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So my job requires constant interactions with my colleagues. I'm expected to keep an eye on everything, problem solving and making decisions for my teammates (juniors). It's not an official leadership position, though it functions like one.

I feel like everyday I'd been working to exhaustion, but new issues keep coming and don't feel like i accomplished anything. It's due to constantly being pulled here and there to review and troubleshoot others' works for 10hr/day (paid 8hr), but yeah. My brain is scattered and blank nearing the end everyday, i struggle to read documents after 6-7pm sometimes.

With the stress comes the self doubt and insecurity. During the day I'm effective and decisive, at night i got looped into rethink the day's social interactions and feel terrible. I have zero proof of all this, but i feel like I'm a terrible person, i do everything wrong, i want to run to a new city and hide there so no one remembers or interacts with me since I'm clearly just isn't good at socializing. I fantasizing of traveling because then i can be myself, with myself, and i like my company very much, plus zero expectations from anyone else. I'm planning a trip to Korea this winter, and idk if this is because i genuinely want to be there, or i just want to escape the pressure. I'm so stressed after work i lost enjoyment of my other hobbies, only traveling is left...i think.

How do i stop feeling like running away and hide from anyone who might interact with me or have expectations of me? Even at home, i don't have the energy to deal with family expectations either. Every time i read something like social or family expectations that i don't keep due to either not knowing or no energy, i feel guilty and a horrible person so i want to run away even more. I'd appreciate advice on how to fix this, and how to be more secure so i don't overthink normal interactions. Thank you!

Use work tag cause it's mainly caused by and happened at work.

So my job requires constant interactions with my colleagues. I'm expected to keep an eye on everything, problem solving and making decisions for my teammates (juniors). It's not an official leadership position, though it functions like one. I feel like everyday I'd been working to exhaustion, but new issues keep coming and don't feel like i accomplished anything. I know it's a feeling due to constantly being pulled here and there to review and troubleshoot others' works for 10hr/day, but yeah. My brain is scattered and blank nearing the end everyday, i struggle to read documents after 6-7pm sometimes.

With the stress comes the self doubt and insecurity. During the day I'm effective and decisive, at night i got looped into rethink the day's social interactions and feel terrible. I have zero proof of all this, but i feel like I'm a terrible person, i do everything wrong, i want to crawl into a new city and hide there so no one remembers or interacts with me since I'm clearly just isn't good at socializing. I fantasizing of traveling because then i can be myself, with myself, and i like my company very much, plus zero expectations from anyone else. I'm planning a trip to Korea this winter, and idk if this is because i genuinely want to be there, or i just want to escape the pressure.

I guess my question is, how do i stop feeling like running away and hide from anyone who might interact with me? My goal this year is to go out and make connections, so you can see why this isn't helping. Any insight appreciated, thank you!

Okay so like, we all talk about the relief of taking the bra off at the end of the day right? I have a few bras:

- very loose, the underband barely touch my body. Super comfortable since it's just an additional layer. Concern is if my boobs are moving freely so people think i don't wear one? I'm a B so i don't need support anyway

- a stretchy one from uniqlo, comfortable when put on, but at the end of the day i love it when taking off and feel immense relief

- a sport one that's less stretchy, fit, but hurt my back after some time

I'm wondering what is the normal accepted level of tightness y'all do? I like the loose one, but idk what the normal standard is. Do your backs hurt after a day wearing one? It it supposed to feel tight and hard to be comfortable after a few hours? I use abrathatfits but the result isn't available in my country and I'm not sure if it's correct anyway cause it says I'm a D.

Ladies, i have an issue. I'm fairly senior in my position and i know what I'm talking about, i don't bluff nor pretend i know more than i do. But, occasionally when making a decision at work, I'd be obsessively checking 10 times and again and again, in fear i made the wrong decision. These are decisions that affect others, so yes i fear losing face, but also what if i missed something. No one dies from these so it's not that serious, i know, but still. The decisions i stressed about are random, some are really small so idk why I'm obsessed over them. I'd certainly be confused if my coworkers are stressed about these things if it's not me myself ngl.

So far my fear hasn't come true in any way that matters, but I'm aiming for leadership role and as you can see, this is a problem i need to solve. I'm fairly confident in my personal life, no other problematic areas except work. Probably because i used to force myself to not have any expectations or hope to get ahead at work to deal with certain career disappointments back then. So a self imposed limit in some way i guess, but I want to fix it. I'd appreciate any tips or advice, thank you.

I know it sounds silly. I'm mid 30s, my career doesn't require attending events, my social life is more casual hangouts, mostly 1v1. We didn't have prom, graduation was a normal dress with the gown on, no wedding. So I'd never once wear anything resembles a gala dress, nor jewelry and makeup accordingly. I want to change that, partly for the experience, partly to make sure I'm not missing out on this part of life. In theory i can just buy a dress and wear makeup etc, but i have nowhere to go. Can you ladies help me with figure out how i can get in these kind of events, please?

I'm open to one off, ticketed event, changing or expanding my network, etc. My main issue is I'm an introvert who tends to keep to 1v1 hangouts, and most my hobbies are solo so i don't get close to people who go to parties and events like this frequently. I'm happy to attend big social events though, i just don't often have the chance to because of the above reasons. Wanna try something new in my 30s, so suggestions are welcomed. Thank you 😊

Hello, I'm debating to go to T1 Homeground event in August. I'm a beginner in Korean, and i hope to understand about 30-50% of what's going on in the event. I know that the heavy discussion parts will be almost impossible to understand, but i want to understand the main big points or simple talks. Is this possible or realistic?

My plan is to learn common vocab, focusing on listening and reading as the main skills through the team contents and interviews. My hope is understanding and catching keywords to understand what's being talked about, not caring much for correct grammars or speaking since the time is heavily limited. I will watch subbed contents later, but I'd like to have vague ideas of what's going on and what's talked about. Idk how Korean events work though, do you think it's possible? Since my country has english translation right in the event if it's expected a lot of international fans coming, but i believe there is none in the Homeground which is fair.

There is an once in a lifetime event in another country i want to go, for about a week. The cost is say 3x, which is around my monthly salary. My usual monthly expenses is 1-1.5x, the rest go to savings. This would be my 2nd trip this year (the first was paid with last year bonuses).

Everything is primed to go, time, holidays, maybe some issues getting tickets but not impossible. Only concern is i worry it's too expensive and I'm being financially reckless by going twice a year...considering my 1st trip was 6x, but it's my yearly trip and only luxury i allow, so the budget was ok. I normally only go once internationally a year with 2-3 cheaper domestic trips, but yeah the event. I don't have debts otherwise, with a healthy saving I'm not touching for this, just concerned i won't putting in as much monthly savings this year 😅 Would you consider this trip appropriate or too expensive? What is your normal threshold of acceptable budget for these kind of events?

My career doesn't value degrees more than a bachelor, it's all about experience in the field, so I have no reason to go for master or any further official academic courses. I really, really like the college/university environment and being able to take classes in whatever i want. If I'm rich, then i can attend old prestigious universities (like them for the history and depth of classes) and study "useless" degrees that spark my interests, like languages, history, art, cultures, all sort of crafting and designs, even science and engineering basics, maybe. Too bad i need to work for money and I'm in commercial art, so chasing deadlines is all i do these days 🥲 student life can be nice, too, and spring breaks/summer traveling to fill the lack of when i was a poor college student. Silly i know, but it would be so good if i won the lottery tomorrow lol

Every time i started a new game that use decorations to rate the room comfort/bonus, i tell myself I'd make a beautiful place for the chars to be. And without fail, I'd been going with the best ratio of point:gold because i just have to, man. Do your char get to live in nice room, or have 5 of the same rugs, the cheapest light source possible, and just enough tile to max out the room bonus? :D