u/Impressive-Risk9536

i’m a 27F who recently got into a new relationship (5 months now) with an amazing guy. i’ve never met anyone so nice, supportive, caring, you name it. the problem is sex. since the very first time i had sex it has caused me pain. and it’s with every single guy. no matter how big or small. i’ve gotten many tests done at the gyno to rule out infections, cysts, endometriosis, everything came back normal! i’ve tried lube, and most recently prescribed diazepam (the kind you insert) and even that has not helped. i’m never in the mood bc my body knows at this point ill just be in pain. i never initiate anything, and honestly don’t even think about intimacy anymore. the problem is this is the first guy i truly feel comfortable with and listened and tried to understand what i go through instead of judge me. since he’s so amazing i do want to please him! but i just can’t :( i don’t know how. i try to push through sex but most times we have to stop because its too painful. i feel bad about myself and that he’s not being fulfilled. he’s never said ANYTHING negative but i feel like he deserves more.. :( HELP what do i do?

i’ve been talking to this guy (42M) for about a month, everything has been going so well, he’s the first guy who i believe actually likes me for me. we’ve already gone on a trip together which was amazing and he paid for the whole thing. his birthday is coming up so i’m wondering what do i get him? do i not get him anything?? we aren’t dating yet (i think we might after some more time) but idk what to do. he’s got me so many things already and pays for all the dates, so i don’t think it would be weird. but also he’s older than me and seemingly “has it all” so what do you get a guy like that?

i wish my birthday was before his so i could see what he does for me but unfortunately mine falls after so i have to make the first move when it comes to actual gift giving. help!

** update: im a (28F) and the age gap is not weird, this is the most natural i’ve ever felt with a man. he’s not married thankfully, he lives alone and i’ve been to his house multiple times. about twice a week. we have been intimate a few times also. i say we’re not “dating” because he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend. maybe he assumes we’re together? idk.

he’s into soccer, legos, traveling, clothes and shoes, sports, gaming, trying new foods and restaurants.

*** also i’ve only ever had 2 real boyfriends and both relationships were absolutely terrible so idk how to navigate dating, especially with someone so supportive, kind, thoughtful, you name it. it’s a whole new world i feel like