u/Honest-Concentrate81

What mattress are you currently using and what’s your favorite thing about it (so I know what to avoid and what to look into lol).

I have chronic upper back pain, so I’m looking for something with a medium firmness and support. I don’t want to sink in, nor feel like I laying on a plank, but that hard to find in between. For reference, 100 pounds and sleeping with a partner.

I’m starting my dreadful journey of finding a new mattress after my favorite model changed and I upgraded to a bigger size. I was using the Brooklyn Bedding Signature Hybrid in Medium firmness and it is PERFECT, but the new upgraded model I just ordered is no longer supportive and completely different. Looking for a new mattress now!

What mattress are you currently using and what’s your favorite thing about it (so I know what to avoid and what to look into lol).

I have chronic upper back pain, so I’m looking for something with a medium firmness and support. I don’t want to sink in, nor feel like I laying on a plank, but that hard to find in between. For reference, 100 pounds and sleeping with a partner.

I’m starting my dreadful journey of finding a new mattress after my favorite model changed and I upgraded to a bigger size. I was using the Brooklyn Bedding Signature Hybrid in Medium firmness and it is PERFECT, but the new upgraded model I just ordered is no longer supportive and completely different. Looking for a new mattress now!

I purchased a twin size Brooklyn Bedding Signature Hybrid in Medium firmness in 2024 and it is the PERFECT mattress for me. I recently upgraded to a full size bed and needed to get a new mattress unfortunately.

Much to my disappointment, Brooklyn Bedding changed their mattress compositions. I emailed them and, of course, they assured me nothing had changed besides cosmetics, so I placed an order. unfortunately, this was not the case and it’s a completely different product.

Does anyone know any comparable products to the Medium Signature Hybrid? It was perfect for me and I’m so sad to lose my perfect mattress.

I purchased a twin size Brooklyn Bedding Signature Hybrid in Medium firmness in 2024 and it is the PERFECT mattress for me. I recently upgraded to a full size bed and needed to get a new mattress unfortunately.

Much to my disappointment, Brooklyn Bedding changed their mattress compositions. I emailed them and, of course, they assured me nothing had changed besides cosmetics, so I placed an order. unfortunately, this was not the case and it’s a completely different product.

Does anyone know any comparable products to the Medium Signature Hybrid? It was perfect for me and I’m so sad to lose my perfect mattress.

I’m honestly so confused right now and don’t know how to feel at all. All I do know is that I feel violated and upset.

To preface, I (23F) have been seeing my (40s?M) massage therapist for over half a year regularly, once or twice a week. He has always been absolutely phenomenal and has helped my chronic pain SO much. Literally the one thing helping me through my condition. He is friendly, knowledgeable, and has always been very professional and I’ve always felt safe and trusting- until today.

I pay for a 60 minute session and he often gives me sometimes half to double more than my session time, if he has the time, and I’ve always appreciated that since I’m a frequent and reliable customer and he owns and runs his own business himself.

Today’s 60 minute session ran for almost 2.5 hours. He often exposes my breasts and works on the area (with my prior consent) and this has never made me wildly uncomfortable as I view it as therapeutic and necessary for treating my issues. I’m hypermobile and have scoliosis and every single muscle in my body is overactive.

But in today’s session, for the first time, he (unnecessarily in my opinion) was moving my underwear and in the process momentarily exposing my genitals for a couple seconds at a time, a couple times, while he would massage the surrounding area in my groin or pelvis. This was part of a full body “rub down” kind of massage at the end. The movements felt oddly explicit, slightly different than usual.

At the end of my session where we (fully clothed, in his sitting area) usually touch base about how I’m feeling and what he noticed about the state of my body and muscles during the session, he made a comment apologizing for the long session and that he “never gets tired” massaging me and showed concern that my boyfriend, whom he has met on several occasions, hopefully isn’t “jealous” or anything. I was going to treat the experience during my massage as professional as possible, but the comments afterwards made me feel so strange.

I will mention, I live in NYS and I know some laws are different in different places. Also will mention, he is European and I know (especially older people) feel different about nudity and especially nudity in “healthcare” situations in European countries (I’m European myself).

I keep trying to make excuses for him because I genuinely have never felt unsafe in his presence in the countless times I’ve been there. Could this just have been a weird ”in the moment” thing where he was just vibing during the massage and went too far? I just can’t shake the icky feeling I have from being so exposed and conflicted with my trust for him. This sucks that it even happened and I feel weird and not myself and dejected and sick. I’m so worried about this having effects on me as I’m already chronically ill from trauma and I‘m so worried it will continue to affect my life. My mom just passed a month ago and I’m grieving that as well and it’s all so much.

I’m honestly so confused right now and don’t know how to feel at all. All I do know is that I feel violated and upset.

To preface, I (23F) have been seeing my (40s?M) massage therapist for over half a year regularly, once or twice a week. He has always been absolutely phenomenal and has helped my chronic pain SO much. Literally the one thing helping me through my condition. He is friendly, knowledgeable, and has always been very professional and I’ve always felt safe and trusting- until today.

I pay for a 60 minute session and he often gives me sometimes half to double more than my session time, if he has the time, and I’ve always appreciated that since I’m a frequent and reliable customer and he owns and runs his own business himself.

Today’s 60 minute session ran for almost 2.5 hours. He often exposes my breasts and works on the area (with my prior consent) and this has never made me wildly uncomfortable as I view it as therapeutic and necessary for treating my issues. I’m hypermobile and have scoliosis and every single muscle in my body is overactive.

But in today’s session, for the first time, he (unnecessarily in my opinion) was moving my underwear and in the process momentarily exposing my genitals for a couple seconds at a time, a couple times, while he would massage the surrounding area in my groin or pelvis. This was part of a full body “rub down” kind of massage at the end. The movements felt oddly explicit, slightly different than usual.

At the end of my session where we (fully clothed, in his sitting area) usually touch base about how I’m feeling and what he noticed about the state of my body and muscles during the session, he made a comment apologizing for the long session and that he “never gets tired” massaging me and showed concern that my boyfriend, whom he has met on several occasions, hopefully isn’t “jealous” or anything. I was going to treat the experience during my massage as professional as possible, but the comments afterwards made me feel so strange.

I will mention, I live in NYS and I know some laws are different in different places. Also will mention, he is European and I know (especially older people) feel different about nudity and especially nudity in “healthcare” situations in European countries (I’m European myself).

I keep trying to make excuses for him because I genuinely have never felt unsafe in his presence in the countless times I’ve been there. Could this just have been a weird ”in the moment” thing where he was just vibing during the massage and went too far? I just can’t shake the icky feeling I have from being so exposed and conflicted with my trust for him. This sucks that it even happened!

EDIT: She came to her peace and comfortably passed with loved ones at her side shortly after I made this post. Thank you everyone for giving me strength.

Hello, I’m writing here on the behalf of my mother (60) currently in the ICU after an aspiration episode with underlying undetected pneumonia. She has breast cancer and it was metastasized to her lungs causing lung complications and I figured you all would be best to ask for advice.

While she has breast cancer, it’s her lung cancer that’s getting her. Her breathing has been worsening since around December and she first started getting thora fluid removals in January.

A week ago today she was ill, but talkative, struggling to breathe a lot. She was in the hospital already and weakening because she couldn't eat or drink due to breathlessness and they wouldn’t put in a feeding tube. She didn’t eat or drink meaningfully for about a month.

We’re in the ICU now and they’re discussing a pleurx catheter. I’ve been encouraged to place it by some drs, while others say the risks are many and the protein and electrolyte loss caused by it will lead to her weakening and decline regardless.

At this point they have asked us to consider hospice, in which a dr told me he estimates she would have a couple hours to survive at home with minimal support and could pass if that was her desire. She keeps telling us that, despite her suffering, she wants to keep fighting. I have to make a decision today on that port and have to heavily ponder on its weighed effects and benefits. I’ve been told she could have weeks, maybe months, with oxygen support in the ICU, but she suffers everyday. I will say, everyday she improves a little and she claims she feels better everyday more than the last.

Does anyone have any experience with this? My mom, in her heart, has expressed her desire to try to fight to the end and she wants to try to get better enough to continue her chemo treatment and attempt to prolong her life and see if it bears any success for that. The drs tell me this might not be possible and very risky. I don’t want her to suffer, but I want to support her decisions and feelings especially now. I’m young, too young to have someone’s life in my hands, I want to try and make the right decisions and help my mom find peace. I worry that even if she does the chemo, it will be stressful and take her, but I think she wants to go fighting. If the chemo is effective, would it meaningfully lengthen her life? Has anyone come back from this? I just don’t know what to do, she’s my best friend, and I want her to go the way she wants and on her terms and make the best decisions for her to have that.

EDIT: She came to her peace and comfortably passed with loved ones at her side shortly after I made this post. Thank you everyone for giving me strength.

Hello, I’m writing here on behalf of my mother (60) currently in the ICU. She has breast cancer and it was metastasized to her lungs causing lung complications and I figured you all would be best to ask for advice.

While she has breast cancer, it’s her lung cancer that’s getting her. Her breathing has been worsening since around December and she first started getting thora fluid removals in January.

A week ago today she was ill, but talkative, struggling to breathe a lot. She was in the hospital already and weakening because she couldn't eat or drink due to breathlessness and they wouldn’t put in a feeding tube. She didn’t eat or drink meaningfully for about a month.

We’re in the ICU now and they’re discussing a pleurx catheter. I’ve been encouraged to place it by some drs, while others say the risks are many and the protein and electrolyte loss caused by it will lead to her weakening and decline regardless.

At this point they have asked us to consider hospice, in which a dr told me he estimates she would have a couple hours to survive at home with minimal support and could pass if that was her desire. She keeps telling us that, despite her suffering, she wants to keep fighting. I have to make a decision today on that port and have to heavily ponder on its weighed effects and benefits. I’ve been told she could have weeks, maybe months, with oxygen support in the ICU, but she suffers everyday. I will say, everyday she improves a little and she claims she feels better everyday more than the last.

Does anyone have any experience with this? My mom, in her heart, has expressed her desire to try to fight to the end and she wants to try to get better enough to continue her chemo treatment and attempt to prolong her life and see if it bears any success for that. The drs tell me this might not be possible and very risky. I don’t want her to suffer, but I want to support her decisions and feelings especially now. I’m young, too young to have someone’s life in my hands, I want to try and make the right decisions and help my mom find peace. I worry that even if she does the chemo, it will be stressful and take her, but I think she wants to go fighting. If the chemo is effective, would it meaningfully lengthen her life? Has anyone come back from this? I just don’t know what to do, she’s my best friend.

Hello, I’m writing here on behalf of my mother (60) currently in the ICU. She has breast cancer and it was metastasized to her lungs causing lung complications and I figured you all would be best to ask for advice.

While she has breast cancer, it’s her lung cancer that’s getting her. Her breathing has been worsening since around December and she first started getting thora fluid removals in January.

A week ago today she was ill, but talkative, struggling to breathe a lot. She was in the hospital already and weakening because she couldn't eat or drink due to breathlessness and they wouldn’t put in a feeding tube. She didn’t eat or drink meaningfully for about a month.

We’re in the ICU now and they’re discussing a pleurx catheter. I’ve been encouraged to place it by some drs, while others say the risks are many and the protein and electrolyte loss caused by it will lead to her weakening and decline.

At this point they have asked us to consider hospice, in which a dr told me he estimates she would have a couple hours to survive at home with minimal support and could pass if that was her desire. She keeps telling us that, despite her suffering, she wants to keep fighting. I have to make a decision today on that port and have to heavily ponder on its weighed effects and benefits.

Does anyone have any experience with this? My mom, in her heart, has expressed her desire to try to fight to the end and she wants to try to get better enough to continue her chemo treatment and attempt to prolong her life and see if it bears any success for that. The drs tell me this might not be possible and very risky. I don’t want her to suffer, but I want to support her decisions and feelings especially now. I’m young, too young to have someone’s life in my hands, I want to try and make the right decisions and help my mom find peace.