u/ImpressionMany238

I am turning 24 next week, I was diagnosed with depression while I was doing my masters in a foreign country. Had a hard time focusing and surviving in a new country with all the academic burden and away from home loneliness.

So much so, I had to drop out of grad school and I came back to my country . I spent three month in idleness and started seeing a physiatrist recently and they are pretty sure of me having ADHD, they'll be diagnosing it in week or so. I have already started my meds for depression and anxiety, but I don't have much hope with that.

But what shocked me the most was the realization of me having ADHD, And now when I look back in my life, it does make sense, my whole life I had to beat myself down to study for exams, my parents are teachers, so naturally there was a pressure to do well academically. I operated because of fear till 10th grade and scored good grades but after that I was worn out all the fears and was left with this feeling of not being able to do anything.

I passed my undergraduate degree with a lot less effort since it was academically easy but looking back as a kid I had to torture myself in order to make myself study before exams.

At this point in my life I feel burned out, even though I have literally done nothing, I have no career to show, no hobbies or passion as such. I feel like a man-child. It's like I am numb and cannot even feel anything anymore. Every day I wake up and I feel two 50 pounds of stones on my chest that won't let me breath.

I did not even knew what ADHD was until a year ago. I feel lost, and directionless and I don't see how I could get my shit together, I hide from people, I am ashamed to be labeled as a failure, people around me talk and laugh at me for flunking a massive opportunity(of studying in a first world country and building a life there) which my parents gave me after spending a huge fortune. I don't see a way out, all roads takes me to the same destination.

Hi everyone,

I'm turning 24 this month and currently very down career wise. I was doing my masters, had to drop out, I have no direction career wise, I have a bachelors in CS but I am looking for a transition into marketing, management or other finance roles. Is there anyway someone from here can help me to get an internship somewhere, I wanna learn and work and atleast get some real world experience. if you are in a position where you can help me out with an opportunity that would mean a lot, thank you.

I’m 24M, and I’ve been on five dates with this amazing girl, also 24. This is the first real dating experience for both of us, so we’re taking things a bit slow. That said, we have communicated that we’re exclusive and only seeing each other.

She’s lovely, warm- like a little patch of sunlight, but also very cautious and rational. She’s not very available over phone/text, which I don’t mind too much because I’m a bit like that too. In person, things feel really nice and natural. I’ve already started giving her poems that I have written on her, so ’m clearly falling for her a lil bit.

My concern is more about where I am in life right now. She seems to be on a really good career path, while I recently left my field of study/work and currently don’t have anything lined up. I also don’t have a clear idea of what I want to do next. I have communicated this to her on the very first date and she told me it's a very normal thing.

I really like her, and I think I might be falling for her a little. But a part of me is scared that eventually she’ll see me as someone who doesn’t have his life together and lose interest. I’m also trying to be very conscious of not making her an escape or distraction from the uncertainty and failure I feel in my own life.

At the same time, I know myself. I have always had a very melancholic personality, and in the past it has taken me years to get over a small crush I had on someone when I was 17 or 18. So I’m scared of falling too deeply, especially if this doesn’t work out.

I’m not really sure what I’m asking for, but I’d like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation. Have you ever dated someone while feeling lost in your own life? Did it affect the relationship? How do you keep yourself grounded while still allowing yourself to feel something genuine?

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

I’m 24M, and I’ve been on five dates with this amazing girl, also 24. This is the first real dating experience for both of us, so we’re taking things a bit slow. That said, we have communicated that we’re exclusive and only seeing each other.

She’s lovely, warm- like a little patch of sunlight, but also very cautious and rational. She’s not very available over phone/text, which I don’t mind too much because I’m a bit like that too. In person, things feel really nice and natural. I’ve already started giving her poems that I wrote for her, so I guess I’m clearly falling for her a lil bit.

My concern is more about where I am in life right now. She seems to be on a really good career path, while I recently left my field of study/work and currently don’t have anything lined up. I also don’t have a clear idea of what I want to do next. I have communicated this to her on the very first date and she told me it's a very normal thing.

I really like her, and I think I might be falling for her a little. But a part of me is scared that eventually she’ll see me as someone who doesn’t have his life together and lose interest. I’m also trying to be very conscious of not making her an escape or distraction from the uncertainty and failure I feel in my own life.

At the same time, I know myself. I have always had a very melancholic personality, and in the past it has taken me years to get over a small crush I had on someone when I was 17 or 18. So I’m scared of falling too deeply, especially if this doesn’t work out.

I’m not really sure what I’m asking for, but I’d like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation. Have you ever dated someone while feeling lost in your own life? Did it affect the relationship? How do you keep yourself grounded while still allowing yourself to feel something genuine?

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

I’m 24M, and I’ve been on five dates with this amazing girl, also 24. This is the first real dating experience for both of us, so we’re taking things a bit slow. That said, we have communicated that we’re exclusive and only seeing each other.

She’s lovely, warm- like a little patch of sunlight, but also very cautious and rational. She’s not very available over phone/text, which I don’t mind too much because I’m a bit like that too. In person, things feel really nice and natural. I’ve already started giving her poems, so I guess I’m clearly falling for her a lil bit.

My concern is more about where I am in life right now. She seems to be on a really good career path, while I recently left my field of study/work and currently don’t have anything lined up. I also don’t have a clear idea of what I want to do next. I have communicated this to her on the very first date and she told me it's a very normal thing.

I really like her, and I think I might be falling for her a little. But a part of me is scared that eventually she’ll see me as someone who doesn’t have his life together and lose interest. I’m also trying to be very conscious of not making her an escape or distraction from the uncertainty and failure I feel in my own life.

At the same time, I know myself. I have always had a very melancholic personality, and in the past it has taken me years to get over a small crush I had on someone when I was 17 or 18. So I’m scared of falling too deeply, especially if this doesn’t work out.

I’m not really sure what I’m asking for, but I’d like to hear from people who have been in a similar situation. Have you ever dated someone while feeling lost in your own life? Did it affect the relationship? How do you keep yourself grounded while still allowing yourself to feel something genuine?

Any advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

Hi I wanna get a diagnosis for ADHD and few other conditions that I might have. Is there any recommend physiatrist here in Vadodara that someone of you might have personally used.

Thank you

Hi I am going through some tough times, feeling a bit suffocated at home, any places where I can sit peacefully at night and let my thoughts pass by. Also any food I can try at night.

Thank you!!

In that rosebush where I grew up, in that home that laid foundation what I was set to be up for, of love, my furry brother, who is my forever companion, in light and out. I remember growing up there, I remember hearing distant sounds of little humming birds bathing in sun, my dear friends calling me out to play that game, the cows and buffalows, that temple on the uphill with snakes around, the man on the street who was called insane but was so kind to me and called me son, and gave me a ruppee to buy a candy whenever he could, I miss him too often, I can't recall much.

I hesitate to go back to that place, I avoid being asked what I plan to do?,, I am afraid to ask them to not be ignorant, to let me be wrecked for a while, so I can grow flowers out of myself, to let me be a failure for while and not ask to justy it. I know it's too much to ask and maybe i am not keen in asking anymore, I am too fluent in silence, it's in my very depth, it has been in every freckles of my tamed smile.

It starts somewhere in a bright spring day, when everything is so lilac green and the winds are light but a darkness surrounds your throat and for the rest of the life you yearn for a breath that does not choke you.

Not a casual post*

I've been seeing this girl for over a month now, We meet on Bumble and decide to see each other. She has never dated anyone before. We have been to 4 dates till now, everything seems go well on the dates, although she seems to be really cautious and I try to respect that. But she frequently takes 24 hrs-36 hrs to reply to my texts, I don't know if this is intentional or that she is just a bad texter, initially she texted a lot but since the first date the texts have been very infrequent, so much so that I avoid texting her cause the reply time started making me anxious.

She has already stated that we will be going to many more dates, I already feel myself falling for her a lil bit, and I am afraid to fall for someone who is giving me mix signals. I don't know what to do, if any girls here can comment and help me assess if this might be a trick or is she testing me or I'm just delusional and should not expect much from this scenario. Thank you

I have been struggling with a lot of things since past few years, it's occasional, periodical but it's quite destructive kind of sadness, I tend to make my life miserable when I am hit with this constant sadness.

I was doing my masters in Germany, where I used to see a therapist and a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with severe depression also stated that this could be something that is genetic.

I have avoided seeing a therapist since than, and even though I'm not in a very bad state right now, I'm pretty much useless, I need to know what's causing this. Do you guys have any references on therapist or psychiatrist or idk any professionals that could with this.

I was a really ambitious kid, I wanted to do so many things with my life. But now I'm 24, my parents have exhausted their life savings for my education and I flunked, I have nothing to show, no work ex, and I'm good for nothing, I have no skills, I fail at everything that I try, I can't even try anymore. I had so much opportunities, but I always felt messed up, afraid, sad and hopeless, I tried all the things in the world, therapy, talking to people, God, excersing, nothing ever made me feel alright.

I feel so ashamed, I hide from people, afraid that they'll ask me the unforgiving questions. I am tired of myself and I find no solace in any words or God or anything at all, I cannot find a place or person or a shade that will let me rest for a while and catch my breath.

This is not me reaching out for help, or looking for a crispy realization through a suggestion or any wisdom. This is me looking for a place where I can admit my defeats, where I can say the kid I was, was so naive, and in somwhere between I forgot to grow up. I feel like a stone paperweight. It feels like a downhill battle, and I refuse to try anymore. I am afraid I'll live my rest of my life in regrets of what could I have been.