u/Ill-Guidance-3864

I can’t decide how many bridesmaids I want in my wedding. I definitely want my sister and my lifelong friend to be co maids of honor and my two cousins who have been so helpful with planning and helping me find my wedding dress. I’d love to have my future sister in law as my matron of honor but she has two children under 5 (by the time we have our wedding), so she’s a definite yes on my list but I don’t know if she’d want to since she’d be handling the kids (we wanted her husband to officiate our wedding) hence the question mark below, BUT my fiance and I were thinking of having our bridal and groom’s party sit in the front two rows since the ceremony space is a bit small if we decided to have more than 4-5 bridesmaids/groomsmen. We also love the way pictures look with just the bride and groom and officiant.

Here’s are the options I’m considering:

Option 1:

1. My sister
2. My best friend
3. Cousin #1
4. Cousin #2
5. My sister in law?

Option 2:

1. My sister
2. My best friend
3. Cousin #1
4. Cousin #2
5. My sister in law?
6. Cousin #3

Option 3:

1. My sister
2. My best friend
3. Cousin #1
4. Cousin #2
5. My sister in law?
6. Cousin #3
7. Friend #1
8. Friend #2

My hesitancy with option 3 list is because I am close with my cousin and two friends but I keep seeing that you should only have bridesmaids that are your true ride or dies. But I can’t decide what’s true?? I love them and I know that all three would totally drop everything if I needed help but we don’t talk/hang out regularly unless it’s a group setting and the friendships are somewhat new compared to the other women I want in my bridal party AND I don’t know if that’s too many bridesmaids. I’ve heard the more bridesmaids, the more logistical issues you run into. I do want a bachelorette trip, my family wants to throw me a bridal shower, so they’d be invited to that the rehearsal party and the wedding.

My bachelorette trip would be a weekend trip that’s an hour drive away from where we all live in California. The only person who would maybe need to fly out is my sister but she may be attending grad school back in California by that time. It also wouldn’t be a party kind of trip - we would hike, cook food at the Airbnb and maybeee grab dinner and drinks or brunch one of the days/nights depending on what everyone’s vibe, so I think it’d be a lower budget version of a bachelorette trip.

We won’t be having a MUA or hair stylist for the wedding to cut down on costs.

I want to keep our wedding and wedding events as cheap as possible in light of everything. We’re also young so I want to be mindful of budget but all 8 of them are asking if I’m having a bachelorette party or trip or bridal shower, so it seems like they’re down to do it to celebrate me

I have a very strong feeling all of the 8 women would be over the moon to be a part of my bridal party and would be willing to commit that much time (except my sister in law because she’s a stay at home mom so that may be hard on her, she may also be moving to a different state - VERY up in the air right now). They are also all fine with paying for their dresses.

So I think it’d be okay to have that many unless I’m missing something. What other logistical problems could I run into with a large bridal group?

Please share any and all thoughts. I need help deciding lol!!!

Hi everyone, I have been debating whether or not I should quit my job (I work as a concierge at a non profit gym that is also a community center) or stick with it until I reach my two year mark, which is coming up this August, and apply to other jobs until then. I do not have a job lined up but I have been experiencing anxiety and cry almost every other day because I feel like I’m wasting my young years in a job that I’m not passionate about.

Pros of the job:

• stable income (not much but I get about $4,000-5,000 a month)
• makes me productive and gives me a routine (I tend to scroll more on my days off bc I have more time in the day)
• love my coworkers
• fun events
• sorta good benefits (free healthcare but high deductible)
• free gym membership for me and my fiancée
• can get paid to work out (if I go to a group exercise class)
• super close to my apartment (about a 10-15 minute commute)

Cons of the job:

• constantly have to call hundreds of people who join our facility (which makes me feel overwhelmed and constantly behind - despite my manager telling me I’ll always be behind on phone calls and that’s okay as long as we’re trying to reach out)
• I often have to work odd weeks (not my regular Tuesday-Saturday work week) because I work a weekend event which sometimes land on a Sunday
• I often think about work outside of my schedule
• I feel like every other week I’m failing at something, whether that’s failing at eating well or failing at working out consistently which are huge goals for me

Every day I feel exhausted and barely have enough energy to make dinner for my partner and I. I’ve been trying to get back into hobbies so I’m not rotting in front of the tv but oftentimes rarely have the mental capacity to do it.

I just feel like even when I was working two part time jobs (totaled to about 30 hours a week) I wasn’t nearly as exhausted as I am working 1 full time job (40 hours a week).

Summer time is my work’s busiest season so I feel bad for my manager because she’d be juggling essentially three jobs until 7/15 (when my coworker comes back). I have a great relationship with my boss and have been dealing with migraines and health issues for the past year and she has been super supportive and understanding about my limitations. However I lead a very healthy lifestyle and all of my test results have come back normal, so I think my migraines may be caused by my job (they started about a few months after I started working for this company full time)

My fiancée thinks that we’re okay financially for me to quit without having another job lined up. He is perfectly fine with financially supporting me and his business is doing really well. So much so that he feels like he needs an administrative assistant which is sometime I could help him with and would be similar to what I’m doing now, but just less hours. Plus I could work a part time job if I want my own/extra income.

Anyways, what do yall think I should do?