Getting back together with my (27m) ex girlfriend (29f) after 2 years, looking for advice with long distance relationships
For some background context, she was an international student from Japan, I was an American non college grad working a blue collar job. She knew before we entered the relationship that it would never work since her parents (who she was very close to) would never approve. Despite that, she ended up still falling for me and we were together for over 2 years.
She was right about one thing, her parents definitely did not approve and almost immediately cut her off and gave out a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. This took a heavy toll on her and despite growing more independent from her parents by the end of the relationship, she still decided she could not live without her parents. On top of that, she had to move across the country to California to earn a work Visa to stay in the US. Those two things together naturally was the end for us.
Throughout the break up, we still remained in contact with each other and never truly got over either one, but we still entered into new relationships of our own that lasted between 6 months to a year. I recently got out of my relationship and she got in contact with me shortly before that happened. We have been talking daily since and its as if we never had a span of time without contact. I recently asked if she wanted to try again since we both have grown on a lot of the smaller issues we had and the issue with her parents no longer bothered her.
That brings us to today, she is still locked into a contract for her visa for 4 more years and I am sufficiently successful in my industry, but I am looking for work near her in the mean time.
None of that was particularly important to the question at hand, but it also feels very good to be able to say all of that out in the open instead of just keeping it inside my head.
TLDR: got together with a girl with strict Asian parents, they hated me due to my lack of degree, cut her off of everything, she had to move across the country so we broke up for over a year and decided to get back together and attempt long distance
So...does anyone have any advice for maintaining long distance relationships? Would love to hear some perspectives of things to do and things to avoid from those who have been in similar situations
Thank you!