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"So I kinda need to know that" - also Josh. Are you kidding me!? It's very clear, Josh. She sat you down and had a whole conversation about whether she will be happy with "just" a monogamous relationship and that she fancies an open relationship when she marries. Not only that, but she has been SHOWING you what she wants with the constant need to make out with friends and strangers and having no qualms about whether she hurts you or not. She is actively cheating on you when she does this. So you are already in an open relationship whether you like it or not because you are putting up with this behavior. Catie told him straight up, "I like the chase," and that will not die down when she marries. Josh is a fool and deserves what he gets at this point.

Whether we like it or not, JJ and Stephanie are basically condoning and rooting for John to leave his girlfriend to be with JJ. If I were John's girlfriend, I would feel some way that he took JJ out on a "pretend date"...even if it was for a friend, that crossed a line because of the intimacy involved. I am not one of those people who think guys shouldn't have girls as friends and vice versa when they are in a relationship, but there is a boundary. There could be another person to take her out on this pretend date than a "taken" John.

Even though Krista annoys me with how she doesn't contribute around the household, I still think the girls are jealous of her with the amount of slander they have toward her. All of a sudden JJ gave her the cold shoulder, and both her and Stephanie were giving Krista the side eye because she went on one 1 date with Anthony, and then made out with Parker at the club. Krista is single, she can do what she wants. Then Steph explains her attitude as "well I don't want my friend Anthony to get hurt" when one of Anthony's first statements when he entered the house was "I'm surprised I got an invite from Steph because Stephanie never answers my calls" but Steph sure called him up then at the time to get Krista away from Sammy.

Then JJ gets in a little love triangle of her own when their friend she used to hook up with visits for the Dwarf games while she is encouraged to pursue John as well.... so her playing around and getting some is celebrated, but Krista is ragged on.

Then Stephanie has the AUDACITY to say " Krista had my back, finally, before the trip was over" because Krista turned down Sammy at the table when he tried to hit on her again in front of Steph. It's like B, once again, Krista originally had no idea you two were in a secret thing when Sammy started flirting with her and asking her out. Why wouldn't Krista go for it? In her mind, she is single, and he is single.

Did Krista commit to Anthony? They went on one date. Krista is allowed to date around. Stephanie saying, "Anthony's my friend and I don't want him to get hurt" is bullshiz. Because she fully called and used Anthony to come to the house in the beginning so Krista would focus on Anthony and get her away from Sammy. Then, when Anthony came over for Krista's party, he mentioned he was surprised to have received the invite because "Stephanie never answers my calls." She doesn't have use for him, but she sure called him up to put Krista on him and instead of Sammy, right?

Stephanie goes outside just to talk shiz about Krista. Then the girls are all judging Krista for her getting her game on- which men do this all the time- so good for her. The jealousy is real. Krista isn't playing "hot girl"; she IS a hot girl.

I keep thinking about that guys routine. How everyone was like "WTF" to his dancing before but then you watch it in reverse and it makes sense and its amazing. And it's just him up there dancing.

There were so many acts that were subpar to his and so if he doesn't get a callback, yes, I will be annoyed. Does anyone remember his name or what he calls himself?

Ok, I am REACHING as far as what is content on ID so I can talk about it on ID Reddit. I know this Scott Peterson documentary is on A&E, but I still want to discuss it with my ID fellow fans to see how they feel about the case. I live in Sacramento, CA, which is 1 1/2 hours from where Laci and Scott lived, so the news coverage was intense here at the time. Everyone hated him. I was like everyone else, that bastard is Guilty. I know for a fact that the information they are releasing in this particular documentary on A&E, is nothing new. They have been bringing up evidence that they say he hasn't been guilty for a while. And I want to be fair and have an open mind to all of it.

But when they were first bringing on the "Scott is innocent" narrative, I rolled my eyes and fought against it for these reasons. Neighbors say they saw Laci way later than they should have, according to the State's timeline. My thinking at the time was that you can't trust that evidence, because eyewitness testimony is completely unreliable, especially after all that time. I know they point the finger at the people who burgled the neighbor's house, but you'd think after ALL this time, if someone other Scott killed her, we'd hear about it from a witness who couldn't keep quiet or someone in prison knowing something, just like we solve many other cases that had bad convictions that ended up being overturned. After years, an alternate suspect pops up, and we begin to hear their name. Before, they haven't specifically had a particular suspect they were pointing the finger at, but maybe in this documentary they will. How can someone who knows something keep quiet all these years if there was an alternate suspect?

Then mostly what I can't get around is that man's behavior. If he IS innocent, wow, he did NOT care about Laci at all. I'm mean, obviously he didn't. His behaviors, lying, and actions were what made a lot of people think he was guilty. What was up with his behavior IF he is innocent? His nonchalant behavior about her being missing, selling her car, taking off with dyed hair, tons of money, and headed for the border even though he knows he is a suspect. The Amber Frey affair and him lying, saying he was at the Eiffel Tower at Laci's candlelight vigil. Can he still be a psychopath but innocent? Would any one of us behave that way if the finger was pointed at us? I know everyone is different, but DAMN, he shady. But I know you can't look at behavior alone; you need solid evidence.

So those were the reasons where I was like, no, they are just trying to get him out of prison; he is guilty. But now that the Innocence Project picked it up, I have to re-think things and be open to the fact he may be innocent. That would BLOW my mind.

What do you guys think? Do you think he is innocent?

Ok, what Sammy and Steph have is kinda toxic. She is waaaay too into him for this to be a "kinda sorta" friends-with-benefits relationship. He wants his cake and to eat it, too. She sees his accident as a way they've gotten closer and more serious. He sees it as a second chance to see what is out there, be single, and get his groove thing on. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to be single. These two people just need to be honest with one another. She needs to woman up and say, "I want to be in a committed relationship with you, and I don't want you to see anyone else, and it will hurt if you do," but she doesn't want to look like an idiot because he's probably not down for that, but instead she is going to suffer inside.

But she needs to say that to get it off her chest so she knows once and for all if he has those feelings back so he can at least say to her, "Sorry, I don't feel that way about you, so let's end it here, and I want to be single," and he can do his own thing free and clear and she can have a clear end. But instead they did this wishy washy "oh we are still doing this kinda sorta thing, I can still flirt with others just don't do it in front of me," and that is not fair to her or him. She gets hurt because, technically, he is still tied to her in some way, and he can't fully be released from her clutches and fully flirt freely because he has Steph in tow. (Even though he is flirting freely, he would know he didn't have Steph as a backup, although we all know she would still be one even with a solid breakup talk)

What is embarrassing is the fact that Sammy treated her that way by flirting with Krista blatantly in her face when she asked him not to. Then Steph has amnesia and makes out/hooks up with him again after that ( per previews we keep seeing). It's like women love to let men have chance after chance to hurt them after they've been hurt before.

I'm with John; this whole love triangle is messy for the friend group party vacation! Never let someone be your kinda sorta boyfriend, ladies. It's too toxic.

I'm still so irked by Guillermo. Yes, I think Kara can act fake sometimes. Everyone calls her out for "crocodile tears!" but I see her actually crying. Because I see a dude totally judging her instead of rooting for her and being supportive. Yes, I do find myself rolling my eyes at her at times. But I think the reason I don't judge her that harshly and give her so much grace with the choosing to be a singer,  with what she wears, with drinking, partying, and posting naked pictures, is the same reason I don't judge strippers, escorts, or OnlyFans models. ( And now you will roll your eyes at me for what I write next) I don't judge so harshly because I feel it's a form of misogynistic shaming in itself, used to police how women behave, dress, or express their authentic interests. 

Kara did what she did. And I feel Guillermo won't give her a path to forgiveness. The man seems incapable of forgiveness or giving any grace. What is done is done, and I have no idea if she is still indulging in the behaviors he still has a problem with. But she is here in therapy to try and make it work, and she has an idea of what some of the problems are. It can't all be about naked photos. So what does he want her to do about THE PAST issues? If she is still doing Onlyfans, and he can't get over it, then he has to find a path to working with her as a co-parent and get off his high horse.  She can't do anything about past issues, and he seems fixated on it. Is he ever going to focus on forgiving her and focusing on the future? Now, he makes sure in every single segment, we know what a "bad person" Kara is and how wrong she is at everything. His self-righteousness nauseates me.

What I would like to see from Guillermo is for him to come back down from Earth, be less judgmental in thought and tone, work through and ask her, "What happened that made you feel you had to do these things in our marriage?" "Was there anything I did?" "Is there anything I can do now that can help you in this process?" Or any other questions that seem to relate to being supportive and helpful. Because it takes 2. As of right now, Guillermo sees this as HER problem to fix. It's all her fault. She needs to FIX HERSELF. No, he needs to fix himself, too. Because the way he communicates with her is not working. The way he is acting, he wants to shame her, blame her, and judge her because he is hurt. But right now, he needs to be a partner and help, and vice versa. 

We all know how it ends, and she ends up on Hunt for Love ( so what I hear anyway.) And after seeing him punish her while acting like Mr. perfect and putting no effort, I say, have fun, Kara.

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On 90 Day Diaries, we see an update from Sam and Citra. He says, "Since Aeris was born, everything's been amazing"... then contradicts himself and soon says, "However, things are not so good." And that is hard to hear because their marriage and family are so new and so young. He admits he "put himself in the wrong crowd and put himself in a bad situation and relapsed," And you have to think they have only been married 2 years. What has to have happened where he feels he has to hang out with the wrong people and do drugs when he has this beautiful family at home, this soon or at all? It's not like they have been married for years and things have been grinding on him, and he needs an escape. But yet, I know addiction is rough, because I have been there. ( and I'm not there anymore, thank goodness)

I hope for their sake that he is not trying to white-knuckle through it alone and that he has resources. He should be going to meetings and counseling on a continuous, ongoing basis throughout his life. It seems like he has made up with Citra and his father-in-law, who seems really supportive. But I side-eye Sam's "plan" to prove his seriousness that he won't mess up again. To become a cop? I think this is something he can throw out there as a band-aid for now, to calm the storm, to win everyone back and believe him in the moment. To appease everyone because it sounds good. But does Sam really want to become a cop? Do you think he can do it? At the end of the segment, he really looked like he was struggling, and I couldn't tell whether I believed his words. Honestly, he should tell his family, his focus is his sobriety by going to meetings and counseling, and maybe even seeing a Doctor to see if he suffers from anything where he needs medication. Alot of people who suffer from addiction have undiagnosed mental health issues, and once that is resolved, sobriety is so much easier. He deserves for things to be as easy as possible for him. I hate to see him struggle.

I hope they can make it.

We all know how everyone feels about Kara and all her characteristics, and Guillermo is a saint. But I'm giving her a break today, and I'm saying that Guillermo's behavior is bugging me and has been bugging me for a while. When they were at the group therapy, and she was giving her reasons why things were a problem for her in the relationship, G just ran over her and dismissed her issues and got right down to what his main issues are. I get it that's probably the biggest bulk of what broke them up, but damn-what she was explaining was probably the beginnings of her starting her behaviors. I don't like the way he dismissed her. It was all about what he thought. He can't conceive that she has issues in the marriage; in his head, it's all about him and why he left, who cares about her feelings or perceived issues.

She was right- there were issues before. Like when he wanted to be a pilot, and it was 60k for school, and they didn't have the money, and they really needed insurance for Nico. So she wanted him to get a job with insurance for now and start working and saving a chunk of that 60k for school before committing. I saw nothing wrong with that. And I don't think he wanted to do that. Her dream of being a singer was just more feasible, and that's where the problems came. Plus, he had businesses before. He'd start businesses, Kara would help him, and he would later quit. So how did she know he was serious about being a pilot? Working for part of the 60k they didn't have for school would be a good start.

Then the way he responds to Kara at the retreat. She will talk to him normally, and his tone is condescending back, "mmhh hmmm," "uhhh huh," and it's like, get over yourself, dude. She knows you're mad at her. Just talk to her like a grown-up. He wants to punish her as much as possible. Then, they BOTH revealed they slept with other people during their separation. The first thing G did in the room was confront her about this man she slept with, as if he didn't admit to doing it himself. And now it's an issue of who did it when and who did it first. And I kinda agree with her that he wants to make her the villain, even though she is doing a great job on her own. I have no idea if Kara really kissed someone, but maybe G is pushing the narrative so hard to make her the ultra villian in everyone's eyes, so it makes him less accountable as a less-than-stellar husband. Because we forget in the beginning, she was doing a lot with work, etc, and G was young and not doing much as a husband, but he was always a great father.

Then the whole "are you proud to call her the mother of your child" ... No.

This man is acting like she is drugged up hooker that never looked after his child. He is so damn judgmental of her. And no matter what she does, he won't give 1 ounce of grace at all. Even if she hurt you as a wife, she is not a bad mother. And he has this whole buttoned-up version of himself he is laying on thick, too to make the contrast wih Kara ever so clear. He doesn't drink anymore, or so it seems, he's prim and proper, crosses his legs. Come on.

Kara is a mess and did wrong, but G is a little too self-righteous.

She welcomes him in and has to tell him her "rules". I get it. She has been single for so long, and she has kids, and there have to be some rules in place for them to keep things somewhat normal for them. But it's his first morning there, and he is greeted with no special breakfast with any of his favorite foods, even though she has the means... she wants him to have what SHE normally has. She wants him to get whipped in for HER routine. It's all about her. Then he sees that the house has chocolate, "ohhh, chocolate," he says. And immediately she says, "No chocolate! No! Like he is a child. It's his new home. You want to make him feel like it's his home and he can do what he wants. He is a grown-ass man; why can't he have chocolate? This was weird to me. Why does she give a rat's ass about him having a piece of chocolate? Even if she doesn't eat chocolate in the morning or at all doesn't mean he has to be the kind of person who doesn't. She needs to allow him to be his own person, and it starts with little things like allowing him to eat chocolate whenever he chooses! lol

Then, I'm going to show you how to make the bed, she says. OK, fine, she has a certain way she likes the bed. But he sleeps there now. She tells him she likes everything tight and tucked, and Edward, in a moment of playing around, which is what they should be doing in a new, young relationship, says, "Why are we doing this when we are just going to dive into it later and make a mess?" and he jumps into the bed stopping himself, barely messing up the bed, and Marissa has a coronary. She is being so serious. He has to tighten and tuck the bed back up a bit. She has to lighten up a smidge. Ok, more than a smidge.

Then she says Let's go for a walk, it's a beautiful day and she asks him if he has socks and wants to make sure they are "clean socks". What's it to her if he wants to put back on his dirty ass socks from earlier because the day is not over and he doesn't want to waste another pair of socks that might not be that dirty at all ( I would totally put on a new pair), but I'm just saying. If he did put on a dirty pair, what would happen? Would it ruin the day? She is starting to mold into a mother figure with comments and behavior like this, and once he starts seeing her like his mommy and not his lover, that won't go away easily because I can't imagine her behavior changing. After she made that comment, did you see him give her a little face and stick his tongue out at her? ( with her back turned) I laughed.

They go on their walk, and the weather is beautiful, and she makes him "power walk," which is basically running for her, and it's like...why? Why do they HAVE to exercise right now? For one day, can they just not? Edward just arrived; it's their day to enjoy and relax. Why can't they STROLL down the gorgeous streets and take it all in while she shows him the neighborhood and tells him what is what and who is who without him being out of breath? And without her nipping at him, "Can you keep up!?" Can't they stroll down the street slowly, hand in hand, being happy they are together? What is the deal?

Wow, Shekinah. Game playing all over an unfollow on social media? Girl, get over yourself. You are all the way in England for Couples Therapy to work on your relationshit, and you want to focus on an unfollow? Who cares? Work on what you came there for and focus on you and Sarper. Be a big girl, let it go, and you can be cordial for the sake of therapy and not ruin everyone's time. Yet, I still know this is a reality show, so this is perfect for them, that Shekinah is so childish and can focus on an unfollow and wants to not only hash it out at therapy but play games at "get under her skin" about it. And I'm not a big fan of Thais, either.

I agree with Paula on some things, Thomas did NOT do that great a job prepping for her. He had ALL this time to clean out more closet space for her because she would need more room, but he ended up giving her that one little closet. They talked about getting a real bed and a dining set, and he had that dumb table, knee pillows, and no chairs. And he didn't stock the fridge that well. He did make her that sweet meal for her at the airport, even if it was weird that he brought food just for her to eat, and what was he going to do, watch? Why wouldn't he pick her up and just take her to a nice vegan restaurant so they can both enjoy?

BUT the one thing I think she is being ridiculous about is the " you will never eat meat in this apartment again." What? The guy eats meat. He is your other half. Respect that. You are vegan. He respects that. Why do YOUR preferences and wants outweigh his? It's called compromise, sweetheart. Don't deny him his dietary choices. I've been a vegetarian on and off since I was in high school ( I'm in my 40's). There was no way I was going to deny my roommate, who was either a friend, a stranger, a fiancé, or a husband, to cook and eat what pleases them in their life every day in their own home, because I'm disgusted with it. That is not fair.

There is a way to live respectfully around each other's groceries and try not to cross-contaminate when using kitchen appliances. People can have their own drawers and space in the refrigerator that doesn't touch each other's things, and if needed, have their own kitchen appliances, so when someone is using something for vegetables, you know their meat hasn't rubbed all over it. And if meat is cooking and someone hates the smell ( I can't stand the smell with certain meats), they can go for a walk or go into another room, open a window, burn a candle, and deal with it like an adult. Then, when the meat eater is done cooking and eating, he/she can swiftly clean and air out the kitchen/house. I don't think Paula should deny Thomas the ability to make and eat meat in his own house for the rest of his life. What do you think?

Real Detective has always been my all-time favorite ID show. It's the most expensive (or was) produced show for the network, and it was filmed so well with great actors, and each episode was so heartbreaking. I remember it premiered the same night in 2016 as Evil Lives Here. In Real Detective, I think about each of those stories ALL of the time. My brother has just gotten into true crime, and of course, I want to show him Season 1 & 2 of Real Detective, so I mosey on over to Discovery+, where Season 1 & 2 should be, and only Season 2 is there. So I go to Google it and see what platforms have it. Every platform I look at, only season 2 is there. Amazon, I can only buy episodes of Season 2, Apple only has Season 2. Not this shit again. What happened! NO!!!! Why?!! Both Seasons are great, but Season 1 is my favorite. I need it. Where can I write Discovery ID Customer Service or someone who would have some answers? I'd be better off finding out who produces the show and contacting them. Any suggestions? I'm really pissed.

Just as the title asks, I've already had my cat on a harness and leash and had walked her outside, but she didn't do it very well, and she got very angry when I got her in the harness and when I had to take her back inside. So I decided to start all over from the beginning with properly training her. Please don't make fun of me, but ChatGPT put together an in-depth training guide for my cat to use a harness.

It's going pretty well, but I feel it's going too slowly. We've been training 2x a day for over a week and a half. He wants me to practice putting on the harness on my cat and have her walking around in it around the house for 3 weeks before I can take her outside, and my cat is doing well in it, and she understands that this is so we can start going outside. How long until you guys hit outside?

Seriously, after watching that segment where Jasmine hosts Thanksgiving, trying her best (and I dislike Jasmine vehemently, and I'm sticking up for her here), and Matt's Mom is being annoying and he can't help at all steer Mom away from the kitchen, he's like, "what do you want me to do?" (Tell Mom to get out of the kitchen, Jasmine's prepping, come over here and relax, Mom, tell Matilda and me about your day... just bullshit her Matt.)

Then, after dinner, Matt's mom leaves a letter for Jasmine basically saying, " I don't give you my blessing without commitment and marriage, as you are living in sin. Your clothiing selection is immodest. All of this could have been avoided if Matt had chosen a woman who shares our background. Perhaps a Romanian who understands our traditions. Thanks for Thanksgiving! With love!" Jasmine reads this to Matt. Matt, with no emotion, says yeah I agree with Mom.

You do? Then YOU ARE PART OF IT DUDE. Then YOU should have chosen a Romanian girl, or a more submissive girl. But you didn't. You chose Jasmine, and now you are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole and are putting it ALL on Jasmine to figure out. Jasmine is who she is, and you don't stick up for her in front of your Mom, 1 aota. Instead, Matt cherry picks the part about "commitment and marriage." But why should Jasmine give that part of herself to you if you are not accepting who she is as is?

Plus, he is controlling. Telling her what to wear, what is acceptable, what is not, don't wear your high heels anymore because it makes me look short. Who knows what else there is he controls; that is just what Jasmine shares. And how dare Matt's Mom complain about Jasmine's clothes? She has dialed it down so much, I feel! Everyone thinks he is so golden because he has the right disposition to "handle" someone like Jasmine. Well, does he have the right emotional depth to mesh with Jasmine? To make her happy in the long run? Or is this control going to eat at her in the long run...it already has.

All Jasmine wants to hear is realness. She wants to get married, not because they have a child together...but because they have a child together AND they are in love. And he not only won't give that to her.... he MOCKS her for it. He mocks her for wanting the love part. He wants to marry because they have a child together.

I think Matt is a jackass. Sure, he is a great Dad now, but I do worry about him later being a Girl Dad, and chipping away at her confidence.

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We see Cortney and Phil tell Colt to get the hell out of dodge, and Cortney says this is it, after this, I have to cut communication with you so I can focus on my relationship with Phil. During BTS, Sophie asks Cortney point-blank," Did you really cut off Colt?" and Cort said "Yes! I did....buuut then a month later Phil and I had a big fight, and I unblocked Colt and we were just friends and I told him to break up with Diana cause he was whining that he was miserable and so me and Elise told him to come for my birthday, I invited everyone from Hunt for Love and we were scared Diana was going to euthanize Colt because she was a veterinarian"

Colt alleges that Cortney never cut him off, and she always stayed in touch with him at least once a week and then some. Then he says she asked him and him only to come for her birthday - him and not everyone else- there was no group chat, to go to Mexico, and she emailed hotels to get deals, and says we can travel, etc. Colt says he told her, "No, I'm staying in Brazil with Diana," and that is when Cortney blocked him for "realsies."

The next thing Colt says is well, it's not really an allegation, so much as an opinion, but he says he was sad that Phil and Cortney were engaged simply because he doesn't think they are a good couple. He said Cortney is deathly afraid of losing her parents. When he said that, I could totally relate. I felt for her in that regard. But then he said that the fear of losing them stemmed from the fact that she would have no one to help her. lol. To take care of her financially anymore. (My reason is that I would miss them, lol) So he feels she ran to Phil, so she has someone to fill that void once her parents are gone. She doesn't want the worry of taking care of herself.

So do you think these things are true? Colt is a leech, a lush, a jackass, and much more, but I can see some truth to these things. I don't know. I dislike judging or saying things are true in a definite, we can only speculate. But this is the 90 Day Reddit after all. They put themselves on TV, we come here and talk about it and dissect it.