Feeling exhausted and stressed. Chose a Master’s for better pay, but I hate it and am constantly poor. I need stability. Should I move back with parents, work more hours, drop out, or find alternative income? How do I get out of this rut?
Graduated in 2019 and worked multiple roles, but always hated the field and survived on "just get through the day" thinking. Currently struggling in a master's program, facing supervisor criticism, financial isolation, and a desire to escape academia. Feels powerless and jealous of a partner's financial privilege and small business success.
At nearly 30, the goal is financial safety and better memories. Unsure whether to finish the degree, pivot careers using loans, move, or break up.
I dont want to rely on anyone else
Graduated in 2019 and worked multiple roles, but always hated the field and survived on "just get through the day" thinking. Currently struggling in a master's program, facing supervisor criticism, financial isolation, and a desire to escape academia. Feels powerless and jealous of a partner's financial privilege and small business success. At nearly 30, the goal is financial safety and better memories. Unsure whether to finish the degree, pivot careers using loans, move, or break up.
How to avoid being broke
Struggling, I don't think academia for me. Im social and dont like writing for hours on end as much as I would. To be honest, its hard for me to accept as doing a masters degree is a privilege. Despite thr long hours I put in, its really not what I want to be spending the last of my 20s doing. I see my friends having fun and having families. I feel I spent so much time sticking and trying to make it through different things, I never got to do what I really wanted. I genuinely want to leave this program. I also dont want kids and don't know how to twll my partner. I am scared in both cases as I have no financial back up.
Hey,
Im not perfect. And I know im not. But i have a few things on going with my boyfriend that I need to understand if they are red flags or not (from a man's perspective). If I am being unreasonable, tell me.
I rent, pay my own bills and support myself. Cook my own food, will eat out in a pinch.
He, lives at home and has his own business. Gets a monthly allowance from his parents and doesnt pay rent. Mostly eats out.
I wish he had a place of his own. I dont mind having him over, however, I wish he didnt share his place with his parents. Long story short, I dont think he ever plans on moving out which is something that I am not a huge fan of.
I feel like a third wheel when im around his parents and him. They are really nice with me, but I feel like I would like more time with their son, alone. I feel uncomfortable going over because their dog can be slightly aggressive to those entering the door. Also, I was really nice about it at first, but I wish he clean his room. Its dusty and the bed sheets need replacing.
To be honest, I'm getting tired of nagging and fixing and will focus on passing my current degree and pursuing my own goals. If he wants me I am here, but I am done bending over backwards to ensure hes happy.