u/IFearEars

Getting back together with my (27m) ex girlfriend (29f) after 2 years, looking for advice with long distance relationships

For some background context, she was an international student from Japan, I was an American non college grad working a blue collar job. She knew before we entered the relationship that it would never work since her parents (who she was very close to) would never approve. Despite that, she ended up still falling for me and we were together for over 2 years.

She was right about one thing, her parents definitely did not approve and almost immediately cut her off and gave out a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. This took a heavy toll on her and despite growing more independent from her parents by the end of the relationship, she still decided she could not live without her parents. On top of that, she had to move across the country to California to earn a work Visa to stay in the US. Those two things together naturally was the end for us.

Throughout the break up, we still remained in contact with each other and never truly got over either one, but we still entered into new relationships of our own that lasted between 6 months to a year. I recently got out of my relationship and she got in contact with me shortly before that happened. We have been talking daily since and its as if we never had a span of time without contact. I recently asked if she wanted to try again since we both have grown on a lot of the smaller issues we had and the issue with her parents no longer bothered her.

That brings us to today, she is still locked into a contract for her visa for 4 more years and I am sufficiently successful in my industry, but I am looking for work near her in the mean time.

None of that was particularly important to the question at hand, but it also feels very good to be able to say all of that out in the open instead of just keeping it inside my head.

TLDR: got together with a girl with strict Asian parents, they hated me due to my lack of degree, cut her off of everything, she had to move across the country so we broke up for over a year and decided to get back together and attempt long distance

So...does anyone have any advice for maintaining long distance relationships? Would love to hear some perspectives of things to do and things to avoid from those who have been in similar situations

Thank you!

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u/IFearEars — 6 days ago

Anyone down to play some casual tennis occasionally?

Im a 26y/o guy and I've owned 2 rackets for about 5 years and I've played like 6 times and that was 4 years ago

Just looking to have some casual exercise, potentially learn a new skill and maybe make some local connections

I suppose pickleball also works but I do not own rackets for that one or understand the differences but gladly willing to learn

All skill levels welcome, im sure it'll be a good time regardless - I work mon-fri 10-6 so relatively open availability outside of those hours

Thanks y'all

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u/IFearEars — 7 days ago
▲ 161 r/tifu

TIFU by misreading tsp as TBSP

I was having issues with some minor amounts of blood in my stool. I've had this happen before, and I admit I do have lower fiber intake than recommend. I bought some fiber powder to mix in with hot water as part of my morning ritual.

I've been doing this since last Friday, what I THOUGHT the instructions said was 4 tbsp, it actually was 4 tsp. ( 4 tbsp is 12 tsp)

So, you might be thinking its no big deal, right? 3x the dose of fiber must just work extra well, maybe make you constipated if anything?

Not quite the case, as it turns out, fiber in high quantities actually turns into an absurd diarrhetic. Since last night, I have been unable to spend more than 5 minutes off of the toilet without risk of my stomach churning and a chocolate river flowing down my legs

I have a 7 minute drive to work and I finished a session right before leaving and I had to stop at the gas station on the way, and then also use the toilet shortly after clocking in

Let this serve as a cautionary tale to anyone who doesn't read instructions very clearly, or anyone who thinks you cant have too much of a good thing.

TLDR: too much fiber makes you have uncontrollable diarrhea and also the American measurement systems are flawed in more ways than one

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u/IFearEars — 11 days ago