u/HorrorMovie7405

Hi,
like the Title says, my Girl ist cheating on me long distance. She keeps messaging with random guys she meets or from work and even went on some dates. I know it cause i read her chats. We have a long distance relationsship where we allowed each other to flirt to people and kiss when going out.

But we set some rules:
- no sexual flirting with each others friends
- no sex
- we have to tell eachother about dates or similar

Now i found out she is texting with 2-3 random guys. One of them she met at work and maybe even slept with him, couldnt understand it from the chats alone.

She is flirting heavily on chat, and is even texting things like : „ what boyfriend are you talking about ;), i do whatever i want“.

Last time we met was a Week ago and i wasnt sure if or how to aproach her, as i want her to tell me the truth because i think i deserve it after 2 years of beeing in a relationsship. In the end i didnt because i needed advice from a few good friends.

Im at the point where i want to end the relationship, even though i still love her endlessly, but i know i will destroy myself in the long term. About half a year ago we had a problem that was similar, on wich she never aplogised or wasnt really open to talk about it, in the end she blamed me for looking trough her phone.

Now the problem, i want to talk to her in person, but our next meeting will be in more or less 3-5 weeks.
How do i behave until then, she has no idea and isnt that obvious with her „cheating“. I dont want to do it over the phone as she probably wouldnt give me a lot of answers calling. In person she will feel worse and almost has to talk to me to break up in a good way, we have a similar friend group, so breaking up in the bad would be worse for her.

Lets say i meet her in about 3-4 weeks and i tell her i want to end it, how do i go about it to get her to react as good as possible and tell me the truth?
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Did anyone continue their relationsship after something like this and didnt regret it?

Pls Help :)))

Hi,
like the Title says, my Girl ist cheating on me long distance. She keeps messaging with random guys she meets or from work and even went on some dates. I know it cause i read her chats. We have a long distance relationsship where we allowed each other to flirt to people and kiss when going out.

But we set some rules:
- no sexual flirting with each others friends
- no sex
- we have to tell eachother about dates or similar

Now i found out she is texting with 2-3 random guys. One of them she met at work and maybe even slept with him, couldnt understand it from the chats alone.

She is flirting heavily on chat, and is even texting things like : „ what boyfriend are you talking about ;), i do whatever i want“.

Last time we met was a Week ago and i wasnt sure if or how to aproach her, as i want her to tell me the truth because i think i deserve it after 2 years of beeing in a relationsship. In the end i didnt because i needed advice from a few good friends.

Im at the point where i want to end the relationship, even though i still love her endlessly, but i know i will destroy myself in the long term. About half a year ago we had a problem that was similar, on wich she never aplogised or wasnt really open to talk about it, in the end she blamed me for looking trough her phone.

Now the problem, i want to talk to her in person, but our next meeting will be in more or less 3-5 weeks.
How do i behave until then, she has no idea and isnt that obvious with her „cheating“. I dont want to do it over the phone as she probably wouldnt give me a lot of answers calling. In person she will feel worse and almost has to talk to me to break up in a good way, we have a similar friend group, so breaking up in the bad would be worse for her.

Lets say i meet her in about 3-4 weeks and i tell her i want to end it, how do i go about it to get her to react as good as possible and tell me the truth?
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Did anyone continue their relationsship after something like this and didnt regret it?

Pls Help :)))