u/Impossible_Ad9324

I am really having a hard time processing that in a single day we get this EO, which will inevitably cut off Medicaid for recipients in particular receiving hospice and at-home care while rioters who scaled the walls of the US capitol, broke windows and smeared feces on the walls will be eligible for a taxpayer-funded handout.

I have a new baby family member with down syndrome and a heart defect. At least until after she receives her surgery and recovers from it, her daily needs are complex and require specialized equipment and training. Her mother will now presumably not be able to access Medicaid waiver services and also cannot go back to work. Any non-waiver services she may be able to obtain require her to be present when the services are provided because of their complexity—so still eliminating her return to work.

I’m just…defeated. How were these death-cult ghouls ever able to get elected.

What can we even do?

I promise if you held my sweet little baby relative for 10 seconds you couldn’t continue supporting this. Maybe that’s the solution. Anyone who wants to cut services for dying or disabled people have to first spend one day with one of the people they are so willing to let go hungry or without proper care.

I was just in the car driving somewhere with my husband. I pulled up to an intersection and he immediately told me I could turn right on red. Reader, I am almost 50 years old. I know I can turn right on red.

Obviously, having been told what to do before I had a chance to do it, I just sat at the intersection and waited for the light to change. I told him I was doing this precisely because he felt the need to give me driving instructions. (No traffic behind me.)

My husband was aghast that I remained sitting there and made the whole interaction about my driving and completely ignored that I was doing it because of his comment.

The whole thing was very petty.

But he doesn’t understand nor could ever understand how my life is a series of men telling me how to do things I already know how to do. My boss does it at work, employees at hardware and garden stores do it, my male family members do it.

I’m so gd sick of it. I’m a smart, independent, inventive person who has accomplished and continues accomplishing positive things in my life.

I cannot express how enraging my husband telling me how to drive is. It’s just one more example in a long, long history of being told how to do something I obviously know how to do.

Don’t tell me to get divorced. This is also something else I know how to do and only I have all the information needed to make a decision like that.

How do you respond to this, besides blowing a gasket and acting like a petty child? (My reaction of choice.)

In particular I’m interested in portrayals of intellectual disability more than physical, but open to all suggestions!

Why I’m asking: I have a new baby family member who was born with Down syndrome and a heart defect. Part of how I understand the world is through literature. I would like to feel I understand HER place in the world as well. I do expect not all representation in classic literature will be forward-thinking or equal to current support for people with disabilities, but I’d be thrilled to find some new works I haven’t come across.

TIA

I’ve attended three baby showers in the last year for three people completely unrelated and not in the same social circles and their baby registries have the most eye-popping expensive items.

High chairs are minimum $250. One had a stroller for $750. 😳 Baby swings and bouncers for $200. One had a whole solid wood crib for $1000 on their registry.

I checked because I was curious and you still can buy a $40-50 Greco high chair from Walmart.

Everything is aesthetic and clean lines and beige and natural wood—beautiful, really. I can’t imagine asking for that high-end an item for a GIFT.

These aren’t rich people and they aren’t inviting rich people to the baby shower.

I’m almost 50 and have kids of my own and a gaggle of nieces and nephews. My family members and I got buy sharing those cheaper high chairs and strollers and cribs. I understand needing them initially if you don’t have any source for hand-me-downs, but asking for the highest price bespoke options is absolutely wild.

Are people that brainwashed into thinking they should be buying ultra-high-end items regardless of income??

Just a quick vent.

I’m almost 50. I have 20 years experience in my field.

When my boss needs me to do something, instead of saying “can you re-organize that column of values this way”, he stands behind me and tells me what cell or row to click and where to paste it. He does not communicate this way to a young, male just-out-of-college colleague he interacts with as often as me.

Click by click instead of stringing a few words together into coherent communication.

I think I’m actually losing my mind. I’m better at excel than he is and I often have to help him. I suspect this is my punishment for knowing more.

At some point I’m going to be blunt and tell him to stop telling me where to click. It’s so insulting and frustrating.

Anyway. I wish I worked with more women.

How do you get information/l and verification of content from SMEs who are poorly engaged, skim content reviews, don’t reply to emails, give final approval too easily, etc.

I work in a manufacturing environment. I recently spend a year doing a deep review and update of one of our main product manuals. Sixty pages and highly technical. I got it approved through our mechanical engineering department and published in January.

We just got customer feedback that a critical measurement is wrong. While looking into that another segment of instruction was identified as missing.

This will cost us considerable time and money to correct. I don’t like how it reflects on my effectiveness.

These aren’t things I can verify on my own without getting the information from our engineers.

Im thinking of requiring a review from a customer who may be willing to support us and also making the approval process much more formal—signatures and explicit endorsement of the material.

Anyone else struggle with this and find a better solution?