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The title.

My son is 10 months.

I feel like since 6 months old we are a mess. Its a constant tornado of “issues” and I put issues in quotes bc I’m a FTM and prob just worn out and inexperienced lol

We never string more than 1 good day in a row. The good day will happen - ok overnight sleep, good naps, eating solids, happy mood. Then something comes up - a million wake ups, disrupted nap, stomach ache from solids, TEETHING ALL THE F******* TIME, a new milestone or development that doesn’t = sleeping for reasons I’ll never understand. My baby is especially active and sensitive so that doesn’t help.

I just wanna have a few days in a row of peace. Sorry needed to vent somewhere.

My LO is 10 months. Anyone have recs for one of those baby pool floats (or any other ideas for me)?

We have a community pool and I feel like all the floats I’m finding in stores are huge and I dont wanna be that person taking up a ton of space LOL

Oakland Beach now only offers parking to non-residents after 12 pm on Friday, Saturday & Sunday.

I feel like I remember there being somewhere else to park before 12 pm. Not the Playland parking lot but like a smaller lot in between?

My friend thinks I am totally remembering this wrong.

Anyone know?

As background:
My husband and I have been together for 10 years. I always got along with my MIL. We were not close, she was pleasant when I saw her. We had a baby 10 months ago and since he was born my MIL has been a nightmare.

A few highlights:
- at 4 weeks old she wanted to take my baby to her house for an entire weekend. I said no bc I was completely uncomfortable with that. I later overheard her complaining to a family member that i was “controlling and refuse her help”.

- my MIL works full time 40 hours a week 9-5. She complains she doesnt see baby enough and he “doesnt know her”. My husband takes the baby to her house nearly every weekend. I never say no when she wants to come visit.

- She is EXTREMELY jealous my mom (who is retired) babysits 3x a week while I work.

- shes made many criticisms to me that my baby doesnt like to be held bc I am giving him separation anxiety.

- her and my FIL live 30 min away and are planning to sell their house and move to our town.

So shes nuts.

BUT my question is: is this amplified bc my son is still a baby?

A friend of mine said recently that her MIL backed off once her kiddo became a terrible two LOL

Do I have any hope? (Its ok to be honest and tell me to accept my fate 😂😂)

*Update: thank you all for your comments!! Working Moms supporting Working Moms! Woo!

I feel like y’all are a nice crowd for this rant and rant I MUST! LOL

I WFH full-time. I have childcare 3 days a week for solid work blocks but definitely not for my full 9-5 day everyday. I will admit my job does think I have full-time child care. BUT…….

My work is deadline based and I NEVER miss one. I manage my calendar pretty tightly so I can avoid having calls when I’m alone with my LO (10 months) but besides that I am responsive and - again - my work gets done in the timeframe its supposed to. My boss has no complaints. I recently got a great review.

I see on other subs Moms talking about their WFH experience and get comments back accusing them of wage fraud, that their kids should be in daycare all day, that is not fair to their employers. MY OWN MOTHER IN LAW has suggested I’m not being fair to my job. Moms are just trying to survive in this economy. Do people not know the cost of daycare??

Heres my thing: are we seriously pretending that employees do nothing but their job for 40 hours a week? No childfree WFH peeps throwing in a load of laundry or running errands? No in-office people taking a long lunch? Or scrolling their phone?

What does it matter if sometimes I’m answering emails from my kids playpen???

I posted this in another sub as well but am curious to open up to y’all Moms over here. #help

As background:
My LO 10 months slept through the night from 10 weeks to 6 months then it all went to crap. Hourly wakes, teething, development, regressions, crib aversion. We’ve settled on a floor bed, I lay with him to fall asleep and we do co-sleep part of the night (i take the early evening to myself). No overnight feedings (we formula feed). (Even tried offering an overnight bottle recently again and hes not interested) His sleep has “improved” to 4-5 wakes per night.

I have tried every wake window, schedule, capping naps, adding naps, going down to 1 nap. I paid a consultant for help. His daytime is ok and hes happy but nights are rough. Out of desperation we tried different sleep training methods including full extinction CIO - 2 nights in a row he cried til he threw up.

If we respond to his wakes quickly he settles with some back rubs but if we let him try to settle back on his own he escalates and the wake ups get long. I am SO TIRED.

I need to ask the question I am terrified to ask. What if hes just a bad sleeper? What if hes not sleeping through the night at 18 months, 2 yrs, 3 yrs? What does that look like? I am tired now and its only a few months since hes slept through. I work full time and my work is suffering.

Can parents of kiddos who struggle to sleep through advise what you do to get rest? Are you ok? (On top of all this LO will not settle for Dad at all!)

Im not looking for sleep training advice so Im hoping this is the right sub for this issue/question.

As background:
My LO 10 months slept through the night from 10 weeks to 6 months then it all went to crap. Hourly wakes, teething, development, regressions, crib aversion. We’ve settled on a floor bed, I lay with him to fall asleep and we do co-sleep part of the night (i take the early evening to myself). No overnight feedings (we formula feed). His sleep has “improved” to 4-5 wakes per night.

I have tried every wake window, schedule, capping naps, adding naps, going down to 1 nap. I paid a consultant for help. His daytime is ok and hes happy but nights are rough. Out of desperation we tried different sleep training methods including full extinction CIO - 2 nights in a row he cried til he threw up.

If we respond to his wakes quickly he settles with some back rubs but if he let him try to settle back on his own he escalates and the wake ups get long. I am SO TIRED.

I need to ask the question I am terrified to ask. What if hes just a bad sleeper? What if hes not sleeping through the night at 18 months, 2 yrs, 3 yrs? What does that look like? I am tired now and its only a few months since hes slept through. I work full time and my work is suffering.

Can parents of kiddos who struggle to sleep through advise what you do to get rest? Are you ok? (On top of all this LO will not settle for Dad at all!)

THX!

I have a 10 month old who was a great sleeper STTN from 10 weeks until the 6 month sleep regression then things went to shit. We’ve gotten sleep to a manageable place most of the time. (We do comfort him during wake ups - CIO did not go well so no sleep training advice please!)

BUT every time he hits a milestone his night sleep completely falls apart.

This week he started taking steps to walk - well it has equated to hourly wake ups for the last 4 nights. Usually for wake ups he can either self soothe or I can just rub his back quick but now the wake ups include crying, tossing and turning and lengthy elaborate moaning. (He is not sick and I even tried tylenol in case he is having pain)

Every. Time. He. Hits. A. Milestone. This. Happens.

His pediatrician says sleep disruptions around milestones is totally normal and to just keep our routine. But this feels not ok. Does this happen to anyone else here?

I feel like I can’t enjoy these moments of growth because his sleep is so sensitive. Its one thing after another - crawling, babbling, etc. NON STOP. I am happy hes healthy and growing but I’ll get maybe 3 nights of good sleep before it gets ruined by something. I AM EXHAUSTED. My only friend with a baby right now has a unicorn sleeper and I’m so jealous.

Obviously her husband’s affair is a big storyline.

BUT given that shes barely been on the show I feel like the producers are asking us to really care about and be really invested in this castmember we barely know? Isnt this kind of a stretch?

Just me?