date tried to have sex for the first time really drunk 28F 34M
recently i met this guy 2 months ago on social media. 1st month he was just helping me with my yard, 2nd month we started going on dinner dates, coffee and bar dates. i got drunk last night, ended up staying at his place bc im an hour drive away. i had maybe 2 drinks and i saw him have 2 as well but i got to the bar way after him. as soon as i got into his bed he grabbed me, kissing aggressively, and took both of our clothes off in less than a minute. ive liked kissing him before but this was so bad, just aggressively kissing and pressing on my face hard. he tried to go down on me, i stopped him. he tries to put his dick in. it was all really fast so i grabbed him and said “i just want to go to sleep”. he said “do you really want to”. he stopped at first but was still kissing me. maybe took a break then started again with trying to have sex. i said hey i dont have sex without head (which is true but idk why i said that) so then he tried to give me head again so then i was like no i smell like it was a hot day. and he said he doesnt care and i said no i dont want to i smell a few times and he said “stop” and just went down. hes kind of heavy and i couldnt push him off that time. i admit that i enjoyed it, but i didnt really want it because again, he was acting aggressively drunk and we havent had sex before, i like to get std results before that happens but we havent really talked about sex yet. when he was done i turned over and he asked if i was sleepy now and said he can’t get mad. he left me alone after that until a bit later he started fingering me which, you know it felt good but. idk. is this not kind of messed up? i know now i should’ve just called a friend and left, but i was so tired and just slept in his bed. im a sexual person but his bed wasn’t even made (bare mattress) and emotionally i was not turned on. i told my male friend and he said if he was drunk he probably just misread the situation, he did stop and didnt put his dick in and i should just talk to him. but shouldnt he have apologized for getting too drunk on his own by now? in the morning he made a joke about “that’s not what u said last night” so i know he remembers. and also asked if i was mad bc i was dazing off and nor saying anything. i like him, i met his friends, the dates have been fun. i like that he waited at least a good month to even invite me over. i feel like its valid he was drunk, but its not like i got him drunk and if he was sober that behavior was inexcusable. hes only sent me 2 texts since then this was 2 nights ago.