u/Holiday-Bench-5733

My partner has never lived away from his family home solely for the reason of comfort. I had the complete opposite experience and have been financially independent since I was 17 (we are in our late 20’s). We’ve been together under a year and spend most of our time at my house. This conversation came up because he mentioned seeing how things go and potentially moving in together after a year but in order for me to become serious in our relationship I’ve asked that he get the experience living on his own before I could consider that.

He’s a great guy and shows up for me in so many ways. On one hand I’m enjoying where we’re at now and don’t want to set conditions to the relationship, but I don’t want to even considering living with him until he's been on his own for a while. He plans on moving out but is focusing on settling into a new career currently. I'm not in a rush for any particular relationship milestones. He's generally very responsible and picks up after himself at my house, helps with chores , helps out with my pets,…etc. but my concern is that he's never known how to be alone or how to take care of himself and the expectations to run the household just shift from his mom to myself.

Everyone says that the woman is in charge of the household and that it doesn’t make sense for him to move out on his own and I may change my mind, but is it wrong to want a partnership? I don’t mind the cooking and the cleaning but I don’t want that to be the expectation ALL the time. And is it wrong to set boundaries like this or is my logic flawed?

TIYA!

This will be my 3rd year hosting Fourth of July at my neighborhood block party! It will be an all day event with a walk to the beach for fireworks in the evening.

Last year I had everyone bring food and it barely got eaten so I’m thinking a hot dog bar this year with fruit/chips and cupcakes. Last year’s hits were water balloons and water guns and I’m wanting to plan ahead for some other interactive games, maybe a small pool? Limbo?

Any ideas welcome!

AITHA for telling my sister to stop sending me pictures with her bf’s neice? She’s sent me a couple pictures of them both with the baby and idk the way they both pose with it makes it look like their baby and i just dont know they take so many pics with it. im not tryna be rude! maybe if it was a grown kid but the fact it’s a baby weirds me out and makes me kinda uncomfortable.

Edit: clarification

Been dating my partner for 6 months. At the beginning, things were great we spent a lot of time together but now I’m starting to get tired of having him over all the time? I’ve set boundaries to sleepovers 3-4 nights a week. He helps with some cleaning but I’m the only one who cooks. He doesn’t expect it and always pays when we go out so that’s a weight lifted.

He doesn’t have his own place of his own that we can go to as he lives with his parents. He has never lived on his own which we talked about being an issue but he plans to find a place of his own soon. I love hanging out with his family but I feel like when I go there it’s their house not his. I’m not sure how long I should wait to check back in. It’s been two weeks since we last talked and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that he’ll follow through.

6months together but moved fast early on. We spend all weekend and one night during the week (so like half the week) but he still wants to hangout more sometimes. We have fun together and I miss him when he’s gone!

I have my own place with roommates and he lives with his parents and the days we’re not together I’m usually doing something with friends or wanting alone time. I don’t want to become codependent and I also don’t want him spending all his time at my place just because he doesn’t have his own. I feel like if he did have his own place it’d be different as we can alternate. We’ve talked about for me to take the relationship seriously I need to see that he is capable of living on his own but I’m not sure that’s happening in the near future just wondering if I’m being unfair or self sabotaging by being strict with my space.

TL:DR - not wanting to see my partner everyday and needing alone time in my own space.

My sister and I live on opposite ends of the states. We were recently talking about how I wish she could come up and visit. I think she got defensive and said I never invite her, but I pulled up recents asking “can you come visit this summer” or “can you come up to (instead town) soon” but I guess that’s not an actual invite. The convo escalated to her saying that we’re both always busy and that she doesn’t want to come visit me and my boyfriend. It made me sad to hear that, especially because I don’t live with my boyfriend and he wouldn’t have to be there. I told her this and asked if there was something specific that we could try to fix. She said she’s sorry if she hurt my feelings.

We both have dogs that make it difficult and she has recently moved in with her boyfriend where she manages the household (takes care of meals, cleaning, dogs..etc. which makes it harder to leave. If they had to get a dog sitter or stay in an air bnb to visit me with her bf she said she would have to pay for it. I guess the option to visit me without him is not in the cards.

I totally get that and I understand it’s different when you live with someone and said I’m not mad or anything but just sad that the reality that we both have our own lives and responsibilities so seeing each other takes a lot more planning and isn’t as easy as it used to be.

I’m feeling like the asshole for escalating this argument and feeling little sympathy to her situation with her boyfriend that makes it hard for her to do anything without him.