u/Imaginary-Leopard581

Hey, so I'm 21M introvert and I have no experience with dating at all. About 2 months ago I developed a crush on my university classmate (who is an introvert and Catholic). I decided to try to act immediately, so we've been on 3 one-on-one meetings outside of university so far. During the first one we walked for 40 minutes, then sat on a bench for another 40 minutes, and talked during both of these activities. On the second one we had coffee for an hour and then another walk for 1.5 hours. On the 3rd one we had some pastries for 40 minutes and then again walked for over 2 hours. This was 3 weeks ago.

I have learned so much about her and I am really into her, I mean we were constantly talking during those meetings. I know that she commutes for 3 hours every day just to get to classes, so she prefers to stay home when she doesn't need to go anywhere. She mostly spends her free time reading books, watching movies and tv shows, and playing computer games. We have also studied together twice for maybe a total of 4 hours and we have both helped each other with some things. During the 3rd meeting we made plans to go to movies together after exams (so around mid May) when our classes are over.

Around a week ago, I asked her if she'd like to go to the cinema this week, and told her I was free all Wednesday and Thursday afternoon. She wasn’t sure because of her thesis and an upcoming exam, and she felt like staying home to rest before her weekend trip. I said I understood and suggested we could try the following week.

Yesterday, I asked again if any day this week would work for the cinema. She said that she is unsure because she wanted to rest and she spend time with her sister who just finished her final school exams, and she might be able to meet for 3 hours on Thursday afternoon when she's visiting the city while her sister is at an appointment. Then she added that if the cinema doesn't work out, we could just meet up instead.

I feel like I made my interest in her clear by now. We are both introverts and there hasn't been any physical contact between us yet, I mean even the meetings weren't explicitly called "dates". So I feel like I have to do something now to not end up in the friendzone. I mean I paid for her, I said some things like how I really like spending time with her, I complimented her nails when she showed them to me on 2 separate occasions and even said that she herself is pretty (when I compliment her she usually thanks me while smiling in a quieter voice). But I don't think it's enough?

I'm completely unsure what to do when we meet again in 2 days. Despite her knowing about my intentions for a long time now she hasn't rejected me yet, she still wants to meet with me. Idk, should I tell her how I feel next time? I'm really lost.

Hey, so I'm 21M and I have no experience with dating at all. 1.5 months ago I developed a crush on my university classmate. I decided to try to act immediately, so we've been on 3 dates so far. During the first one we walked for 40 minutes, then sat on a bench for another 40 minutes, and talked during both of these activities. On the second one we had a coffee for an hour and then another walk for 1.5 hours. On the 3rd one we had some pastries for 40 minutes and then again walked for over 2 hours. So I have learned so much about her and I am really into her, I mean we were constantly talking during those dates. We have also studied together twice for maybe a total of 4 hours and we have both helped each other with some things. Next week we are going to the movies and I want our relationship to start moving into a romantic territory instead of just friendship, so how do I communicate that with her? We are both introverts and there hasn't been any physical contact between us yet, I mean even the dates weren't explicitly called "dates". So I feel like I have do something now to not end up in the friendzone. I mean I said some things like I how really like spending time with her, I complemented her nails when she showed them to me on 2 separate occasions and even said that she herself is pretty (when I complement her she usually thanks me smiling in a quieter voice). But I don't think it's enough? So I started thinking it might be a good time to tell her how I feel after the movies but I don't really know how to do this...

My last post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/eoci2KvW2b

Since then my urges have definitely decreased, I have been on another date with that girl and we are planning another one. So everything has been going great, but I still don't really see why PMOing for 10 years was bad. So I am still looking for motivation so I don't relapse if I don't manage to become her boyfriend.

TL;DR: I [21M] have Asperger's and have been getting close to a girl [21F] from my math major. We’re both pretty introverted and shy. We’ve been steadily building a connection through study sessions and one-on-one meetings outside of university. We just had an amazing 3-hour walking date where I skipped my classes just to spend more time with her. She even gave me a huge opening by showing me her nails up close, but I just complimented her instead of touching her hand. We locked in a movie date for mid-May. How do I naturally move things forward without her scaring her off?

I’m a 3rd-year math major with Asperger's and there's a girl in my classes. We've known each other for over a year now, but we only started getting really close over the last month.

It started in late March when she invited me to a uni job fair (twice, I rejected it the first time), specifically adjusting her schedule to match mine. We ended up ditching it after 20 minutes for a spontaneous walk through a park (that I suggested) followed by a talk while sitting on a bench (which she suggested).

Right after the Easter break, things escalated. We went on what felt like our first unofficial date (I initiated it). We grabbed coffee, and she immediately suggested we go for a walk after we finish so we wouldn't just be sitting at a table. So after an hour we went on a walk that lasted over an hour and a half. We even realized we went to the exact same kindergarten 15 years ago, which is a crazy coincidence! Following that, we started spending even more one-on-one time together, including a dedicated study session in the library before our midterms (which she suggested) and generally helping each other out with uni stuff.

We finally locked in another coffee/pastry meetup for this past Wednesday, and honestly, the vibe was incredible.

We met up, and when we were ordering, I offered to pay for her. She smiled, asked "Really?", and was super thankful. We sat together, but after we finished eating (which took like 40 minutes), she immediately suggested we go for a walk by the river and the castle.

The meeting ended up lasting 3 hours. I actually had a class scheduled halfway through, but I was enjoying my time with her so much that I told her I’m just going to skip it because I am really enjoying spending time with her. She seemed really happy about that. We talked the entire time—there was basically no awkward silence. I learned a lot about her family history, her childhood, her pets, and found out she’s a practicing Catholic (which is cool since we share similar backgrounds).

Here is the moment where I think I might have missed an opportunity. At one point, she brought her hand close to me to show me her nails, explaining that they change color depending on the temperature. I looked at them, and instead of holding her hand (it didn't even cross my mind that I could do that, I only realized it later), I just complimented her nails and told her that she looks really pretty. She smiled, and softly and quietly said "thank you." Later on during the walk, she showed me her nails again, to underline that they've changed color.

By the end of the walk, we officially agreed to go to the movies together in mid-May once our final assessments are over and to study together for an exam on Monday. Afterwards, I texted her saying I had a great time and that skipping my class was totally worth it. She texted back saying she was glad I didn't regret skipping and thanked me for the walk and the treat.

I feel like we both have shown that we are interested in each other. I think I’ve made it pretty clear I like her (paying for her, skipping class, calling her pretty, asking her to spend time with me), and she is super receptive, but she’s an introvert so she isn't making any aggressive moves herself.

I haven't initiated any physical contact yet—we haven't even hugged—and we haven't explicitly used the word "date".

How should I play this upcoming movie date? Did I mess up by not grabbing her hand when she showed me her nails? Any advice on how I can naturally break the touch barrier and shift the dynamic for good without making it awkward?

TL;DR: I [21M] have Asperger's and have been getting close to a girl [21F] from my math major. We’re both pretty introverted and shy. We’ve been steadily building a connection through study sessions and one-on-one meetings outside of university. We just had an amazing 3-hour walking date where I skipped my classes just to spend more time with her. She even gave me a huge opening by showing me her nails up close, but I just complimented her instead of touching her hand. We locked in a movie date for mid-May. How do I naturally move things forward without her scaring her off?

I’m a 3rd-year math major with Asperger's and there's a girl in my classes. We've known each other for over a year now, but we only started getting really close over the last month.

It started in late March when she invited me to a uni job fair (twice, I rejected it the first time), specifically adjusting her schedule to match mine. We ended up ditching it after 20 minutes for a spontaneous walk through a park (that I suggested) followed by a talk while sitting on a bench (which she suggested).

Right after the Easter break, things escalated. We went on what felt like our first unofficial date (I initiated it). We grabbed coffee, and she immediately suggested we go for a walk after we finish so we wouldn't just be sitting at a table. So after an hour we went on a walk that lasted over an hour and a half. We even realized we went to the exact same kindergarten 15 years ago, which is a crazy coincidence! Following that, we started spending even more one-on-one time together, including a dedicated study session in the library before our midterms (which she suggested) and generally helping each other out with uni stuff.

We finally locked in another coffee/pastry meetup for this past Wednesday, and honestly, the vibe was incredible.

We met up, and when we were ordering, I offered to pay for her. She smiled, asked "Really?", and was super thankful. We sat together, but after we finished eating (which took like 40 minutes), she immediately suggested we go for a walk by the river and the castle.

The meeting ended up lasting 3 hours. I actually had a class scheduled halfway through, but I was enjoying my time with her so much that I told her I’m just going to skip it because I am really enjoying spending time with her. She seemed really happy about that. We talked the entire time—there was basically no awkward silence. I learned a lot about her family history, her childhood, her pets, and found out she’s a practicing Catholic (which is cool since we share similar backgrounds).

Here is the moment where I think I might have missed an opportunity. At one point, she brought her hand close to me to show me her nails, explaining that they change color depending on the temperature. I looked at them, and instead of holding her hand (it didn't even cross my mind that I could do that, I only realized it later), I just complimented her nails and told her that she looks really pretty. She smiled, and softly and quietly said "thank you." Later on during the walk, she showed me her nails again, to underline that they've changed color.

By the end of the walk, we officially agreed to go to the movies together in mid-May once our final assessments are over and to study together for an exam on Monday. Afterwards, I texted her saying I had a great time and that skipping my class was totally worth it. She texted back saying she was glad I didn't regret skipping and thanked me for the walk and the treat.

I feel like we both have shown that we are interested in each other. I think I’ve made it pretty clear I like her (paying for her, skipping class, calling her pretty, asking her to spend time with me), and she is super receptive, but she’s an introvert so she isn't making any aggressive moves herself.

I haven't initiated any physical contact yet—we haven't even hugged—and we haven't explicitly used the word "date".

How should I play this upcoming movie date? Did I mess up by not grabbing her hand when she showed me her nails? Any advice on how I can naturally break the touch barrier and shift the dynamic for good without making it awkward?