u/Inevitable-Employ441

My fiance, (19m), struggles setting boundaries and confidence with his mother and grandmother, when he tries they just blow right past him and try and rule his life, and if he does anything outside of what they want that pertains to the boundary he sets, they punish him. For example, a while back, my mil kicked my fiance out after he got out of college when he started to get to know his biological father. She kicked him out because she was jealous he had contact with him after his bio dad had cut her off. Another example, my mils mother will try and convince my fiance to move in with her in another state and break up with me. When he tells her that isn't going to happen, she goes on a tirade about how me asking him to turn a fan off is manipulative.

I'm curious if anyone here have advice on this situation or book recommendations for setting boundaries for things like this. He is in therapy also! But this is getting to the point that it is significantly affecting his mental health.

It's weird, today had been going really well before we heard the news. It would have been a year in july since he did what he did to me. I literally made a post on a sewing subreddit today about materials. I had even been talking to my fiance about dropping the charges the other day because I just couldn't deal with reliving what happened so often.

But today my fiances grandmother called telling him to call his mother. The same mother that both left us homeless when my fiance said he believed me. So he unblocked her and called. She said that she said his dad was sorry and he loved him and was proud. I thought that was weird because the last time he had contacted my fiance, his dad told him he was a dumb fuck that deserves to die. She was crying and we were both confused because she was saying how sorry she was for telling him over the phone but she couldn't make it to where we were. I asked her what she was saying and she outright said "your dad killed himself."

My fiance hung up, he cried and screamed while I just held him. I went to the truck when he fell asleep and I screamed for about an hour I think. I was so angry, my fiance is angry. I can't imagine what else he feels. I dont even know what I feel honestly. I'm trying to support him in every way I can. He decided he wanted to go to his mother's house to see his family and his little siblings so I drove us about five hours to where they are. I booked a hotel so his mom didn't have to see me. Im not ready for that anyway.

I guess I'm just wondering if there are any other kids of parents who committed suicide, or partners of people who's parents did. Or even someone like my situation where there in-law sexually assaulted them, how to help a partner through their grief, while you work through your own? What should I do? What has helped your partner the best? I've showered him, made him eat when he couldn't, and driven him where he needs, he has a therapist, but it's only just happened today and I want to be prepared to help him through all his grief.

What do I do, and what can I do?

Does anyone know how to gain weight with an autoimmune disorder that makes it so you burn through fat and carbs like its nothing?

I'm 20f and I have an autoimmune disorder called EOE that causes me difficulties with gaining and keeping weight. when I was a teenager it was easier to keep on weight because I was in wrestling and in eating competitions. Since then though, I've dropped down to almost 80lbs and I'm nothing but muscle. I work 2 jobs so it's difficult to find time to work out at all anymore. My lack of weight is causing a lot of fatigue and I've developed POTS from the blood pressure issues and low sugar levels.

This is messing with my self confidence more than anything. I always prided myself on being strong, but I'm not anymore. I want to go out and not have the fear of passing out randomly because I stand up.

Id really like to get back to my goal weight of 118lbs.

I can't run anymore. I financially can't and emotionally can't keep running. I am so angry. I just started to have normalcy again and I let that comfortability let me slip up. I can't even stay at a dv shelter because they won't let me stay because he's a danger to the other women. I understand, but I don't know what to do as I am too young in my state to stay at a motel. What do I do.

I have extremely curly hair, 3b-4b curls. All of my life I have been subject to racism because of it, even by my own family. It has caused me so many problems that I think I've internalized that racism and even went through phases of straightening it everyday for a year, or only wearing wigs. Now my hair is so damaged that I have to finger coil it to make it look decent and even when I do, I still hate my hair. It makes me feel like a clown and I don't know how to heal this insecurity. I want to love my hair because so many people spend hundreds of dollars to have what I have naturally, so I want to be able to love it. What do I do?