like, but he was the same race, same background (recent transplant with separated parents), and same name.

I thought Simon didn't date anyone while we were together, which he told me over and over. I know it was just a date — if it even happened — but consent is everything in non-monogamy and it would be unethical if he lied about a date while I was very upfront about every person I dated. I also understand our relationship is over but I'd also prefer not to be friends with a liar who possibly cheated, so I asked Simon if he went on this date and he said no. (Bolding because this is important!) My coworker and her sister still think Simon is lying though.

Now I admit some other details don't add up. Her sister says they went to a Korean BBQ place and Simon hates Korean BBQ. And usually when Simon is lying, it's so easy to tell because he gets nervous, but he's been laughing this entire thing off + keeps saying the sister is mistaking him for someone else.

Anyway, I was talking about it the other night with Simon and "Chris", my best friend, also friends with Simon. Chris has some trauma with being cheated on in the past so he's been sensitive about this whole situation. And we had some other friends over the other night — another coworker/friend of mine, "Jessie", and another friend, "Leah" — and I gave them the spill on the situation.

Simon is also getting really defensive this time and while I'm trying to be neutral + just let the truth come out in due time, I propose the idea for Simon to FaceTime the sister to see if she remembers him, which he agrees to because he's getting really anxious about clearing his name. Chris also says he wants to stop talking about it because he's uncomfortable and if Simon is lying, he will not be friends with Simon anymore.

Then Leah says "I think things are getting blown out of proportion", which kinda pisses me off (being possibly betrayed is not a small thing) but I decide to just change the conversation. But now Leah is acting off with me + I'm trying to reflect if I'm the buttface in this situation.

Especially if you're in a 1-bedroom apartment. I'm in a 716 sq ft. space and I paid $86 for electricity the past month. Trying to see if that's too much or a reasonable price.

Edit: I keep my A/C at 78° when it's on, but I turn it off often, especially when I leave the house.