u/Individual_Start_523

Hi all,

I was asking my boyfriend to post me on his socials because I want to feel validated (stupid I know but that’s what I want)

And he said “I don’t want to do it, you know I don’t like posting on social media”

Now context: my boyfriend is lowkey on social media like yes he does not post anything.

However, I feel like he should have still done it for my happiness sake because the stakes of doing it are so low.

And why do I feel that? Because I put him first always. I wanted to move out last year to another city but didn’t because I knew he did not want it.

I gave up a big thing like that and he won’t give up his “I don’t post on social media thing” for me.

Am I in the wrong for feeling bad about his attitude towards it? Or am I stupid?

Hi all,

I started talking to a guy randomly on reddit. We moved to another app to chat and things were going great.

I have to say I started off on a very weird note. I was casually flirting, and we also ended up sexting twice. Not sure if this matters but he's very hot too.

A few days later, I felt myself getting attached to him. We did use to joking talk about how we do not want to "get attached" and that we do not want to hurt each other. He said things like "I'd rather stop talking than hurt you etc"

He kept calling me cute names, gave me affirmations, praises, care and attention. I did the same too. We did get attached.

Eventually, we had the conversation. He said he cannot commit, he's busy (he kind of a workaloholic), and that he's "effed up" guy trying not to ruin my life.

When I tried to push him to talk, he became even more distant and avoided the conversation. Later he said we should stop talking and I said yes. But a day later he liked a comment I made. I messaged him why he did that and he said he missed me but it's alright now and that he'll try not to bother me.

I like him. I like our conversations. But is this it? Should I take his hint and move on.

I am the type who makes guys their project so maybe I want to dig deeper and want to know why he has such a rigid boundary but I guess it won't be worth it.

Should I try?

Note: I know how f*ucked up this sounds. But I really don't wish to be judged here.