u/Historical_Work7482

I come from a very traditional culture. I'm the first woman in my family to have moved abroad and pursued a master's. I was (and still am) excited to make something out of my life.

Now I'm about to graduate and am working on my thesis. I also just left an abusive relationship. Recently , I have also had some bad things (sexual assaults) happen. There's not a lot of time left before I graduate.

I'm not able to manage everything. I can barely keep up my schedule. I keep getting stuck in the scrolling loop. If I'm not scrolling, I'm crying. I feel very hurt emotionally and I can't take it.

I also haven't been able to get a job yet. This is the time I need to completely lock in and do everything. I can barely get myself through the day.

I have student loans , and if I don't get a job I'll have to leave the country. My family back home is coercing me to get married. My home country is also not a good place for women to be in. I'm scared I'll have to go back and that I'll be forced to marry. I'm scared that I won't be able to make it after coming this far. Yet whenever I try to pick myself up, I just can't take the pain.

- Left me alone while I was unconscious and needed medical attention.

-when I brought up things that made me uncomfortable and asked him why he did that, replied that spending time with me is annoying because I ask him questions.

-looking at girls passing by and saying looking at other women makes him feel romantic.

- nitpicked every single thing I did. When I cooked I had to cut vegetables using the exact technique he wanted me to use so I didn't annoy him.

-Always showed up on time to other people's appointments. Always cancelled appointments with me at the last minute.

-His schedule was very important to him , but mine wasn't.

-Told me that I pretend to be kind because it gives me control over him. I broke up after this.

- He came back after that and said he will work on it. (He didn't)

- Went to sleep while I was crying naked. This is hands down one of the saddest memories of my life.

- Was very sexual at the beginning and it faded eventually.

-Hit me because I asked him why he didn't have dinner with me when I was in front of him.

-Hit me again a few weeks later.

-I left. He came back again and said he went to therapy and tried his best to take me back. This was right before my birthday and he did basically nothing during it (he made instant noodles I didn't like)

-Said he would help me through my exams. Kicked me out midnight just the night before my exam because he needed space.

-Lied about his past relationship. I think he told me more lies but I didn't look into it.

-Secretly went to the place I wanted to go with him for weeks, with his friends. Always magically had time for friends.

-when I said I won't tolerate it anymore, broke up with me.

- back again asking me to take him back. (2 weeks later)

- randomly shut me out and started going silent. At some point I begged him to speak. Shut me out of his place and blocked me.

- wanted to break up again. (Here I stopped interacting much with him and let him do his thing like me therapist adviced)

- asked me to take him back again.

- wanted to break up again.

- Shut me out again. At this point it made me self harm myself because I couldn't take the pain.

- wanted me back again.

- break up again.

-after this he still tried to do intimate things. I didn't agree this time.

I'm looking for someone to date. I'm looking for a serious long term relationship. I'm bisexual and am open to dating both men and women. I'm looking for someone who's emotionally intelligent, knows what they want in a relationship and knows what they want their future to look like, and are actively working towards it.

Someone who wants to make a difference. It would be ideal if you are vegan/vegetarian, since my past relationships didn't work out because of this. It would also be ideal if you are not avoidant, since I'm currently healing from a breakup with an avoidant person. Also, please don't DM me if you are more than 4 years older/2 years younger than me.

A little bit about me :

I'm from India and I'm currently pursuing a master's degree in Sweden. I'm ambitious, I like to work and I don't see myself having kids in the future. My main line of study/work is AI, it's impact on society and how this can be translated into business models. I also frequently join discussions and events on technology and power. I like baking, cooking, roller blading, piano and origami.

I care about the environment and am vegetarian. I'm currently working towards being vegan. Lookwise, I look pretty average.I do best with people who are as empathetic as me. I'm okay with starting online, but would eventually like to meet in person. I'm not religious, but I tend towards Buddhism.

P.s if you dm me, It would be ideal to have a conversation and see if we are compatible, and decide on a chat schedule later. I can only focus on one thing at a time and cannot chat constantly. If this feels like someone you would be interested in, leave me a dm! Looking forward to talk to you! :)

(If I don't leave a reply, please assume that my inbox is full)

So, I(24F) am the first woman in my family to leave for another country to study in a high ranking university and the first woman to be published.

At the beginning my extended family didn't expect much from me. They did say some weird things, but I didn't pay a lot of attention to it.

Fast forward to now, I'm doing well and better in my studies. Everyone back home has suddenly started bringing up marriage more often. They have started to say things like "women shouldn't be too educated, it doesn't look good" "who will marry her?" " what will she do by studying so much?"

My mother who was very supportive has now started coercing me to agree for an arranged marriage situation. I'm holding my ground firmly, but God, does it feel depressing. I have no plans of marriage for least five years from now. I'm an ambitious woman, I don't want kids and I don't want to be sahm.

The comments are becoming more and more extreme, with them telling my parents that I'm "too free" now. My cousins leaked information about them planning to "show" me to prospective grooms as soon as I fly in this winter, without my consent or agreement.

It's sad. I feel hurt and objectified. I've accomplished some things in my life. I thought that matters. I thought I would be seen as someone with a bright future. The fact that they see me as someone who just needs to be married soon makes me feel like everything else is a blank canvas. It hurts. I have a lot more potential than that.

I'm 24 and have a lot of student debt. I'm working on an internship but it is unpaid. At the moment I need to balance my studies and internship, but the war made the costs skyrocket and I'm struggling a lot.

I don't have the time to apply for proper well paying jobs. I'm barely balancing everything as is. I'm too ashamed to ask my parents. My bf is earning well, and I thought he would split the bills more evenly but he still insists everything be fifty fifty. I genuinely don't know if I can make it through the next month without assistance.

All of this has been very stressful, and I genuinely don't know if I can make it without my parents' assistance, which I'm too scared to ask for. My debt is crippling, the job market is not good , I have no time, no emotional or physical support. I feel tired and overwhelmed.

24F, broke up with my bf. I need to talk to someone daily so I can fill some of the void that's left and don't give a chance to the guy no matter what.

I live in Sweden, no I'm not Swedish, and I would prefer someone in the same timezone. Even better if we can meet up. I'm looking for platonic friendships only.

A bit about me : I like to talk about different things. As of this moment I'm very invested in the relationship between technology and power. I like talking about emerging technologies and how they will shape our future. I'm vegan, and I'm not religious. I like to bake, cook and read books.

I'm looking for someone who is emotionally intelligent, has a healthy amount of screen time and is interested in talking. Ideally someone ±3 years

Leave a dm if this resonates with you.