u/Important_Fall_8780

Idk where to start, but let me maybe give a preview, my bf(35M) and I (26F) met online 2 years ago and started as friends, but when we met, he started being flirty, and it was consensual, which led to a relationship, no proposal, just a comfortable shift in labels and energy 6 months in. I was happy since I thought he was being all in by wanting to marry me soon, even at times asking me to register marriage at the courthouse in a day or two, but I always managed to make him understand to wait and get to know each other.

The man was patient with me, or so I thought. Everything seemed like a perfect match, then he asked me to let his mother stay at our place since she had retired and had no place to stay. Mind you, he told me his parents own their home. We were paying rent equally. I did tell him I feel uncomfortable getting intimate with him with his mother in the other room, and he always dismissed it.

A few weeks later, he started asking me to quit my job since work life is hectic and I should rest more, and he will take care of me. He did take care of me financially at times, ngl. Even gave me a card with more than 40k just to accept staying at home. But I told him, I feel bad taking money from him since he works hard, and also, I feel unsafe without financial independence. We had a couple of fights about it, but I stayed my ground, thankfully. Once, we were playing a game and started teasing each other, and when I teased him about what if I leave him, he told me with a blank face that if it happens, he will kill me. I went numb and asked what`s up, and he said very seriously What else do I expect him to do. I told him that it was clearly a joke, but what he said is disturbing, and he replied ahh I thought fuck this bitch and it made me say that. I gave him a cold shoulder for a few weeks over it, but he coaxed me and was very soft to me that I forgave him.

A year into the relationship, I felt I was alone in the relationship since he would dismiss any issues I brought up in the relationship, like feeling emotionally neglected or misunderstood, and made me feel that bringing up issues makes him sad, so I kept it within me, which made me very resentful of him.

3 days ago, I was watching a casefile on YT, since I do to relax. He was sitting around working on his laptop, but when the video stated that the abuser committed Domestic violence against his wife and abandoned her while she was pregnant. He turned to me and said Don`t worry, I won`t leave you if I get you pregnant. I was taken aback and asked him what made him say that. He said he just wants to let me know that. Idk why, but my gut just squeezed shut and I started trembling at his statement. Idk how I spent the rest of the day with him around, but when he went to work the next day, I left with an overnight bag and texted him about the breakup. I just can`t bring myself to talk to him, and even thinking of him gives me paralyzing anxiety.

My mother also called me when she got to know of the matter. I think he told her, she told me that I am overreacting since he was only reassuring me, considering I was a virgin when he met me, and he was my first boyfriend.

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One thing was that maybe due to fear, Rain and Mu Yeol seemed hesitant at times, which turned me off a bit, and some missions weren`t possible for all the cast to do. I wanted to see Rain experience Aerobatics, was a hard miss really :(. And all three missing paragliding was also saddening.

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Hi, I am a 27(F). I am sorry to the readers because this is a long and complex post. Let me explain it in 3 points of context before the main argument:

a. My country encourages arranged marriages, and so when my father`s cousin asked for my hand in marriage for his son, my father was very encouraging of the news. He asked for my opinion, of course, and I told him that as long as I can develop compatibility with the boy, I don`t have any objection to marrying him. The connection continued for 3 years and I literally talked ONCE to him where he used cheesy pick up lines on me and told me his father is sitting beside him reading our texts (a huge turn off), other than that, despite his family being alittle less economically sound than us, his father would make backhanded remarks on us and always treat all the gifts given to them as rubbish and say condescending things. Which is why, eventually, I refused to marry him when asked for my final opinion. 2 years after the entire thing ended, I met Henry as a friend, and he is the best thing that can happen to me, so respectful to my family as well, and when he proposed, I said yes, now we are engaged.

b. We are five siblings, I am the middle child, my eldest sister is called Claire(30F), and my second eldest sarah(28F). Claire moved away from our state to pursue her career and has a great job now, where she met Matt(28M). Matt and Claire clicked immediately. It started with friendship and blossomed into a relationship with Matt pursuing Claire while Claire was hesitant due to the age gap, but eventually agreed. They dated with marriage in mind, and Matt was introduced to our family as her boyfriend. They would also take us on trips and hang out more as they treated all of us as kids.

c. Sarah was engaged to a Hudson, also related to my father`s side of the family. Sarah liked Hudson and was so happy when the proposal came, despite Hudson`s mother being against it. I know the dynamics are messy. Mind you, Hudson`s family showed a lot of red flags due to the point of Hudson asking Sarah to be the main bread earner of the family and not expect anything from him, and he would also like a traditional wife, and even when his mother insulted Sarah, he took his mother`s side. My mother asked Sarah to reconsider seeing her being so mistreated, but Sarah wouldn`t budge.

Claire and Matt took Sarah and our younger sister on a holiday last winter to a ski resort, I wasn`t able to go due to exams, and after that trip Matt started being actively in communication with Sarah which boiled down to Sarah subtly flirting with him, her reason being she wanted to TEST his loyalty to Claire and when Matt confessed feelings for Sarah, she told claire everything with blame on Matt and asked her to breakup with him. Of course, Claire was heartbroken, and eventually, with the insistence of Sarah, she broke up with Matt. Matt didn`t try to keep Claire. 2 months after their breakup, Sarah announced she had broken her engagement with Hudson, and asked all of us to block him. We did try to understand the matter and also console Hudson when he would come wait at our home all day to talk to Sarah, while she ignored him or didn`t come home. Eventually, Hudson gave up too, and just a month after her broken engagement, Sarah and Matt announced to all of us that they had gotten their marriage certificate at the courthouse, i.e., two days ago, and will be moving into our parents' house the very day.

This was when everything came out: Sarah pursued Matt, and they had an affair behind Claire`s back before she decided to pretend to be hit on by Matt, which led to Claire and Matt`s breakup. She also strung along Hudson, but when she found Matt was more financially sound than Hudson (her own words), she decided to break the engagement. Now they are married and demand that my parents vacate the entire upper portion of their house for Matt and her home, as Matt is still struggling, and our parents owe this much to her. The entire thing led to Claire having a breakdown and my parents having a shock, as a court marriage is seen negatively in our community. When they didn`t cater to her needs immediately she threw a fit and called my mother names including a S word, this ofcourse angered me and I asked her to restrain back and watch what she is saying, she told that I shouldn`t tell her what is right when I am a cheater and lack moral character, everyone knows Henry didn`t even exist in my life until after 2 years of the entire thing, and being called a cheater hit closer to home as our father cheated on our mom and we all suffered from it, I know I might have overreacted but I called her marriage as a result of an affair stating entire chain of events and she can`t fool us. After which she started crying and shut herself in a room, saying that she is treated like shit in the family, and I should apologize to her. My parents asked me to apologize to keep the peace, but I refused as she started it first, and I am done with her nonsense. My parents also got a little grim with me. My younger siblings told me I might have gone too far, and I should apologize. I haven`t talked much to anyone else in my family for the last two days, and Sarah continues to play the victim. I feel wronged not only on my behalf but also on Claire`s, too,

P.S. We only tried to console Hudson as we all knew how much Sarah loved him, and we wanted them to reconcile, of course, if Sarah wanted. Secondly, Claire has shut all of us out after the announcement of her marriage and won`t answer any calls or texts.