My Update is at the bottom of the post along with TLDR
About 3 weeks ago my GF(26F) of 8 years has broken up with me(28M) and now is severely addicted to watching and streaming TikTok Live. She has recently installed TikTok in December and was hooked since realizing she can make it into a dream of hers becoming a social media star, It was not an issue in the beginning since most of her streams were a couple hours long and having light conversations with strangers from anywhere around the world. An important note to add is since I've known her she was always a huge fan of kpop, korean dramas and pretty much anything related to south korea. About a month into streaming she started to find her footing in the tiktok community and believes her best way of growing a following and building herself is to flirt with others to gain attraction and their follow. I told her I found it disrespectful and was not comfortable with it, She told me there is nothing to worry about and that the income she gets from streaming will help us financially. Then about 2 weeks later she started watching and streaming with South Korean men on Tiktok live and then I really started to notice a difference in her.
She became a lot more forward with these men telling them how they are fine shit, sexy, beautiful (much more explicit comments as well) in front of my face with no concern in the world, I was in distraught that someone I've known for so long can just not care about how I feel anymore. At that point I addressed her, After going back and forth she told me she was mentally checked out of the relationship about a year ago and is ready to explore and talk to new people (We just signed our lease in February btw) which hit me like a brick. To also add on since she started streaming/watching Tiktok in December and she has barley worked (3 days Max) out of every week since then. I feel like I am in a very bad mental/emotional state after the break up considering all she does is stream about 10-12 hours a day to strictly talk/flirt to South Korean men setting up dates when she visits Korea (with what money) and constantly rewatching her streams after ending the live including calling out of work with paying about $40 for a doctors note to cover her shifts.
It's to the point where she coordinates her sleep schedule with Korean standard time to match with these men from there and we live in FLORIDA (13 hour difference) her schedule is to wake up hop on tikok to see which guy she wants to watch for a few hours, Gets Ready to go live for a couple hours while watching these streams, Go live for 10 hours (starting around 2am-4am) then goes back to bed at 5pm to repeat the process.
I am in the gutter financially already behind on multiple bills (most importantly electric) from this considering any money she makes from her streams go straight to donating it to her "oppas" (Older Korean Guy) and again she barley works making about less than half of her normal checks if she worked 40 hours . I was told by her that she is depressed and no longer likes her job would prefer to work part time (pretty much saying Idc to work anymore) leaving all the finances to me also emotionally wrecking me by constantly flirting even telling me how many korean guys are following her, Which ones she likes and how she found her inner child again because she "dreamed" of something like this to happen as if we are not freshly broken up after 8 years together. I
feel like she is not even the same person I used to know and everything is happening so fast I appreciate any support given on how to handle this properly as I'm constantly stuck in my own head going through emotional turmoil.
TLDR: My (M28) GF(F26) of 8 years broke up with me and is severely addicted to Tiktok, Flirting with korean men on stream and dropping everything in life (including her job) to become a social media "star". Leaving me with a financial burden along with just signing a lease with her in February.
UPDATE: As of now we both currently have one eviction under our names from a previous lease during covid period, I spoke with my leasing office today and they provided me 3 options that require both of our signatures (which I highly doubt I will get from her)
- Release of resident which would release me from the lease giving her all financial responsibility for the lease moving forward.
- Break the lease, provide a 60-day notice with a payment of 3 months of rent to be released.
- Tough it out for the remainder of the lease (January) and Move on with my life once this year ends to avoid a 2nd eviction that would cause my credit to tank.
- Based of my previous post and this new information I'm currently struggling to figure out what is the best path to take for my mental and financial health.