u/Interesting-Size-785

(M24) Men who hate women piss me the fuck off men who actively pursue women, want girlfriends, want sex with women and then talk about women like they’re an inferior fucking species. I was telling my friend about my girl. She’s gorgeous, interesting, and obsessed with French history, Baroque art, Versailles, historical fashion, all that stuff. She got me into it because she talks about it with so much excitement that I wanted to understand what she loves. She wants to do historical cosplay with me, and I WANT to do it with her. I want to know what we’re portraying. I want to actually have conversations about it with her. And she gets ridiculously happy when I recognize something she’s shown me. Apparently this is humiliating for a man.

My friend goes, “Bro, you’re seriously gonna let a woman have you on a leash?”

A LEASH??? Because I developed an interest in something my girlfriend loves? Then he starts with, “You seriously think FEMALES have loyalty? Respect? They don’t think like us. They’re below us etc etc…”

And at that point I genuinely asked, “Dude… are you maybe into men?” Not as an insult. I was confused. Because you’ve spent the last ten minutes explaining that you don’t respect women, don’t trust women, don’t enjoy their company and apparently consider treating a woman like an intellectual equal degrading. He gets offended: “What the fuck? No, I’m not gay. I don’t wanna fuck a man. Okay. So you want to fuck women. And THAT is when it clicked for me. You’re sexually attracted to women. You don’t actually like women. You want access to a woman’s body, but everything that makes her an actual person her thoughts, interests, independence, personality, opinions you either dismiss or actively resent. That’s why me enjoying my girlfriend’s interests looks like “being on a leash” to you. Because you fundamentally cannot imagine interacting with a woman unless somebody is dominating somebody else. That’s miserable. My girlfriend isn’t my subordinate. She’s someone I actually LIKE. I enjoy hearing her talk. I enjoy watching her get excited. Sometimes I get into her interests sometimes she gets into mine. That’s not submission. That’s basic fucking human connection i don’t understand wanting women so desperately while treating actually liking women as people like some kind of weakness. And sometimes i wonder those these men even have mother’s? And do they love them? I was raised by my mom and 3 sisters, i love them and not even once in my life I thought that about them, or any woman.

M24, been straight all my life. I never thought I could ever find a man attractive because, you know, girls are beautiful and gorgeous, so why would I like a man? But then I moved and changed churches. I am or was heavily Catholic bdw When I changed churches, I met a priest. He is probably in his 40s. He has this beautiful grayish hair, blue eyes, a sharp chin, and he is always shaven. And he wears this fucking hot black robe that is tight around his waist, with a huge ass and thick thighs. Like, he genuinely has one of the sexiest physiques I have ever seen. I tried to ignore these thoughts, but then I started talking to him after Mass, and we eventually became friends. And then I realized that I actually have feelings for this man, and I want him so badly. I even want to top him, which is something I never imagined myself saying about another man, but he is just gorgeous. He loves animals, he is into the same things I am, and we both love Swedish meatballs, which is a crazy coincidence. He is also interested in Ancient Greece. He is really funny, smart, and genuinely interesting. And the fact that he is a priest and I cannot do anything about it makes me want him even more. I would never actually say any of this to him or do anything inappropriate. I respect him, his boundaries, the church, and his faith. These are just feelings I have inside my own head, and I cannot control them. But seriously, I need help. I do not know what to do with this.

M20, and I genuinely don’t think I’m straight, but I also don’t think I’m gay in the normal sense either. The problem is that I’m insanely attracted to one very specific thing, those French aristocratic baroque looking men. You know the type powdered wigs, fancy coats, lace, silk stockings, all that ridiculous 18th century French nobility aesthetic. And when I say attracted, I mean OBSESSIVE. That’s basically the only thing that turns me on. The weird part is that regular guys do absolutely nothing for me. Modern men? Nope. Gym bros? Nope. Random male celebrities? Nothing. But put a dude in a powdered wig looking like he just escaped Versailles and suddenly my brain stops functioning. There isn’t even much content for this. I can’t find porn of it, art of it, nothing. At this point I’m basically gooning to Joseph Desaulniers from Identity V because he’s the closest thing I’ve found. Has anyone else experienced something this weirdly niche?