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Anyone else exhausted by how often they are asked what they are doing for a loved one and being recommended things to “try”? I know it’s all very well intentioned, but, sorry, I don’t have the time or energy to research if magic mushrooms will help my LO. Yes, vitamin b is good for anyone, but when your LO will barely take the meds their neuro prescribes without a fight, how do you expect me to get them to swallow 15 vitamins along with that? No, I did not see the most recent article in Holistic News Health or whatever.
I’m just tired to feeling judged and like I’m not doing enough.

Does anyone have experience participating in state programs that pay you to care for a family member? My mom isn’t at nursing home level of care yet, but she requires assistance with basically everything and couldn’t live alone. It’s too much for her 80 year old husband to do everything and still provide her with any sort of enrichment. My dream is to quit my job and hang out with her/help out every day, but I can’t afford to not have any income.
Specifically, we are in IN, but any experience is welcomed!!!

My mom is currently in stage two, possible early stage 3. Her world has gotten smaller and she can’t care for herself anymore. She has a lot of fixations that can cause her undue anxiety.
My question is what are people’s experience traveling with loved ones at this stage? We are considering taking her to see my sibling for about a week this fall. It would be an 8 hour plane ride, which definitely causes her anxiety.
She also has four dogs she’s very fixated on and, even with a full time sitter while we’re gone, she is already coming up with worst case scenarios.
She would love to see my sibling, and it’s been years since we’ve been able to have time together as a whole family. I know that part of it she would enjoy.

Does it seem cruel to make her push through her stress and go on the trip? Do the negatives outweigh the positives?

Update: the overwhelming agreement/advice in the comments has been so encouraging. I called my sibling and am so relived to report that he agrees there’s NO WAY we’re making a trip out there. Reenactment below:

“Hey you know that trip dad reaaally wants to make to come see you”

“Oh that’s absolutely not happening.”

We’ll find some way to get together in the near-ish future and spare her the trauma. Thank you to everyone who validated my fears. Yalls experience is invaluable.