u/Historical-Care70

Slow, tender, heart-to-heart sex with the person they love? Or are they always snarky assholes and can't be serious and vulnerable for even one moment?

One reason why some women have chronic pain after surgery (after previously having NONE) is because of adhesions and scar tissue.

Now I'm doing research into NaPro doctors who are ringing the alarm about adhesion prevention. The surgeon I'll be seeing in June isn't NaPro, but a highly skilled, highly recommended endo specialist.

He mentioned some things he does to prevent adhesions (films like SEPRA or Interceed, and pelvic floor therapy) but apparently that isn't enough sometimes. Latest thing on the block is pelvioplasty and many other treatments to stave off adhesions and scar tissue.

What did you doctor do to keep adhesions and scar tissue to a minimum?

So...I'm a 29-year-old virgin. But I definitely want to have a normal, healthy sex life in the future and have kids.

I do tell the nurses that I've never been sexually active before, but one time my surgeon asked me in our consult if I have pain with intimacy and I said no...which is kind of a lie?

I can't answer if I have pain with intimacy. I do use a dildo sometimes, but not deep enough or a long enough (time wise) to answer if pain with sex is one of my symptoms.

Idk, does it have any impact on this whole process to have never been sexually active?

The main reason why some women have chronic pain after surgery (after previously having NONE) is because of adhesions and scar tissue.

Now I'm doing research into NaPro doctors who are ringing the alarm about adhesion prevention. The surgeon I'll be seeing in June isn't NaPro, but a highly skilled, highly recommended endo specialist.

He mentioned some things he does to prevent adhesions (films like SEPRA or Interceed, and pelvic floor therapy) but apparently that isn't enough sometimes. Latest thing on the block is pelvioplasty and many other treatments to stave off adhesions and scar tissue.

What did you doctor do to keep adhesions and scar tissue to a minimum?

Or rather, what should my brother ask my surgeon since I'll still be out of it? 😂

Thankfully, I'll be staying in the hospital overnight, so I will be more conscious in the morning to ask him questions.

What do you wish you asked your surgeon immediately after surgery?

Or rather, what should my brother ask my surgeon since I'll still be out of it? 😂

Thankfully, I'll be staying in the hospital overnight, so I will be more conscious in the morning to ask him questions.

What do you wish you asked your surgeon immediately after surgery?

My MRI found no endo, but showed I have one kidney in my torso and one in my pelvic area. During fetal development, both kidneys start in the pelvis, and both eventually rise to the torso, but for some people, one kidney is a lazy ass and stays put.

Any pelvic kidneys out there? How did your lap surgery go?

For those who had a lap surgery, what do you wish you could tell your pre-surgery self, shake their shoulders, and tell them to do or not to do?

For those who had a lap surgery, what do you wish you could tell your pre-surgery self, shake their shoulders, and tell them to do or not to do?

Sigh. The past 6 months have been tough. I've already been estranged from my parents the past few years. Then in the fall, I lost the few friendships I had (long story). This on top of never having a partner before and dealing with a lot of loneliness-related trauma from growing up, and I hit a severe depression the past few months. Quite literally, the only person I have in my life is my brother, and I'm so grateful he's taking care of me after surgery.

So I'm already going through sobbing spells and curtains-drawn-all-day depression days, but I also need this surgery, which is in 2 weeks.

I hear people get post-surgical depression, and that's people with solid support systems and great outcomes. I think the hardest thing about surgery will be how I'm feeling emotionally afterward and I am truly scared. I need relief, but I'm scared of what I might need to go through to get it.

Has anyone else gone through something similar, can share advice or encouragement?

Edit: People are giving a lot of advice on physical recovery, which is fine, but I already know those things. Take it slow, stay occupied, and so on. I'm talking about emotionally, though. I'm going to be doing all of those things alone, like I've been alone all my life, and it is emotionally devastating.

Sigh. The past 6 months have been tough. I've already been estranged from my parents the past few years. Then in the fall, I lost the few friendships I had (long story). This on top of never having a partner before and dealing with a lot of loneliness-related trauma from growing up, and I hit a severe depression the past few months. Quite literally, the only person I have in my life is my brother, and I'm so grateful he's taking care of me after surgery.

So I'm already going through sobbing spells and curtains-drawn-all-day depression days, but I also need this surgery, which is in 2 weeks.

I hear people get experience post-surgical depression, and that's people with solid support systems and great outcomes. I think the hardest thing about surgery will be how I'm feeling emotionally afterward and I am truly scared. I need relief, but I'm scared of what I might need to go through to get it.

Has anyone else gone through something similar, can share advice or encouragement?

Edit: People are giving a lot of advice on physical recovery, which is fine, but I already know those things. Take it slow, stay occupied, and so on. I'm talking about emotionally, though. I'm going to be doing all of those things alone, like I've been alone all my life, and it is emotionally devastating.

Y'all, I used to be 185lbs in July 2024. Two years of hard work, with several intended and accidental diet breaks along the way 😅, and I'm 131lb this morning!

That's just from a 1500Kcal/day deficit, but I recently added daily 6 mile walks to hit 127lb goal by early June. Then I'll be getting a major surgery, will start eating at maintenance, will take a month to recover, then if all goes well, I'm going back to strength training and recomping from here on out!

Wish me luck!

29, have been on one (horrible) date in my life, never kissed or dated or had sex. A combo of very controlling parents and failing at finding a partner via hobbies and online dating from my mid-20s onward.

I don't want children now, but I do know I want them for the future. If being super lonely and inexperienced wasn't bad enough, apparently my fertility clock is running out.

I'm assuming I need to start dating like it's my job if I want to have children in the future, right?

Edit: I should clarify I'm not aromantic/asexual, I do not want to parent solo, I want a romantic relationship for my own enjoyment and to one day have children within.

29, have been on one (horrible) date in my life, never kissed or dated or had sex. A combo of very controlling parents and failing at finding a partner via hobbies and online dating from my mid-20s onward.

I don't want children now, but I do know I want them for the future. If being super lonely and inexperienced wasn't bad enough, apparently my fertility clock is running out.

I'm assuming I need to start dating like it's my job if I want to have children in the future, right?

Edit: I should clarify I'm not aromantic/asexual, I do not want to parent solo, I want a romantic relationship for my own enjoyment and to one day have children within.

Wedge pillows seem highly recommended on here. I picked up one from Walmart, it felt uncomfortable af, returned it hella fast lol.

Which wedge pillow would you recommend?

Wedge pillows seem highly recommended on here. I picked up one from Walmart, it felt uncomfortable af, returned it hella fast lol.

Which wedge pillow would you recommend?