Yes, I've emoted already. Yes, I've left the realm and rejoined. Yes, I've closed the game and rejoined. How do I get rid of it, it keeps appearing I can't play the game.
>!Peter Dunbar (Your Boyfriend Game) doubles DNI ty!<
Hi, I'm bored, and wanted to post on here again. Sorry for anything I word wrong or badly, I'm really tired right now.
I'm going to preface with the fact that I have no intention to attempt to change anyone's mind about rule 4. This rant is not ABOUT rule 5 at all, nor is it about RPF. I just want to talk about parasocialism and its role in the yumeshipping community.
If you yumeship: you are probably parasocial.
The definition of parasocial is "denoting a relationship characterized by a one-sided, unreciprocated sense of intimacy felt by a fan or follower for a well-known or prominent figure (typically a media celebrity), in which the fan or follower comes to feel that they know the celebrity as a friend." This can include fictional characters. Parasocialism isn't inherently bad. It's a coping mechanism, often for people with anxiety or social disorders, such as panic disorder, social anxiety, autism, ADHD, or disorders that affect your ability to create or engage in social relationships.
Being parasocial just means you see yourself in a relationship with a prominent figure. It is a term commonly negatively misconstrued to coincide with being delusional. One is a coping mechanism that can turn delusional, another is a sign of mental illness. Neither inherently make you a bad person. Parasocial relationships have been recognized as a mental health symptom since the 1950's, often carried out by women but seen more recently in transgender, queer, and male youth due to the rise of neurodivergent recognition and acceptance in our generation.
Being parasocial or seeing parasocial people is almost a guarantee if you engage in any fandom spaces around the internet.
Being parasocial or antisocial does not make you a bad person. It's a coping mechanism, and a totally healthy one as long as you maintain the extent. I think people need to stop villainizing the term. Yumeshipping was created as a safe space for parasocialism to thrive, we just changed the name of it.
Using parasocial to describe RPF is correct, but also wrong if you're using it to say that they're delusional. The two are not the same. They can cause one another, or both be true at the same time, but they can also either coexist or exist seperately. I don't really care enough to address RPF shippers, but parasocial isn't the right word to use if you're going to hate on them (though I don't think you should unless they're actively harming anyone), because fictional yumeshippers are parasocial too.
If you yumeship, you are probably parasocial, because being parasocial just means, "I see myself in a relationship with this popular figure". That's that. No problem with it.
Hi! I'm Reed. My prns are he/him, I'm gay and aromantic, and also fictoromantic. I yumeship as a coping mechanism AND a hobby, and these are my F/O's.
I always selfshipped, I just recently realized that there was a massive community for it a few months ago.
Peter is my main F/O, my husband, and I've had him for 7 years now. Judy Hopps is my secondary main, my wife for 3 years.
The rest are secondary, and the others mentioned in my yumeship StrawPage are yumes I have but usually ignore.
I'm typically non- or selective sharing. With Peter, I'm extremely voidsharing. Doubles, unless specified otherwise on my StrawPage, DNI.
Your yumeship is canon, thank you for reading.
Gogh is a really useful studying tool to motivate you for any tasks you need to get done. Using your F/O with it does great things.
I live in Alberta, Canada. I have a good intuition. I always have. If something felt off about someone, I was almost always right, if not always. However, about situations, I tend to ignore those feelings, as they're usually just my anxiety disorders acting up.
However, one day, on February 10th, I woke up getting ready for my classes. I headed out the door, feeling fine, tired as usual, and then I got this weird sense of dread. A really weird, intense sense of dread that I hadn't for ages. I told myself, "something bad is going to happen today" and texted my boyfriend that I felt weird about that day. He said I was probably just tired and should just ignore it.
Over the course of the day, I still had that unsettled feeling, but I went to bed that night, unharmed and confused. I could have sworn something was off.
The next morning, I head to class, and my teacher speaks up about "prayers and respect" for the victims of the school shooting in British Columbia that had happened the day before. A young woman in Tumbler Ridge had killed her mother and half-brother, then went to her school to kill six people and injure 27 others, before committing suicide.
>!I will ignore or report transphobia, if mentioned in the comments. The shooting and suicide was due to extremely limited and expensive mental health assistance available in BC. Transgender people commit less than 3% of any violence/murders.!<
To this day, I can't help but remember it. The feeling of dread, and confusion, convincing myself it was just paranoia and exhaustion. I couldn't have stopped it, it was inevitable. But what if I had done anything different? Sometimes I just wonder.
>!Peter Dunbar - Your Boyfriend Game doubles DNI ty!<
Hi, it's me again. This isn't really about this subreddit, you guys are kind of goated. But stop comparing yumeshippers to other yumeshippers!
If you, in your own space, say your F/O loves you more than your doubles or anything, hell yeah, that's your own space, and it's true and canon.
But stop acting entitled in public about it. So let's get some shit straight, because for some reason, invalidating yumeshippers, especially on TikTok, for dumb reasons has become a super popular trend:
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you don't have any merch of them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you don't have any art of them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you can't draw them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you don't always talk about them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you don't theme everything around them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you're not hyperfixated on them!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you're not a soulbonder!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you ship them with other characters!
YES, your yumeship is canon even if you don't do much yumeshipping stuff.
Me, personally, I'm super fixated on Peter and have been for almost 6 years now. I have a bunch of merch, and most of my social medias are themed off of him. I have a bunch of art. This does not mean ANYONE else needs to be the SAME about THEIR F/O for it to be canon! This is how I like going about MY yumeship. Yumeshipping can be a coping mechanism, or it can just be a HOBBY for FUN, that does NOT invalidate anyone. My yumeship with Peter is a coping mechanism, the rest of my yumes are just a hobby!
Stop acting like any yumeshippers are less canon or valid just because they don't talk about their F/O's as much as you do or in the same way you do. Chill.
Don't try to argue or defend it, I'm not going to fucking listen. I hate this stupid Webtoon and its fans and its creator.
For one, its story is repetitive trash. Oh my god, average teenage kids get caught in a horror story...AGAIN!? No way.
For two, the artstyle feels forced and choppy. No way that's the artist's actual artstyle. It's so sharp and snippy. It looks like Ronald McDonald x Burger King TikTok yaoi artist style.
For three, it's boring. It's just not interesting. I have no idea how it got so popular, it's just nothing new. It's not special. It's shitty.
For four, the creator SUCKS??? How is she seen as this pariah? She can't draw a colored character for the life of her. Do you SEE her dark skinned characters? Those are just tan white people at this point. They have ZERO POC features, it's terribly drawn. Also, she's clearly homophobic. She was praised for her idea that 'kids are too young to make those decisions and be in relationships' and that's why there were no queer characters in her Webtoon, which for one, is just not true, kids can be gay, I was, and for two, there's literally a STRAIGHT romance between the two main characters, Aiden and Ashlyn. The bigotry is NOT disguised at ALL. Oh, no, kids can't be gay, but yeah, let's set up the clearly socially awkward girl and the guy who literally physically and verbally harrasses her for half the series for a romance, that's NORMAL! That won't end in any sort of abuse, right!?!?
And last but definitely LEAST.
ASHLYN. The useless and ugly main character who does nothing but complain.
I hate her stupid face and her shitty hair. I hate her stupid trope of mopey teenager that does NOTHING the entire story and then pretends like she's the victim when ANYTHING goes wrong. It's HER fault they're all in there in the first place, because of her antisocial "it's not a phase mom" bullshit that she pulls and CONTINUES to pull throughout the whole series. Her 'friends' have proven themselves to her AGAIN AND AGAIN, and she continues to ignore them or act like she can do everything herself. EVERY time she supposedly gains character development, it's just gone in the next episode for whatever reason and she goes back to hating everyone, even though Aiden and Taylor and Ben and the others have saved her ass...HOW MANY TIMES? She does nothing for the story but use her shitty ears to somehow conjure a monster from the other side. Right. Okay, bro. She's ugly and looks like a knock off Wendy's or genderbent Chuuya. I hate Chuuya but if I had to pick one, Chuuya's winning. Kick her ass, beat it, I'd pay to see that fight. Her prim and prissy ass up against a literal superpowered ex-mafia member, and I'm sure that she'd think she'd win against him too and get her ass beat. "Wah wah I'm so sad and lonely" when literally at LEAST 5 known characters want to be her friend and she has a loving upper middle class family with happily married parents? Get your fucking act together, you prissy bitch. You weren't abused and abandoned as a kid. Your parents didn't die and you didn't get fostered with your friend and lose your vocal cords after getting jumped by a gang. You're not two poor orphans who have to look after each other due to neglectful parents. You're not a bullied nerd with extreme crippling social anxiety that prevents you from doing close to nothing with your life. Her stupid plot armour prevents her from dying, and I wish it didn't. I would love to see her canonically gored by one of the shadow monsters.
First post. Looking for more SBG haters. Thanks, bye.
>!Peter doubles dni ty!<
I see so many people, even people who yumeship, considering yumeshipping to just be "I want to date this character" and getting mad when people correct them, or have familial or platonic yumeships.
I'm a romantic yumeshipper. I don't have any familial or platonic yumeships. However, I know many who do who are just so misunderstood.
For some reason, people see yumeshipping as a romantic term and ONLY that, and make up what 'yume' means in English to support that. I've seen people say yume means 'love', 'partner', even 'sex'.
????????? NO????
It means 'DREAM'. Your YUMEship is your DREAM ship. Your fantasy. And ship isn't romantic either. Ship is short for RELATIONSHIP! Relationships aren't romantic or sexual. Relationships can be the relationship you have between you and your parent or your friend or your coworker. A relationship can be negative. There's literally the term 'yumehater', a yume you HATE and fantasize or have lore of hating.
ANY yumeshipper, negative or positive, fits the literal definition of yumeship. In proper English, it's literally 'dream relationship'. YES, you can call it a yumeship if your DREAM RELATIONSHIP is to have that random Eevee from Pokemon spinoff Episode 238 in the background with the funny animation error as a pet.
Thanks, bye.