u/Initial_Anteater_377

My nearly one year old still wakes almost every sleep cycle. It’s 3/4 wakes a night, every 1.5 hours or so. Sometimes it’s 2 wakes, sometimes once.

Her night sleep is wildly inconsistent. I have tried everything. Anything that looks like a pattern is quickly disproved. This girl humbles us. I have no idea what is causing all the wakes. Shes never been a gifted sleeper, waking anywhere from 6-8 times a night for many months until a couple months ago when it’s gotten to 3-4. Tonight we’re up to 5 wakes and shes having such a hard time settling lately. Regressions don’t really mean much, because her sleep has always sucked.

Schedule below. Is the idea to play w it h sleep pressure? Because she’s getting the “right” amount of day sleep, going down easy for naps and bedtime, so I’m so confused what on earth we could be doing.

Open to any and all suggestions. Thank you fam!!

Wake - 7:30am
Nap 1 - 11-1
Nap 2 - 4-5
Bedtime - 8:30 or 9

All these times can shift by about 30 minutes just depending on when she wakes up. In general, wake windows are 3/3/4. First nap is like 1.-2 hours and second nap is like 30 mins-1.5 hours.

Edit: forgot to mention that each night wake requires 20-30 mins of rocking and sometimes bottles to help her back down

Edit 2: if it makes a difference Shes not quite one yet, about 11mo bc she was three weeks early.

Little babe naturally weaned herself around 5-6 months and I’ve been pumping since then. Had to go off some meds because she couldn’t have them. I’ve felt like absolute ass off these meds and while I’m looking forward to feeling better, my heart is broken that this is really the end of an era. I loved being able to give my little baby the incredible food and medicine that is breastmilk. It was always something good I could do for her. I might fuck up as a mom a million times down the road, and life might hurt her, but I could always hold her close and feed her this miracle food. I’m proud of myself for keeping up with it and for making major sacrifices to supply it to her, but after ten months it feels like the right time.

Idk I’m sorry I’m just sad about it and looking for encouragement. Also, any heads up on what happens next hormonally would be so appreciated. Thanks y’all

This feels so dumb but this mom is so overwhelmed. I would appreciate kindness and any advice.

My nine month old is still being introduced to allergens and ingredients. We started at 7months. This is taking forever. I’m introducing her to one new food at a time.

All single foods or double foods. Like, egg and oatmeal. And then when that’s safe, oatmeal with raspberries. Then when that’s safe, oatmeal with raspberries and applesauce.

This is taking ages and there has to be a better way. I’m worried she’ll get many food allergies bc of all the time this takes.

People are like “feed them what you eat” but we eat meals with tons of ingredients Shes NEVER been exposed to, even if there are no major allergens in the dish.

She’s been diagnosed with a peanut allergy.

I can’t help but feel like I’m failing her.

Moms and parents, after stage 1 and stage 2 eating (or even baby lead), are you giving them premade foods? Like I’d eat a soy milk yogurt with chia seeds and fruit for breakfast. As long as shes not allergic to soy, can I go ahead and give her this meal even though it might have new fruit and preservatives in the yogurt???? I eat pretty clean but it’s completely irrational I feel to feed her only 100% clean, whole ingredient food, introduced one food at a time. Is this incorrect thinking??? Thank you for your help 🙏🏻