u/Inevitable-Might4253

I, 41F, have been in a relationship with dating apps on and off for over 5 years. No surprise.

Would decent guys find early questions about family planning and life plans untactful?

I want to know right away if they want or don't want kids, if they have a career, and if they plan to stay in the city or dream of being in nature when closer to retirement, etc.

Honestly, I'm not interested in flirting or being funny and clever until I know we are minimally compatible, I have no energy for this.

Thoughts?