We have as a trigger both job applications because of a workplace incident, and profound religious trauma from a genocide. For the first, we are working with the division of vocational rehabilitation to try to find placement in an internship.
The advisor there approached us with a concern: they know of a few small businesses that might take me on as an intern, but those businesses do a lot of work for churches, and they weren't sure if I would be able to handle doing my job if the client was a church.
I'll admit, the thought is horrifying. To put it bluntly, we have had a number of experiences with churches, and the most positive high water mark for experiences with churches was with the respected pastor that we were in the process of rescuing a trafficked slave from. It's all downhill from the slaver. Our list of trigger warnings needs trigger warnings.
We don't know how to even begin to cope with that, or what to do. Are we just broken? We'd like to go into business for herself, so we would be able to be a bit more picky on clients, but we also want to get some experience first.
I am one class away from obtaining and Occupational Certification in Bookkeeping. It's not a technical class, I could become an adjunct and teach it. Taking two classes would retain my students status, and I could take a class in introductory logistics, which would be useful for bookkeeping for businesses that use an inventory. There are also other benefits to being a student, such as access to campus. However, it is an open question as to how much value that occupational certification would offer. Does anyone have any input on that question?
Just about to have a bookkeeping certification from college, close to the associates (Have an advanced degree in something else, but retraining). Thought about going for the CPA but that seems like a huge project that I'm not ready to deal with quite yet, plus it needs *gestures at the rest of the thread*.
I've asked mentors about going into business, but from every one of them I've been told that experience working under someone to learn the work flows first is vital. I think one of the responses was "If you go into business before getting some experience, I will drive 50 miles out of my way to punch you in the left tit".
I live in a town that's not horribly close to a city in a paid for house, the job market is *gestures at the economy and stares at the camera* and mass applying isn't feasible for disability reasons.
Does anyone have any ideas how I can get that workflow experience and guidance without having to move to a big city?
I’m just feeling stuck and looking for some perspective.
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I literally cannot speak to people. When I'm completely alone or with my cat, I can use my voice fine, but around anyone else, it completely locks up. I have to rely entirely on emojis, gestures, text-to-speech, or writing cursive on a whiteboard (for some reason, print letters feel way too raw and exposed).
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I'm incredibly lonely, and because this has just always been how I am, I don't even know what to look for or what resources to give our counselor to help work through it. If I get backed into a corner where I absolutely *have* to talk to someone, a different alter in our system has to force their way forward to do it, which just leaves us with splitting headaches.
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The root of it comes from carrying some horrific trauma from when we were tiny, and my role in the system is to hold the silence to keep everyone safe.
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I typed this out because I needed to vent, but I can't just post my raw thoughts without feeling like I'm putting people in danger. So I'm using a chatbot to rearrange my draft into a safe format, even though I constantly worry I'm going to get flagged or banned for doing that. I just really don't know what to do with myself right now besides be isolated and miserable.
I'm a single girl, so I'm not inviting people into my house. That leaves me stuck with public meeting places in my area. Coffee shops and the like, because the obvious choices are defunct for various reasons. I know all the obvious answers. They're not options.
These people clearly don't believe people meet in big groups. Bolted down or non-combinable small tables that seat four at most are the norm, and I need to sit down too.
Any advice on how I'd run a continuing game with that limitation?
Edit: Just to be clear. I'm not looking for better spaces. I've worked with the local gaming community and they concluded "Wow, your town bites for space." Now I just want to know how to work around the limitations. Thankfully our game collection is dominated by minimalist systems.
there's five of us, and we don't have a host, so our "pretend to be normal" styleguide is a total mess nowadays. not like most people we deal with in passing ever notice.
but we're lonely. we want to make more friends! mine are mostly online because i'm an invisible monster, but the others are sad about it. we don't know how to when we have to timeshare so much. we're all so different and our internal communication.. not horrible, but it took a serious hit two months ago so we got caught with our stories not matching today by somebody, and that's probably just going to get worse.
does anybody have suggestions?