u/Ivypool8

That's kinda the entire question, I moved here when the train just went back and forth between canalside and university, but it's opened back up to this extra weird meaningless stop as well that doesn't seem to even have anything around it; took the train there once and only once, because as I got off and went over to the other train about to head out (why not just run back and forth between canalside if this is the purpose of this station??), it took off with all the passengers waiting for the doors to open left in the station, no people on the train. We were told the next train would be in 20 minutes, like what? And everyone just sat down to wait, and I'm like what??? So I left and walked back, down this "sidewalk" that was like just little precarious slabs of concrete on top of gravel along the tracks, back to canalside and all the way back to where I was going and STILL the train never passed me so ALL that was faster than going to that cursed backrooms station where the train leaves without everyone?? Everyone who seemingly road to that station JUST to get on that train (aside from me, I was just going to see what was out there)????

Why? Why does this exist? Does it function as a home for the trains when they're not running? Why make it an accessible station to the public? Why go down there?

Please help, I grew up in a state with no passenger trains like this, I don't understand

Besides cut it myself because I WILL mangle it lololol

I have length maybe about down to the tips of my shoulder blades, very fine, slight wave, and high density. Oily ish scalp, try to wash every other day but only get around to it every third day more often than not lolol double shampoo and condition the mid/ends, blow dry the roots

I can't afford a haircut, or any special healing concoction, or really anything at all

Is there anything I can do to minimize damage? I sleep with a satin pillowcase but can't afford a bonnet right now (I know there are cheap ones but I'm tellin yall I can't even afford rent ykwim), sometimes I'll sleep in a loose bun (with silk scrunchie) or braids

Anything I can do? Anything I shouldn't be doing? I have to wear my hair up fairly often cause I work as a barista

They pretty :)

If you see this, I bought passion fruit oolong tea from ur stall today and I made a joke about how I couldn't afford it but like not really a joke cause it's true, then I THOUGHT you made a joke about charging me less for it so I laughed and paid and now I'm home and I saw that you weren't joking either 😭😭😭 I'm sorry for not saying thank you I didn't think you were being serious

Very good tea btw

Sorry if I'm breaking any rules this is like my first time posting here

I wasn't going to make a post about this episode because, while there are many thoughts I've had worth sharing, I figured other people probably have been talking about the same things since I'm a day or so late.

However, I'm currently listening to Wade talking about his childhood, and I just really want to say this:

I too grew up in a constant sort of caregiver/arbiter of happiness mindset (a lot of caring for my younger siblings while parental drama was happening and then starting to do the same *with* my parents when I was a bit older), and I too am (a very new and small) content creator who feels that similar sense of obligation to those who choose to spend their time on my content.

I think, while I wouldn't talk about it all the time, there is value in sharing the personal struggles you're comfortable sharing with your audience. While escapism is nice, hearing someone describe a feeling you've had but not been able to put into words (like you did with this episode for me), or realizing that you can relate, in some way, to this other human, that you're not alone in what you're experiencing, or normalizing healthy recognition and validation of more stigmatized emotions like anger, anxiety, etc. are all imo positive aspects of consuming content in the first place.

I'm by no means trying to tell anyone (especially someone of Wade's following lololol) what to talk about on their channels, but I just wanted to share my thoughts since it's a topic I've thought a lot about in my own content (very similarly, should I put this in? How much?) and because while Wade was talking about his upbringing, I felt (non parasocially) connected to another person; that's the value I hope to put out into the world.

This was both my first pride parade in Buffalo AND my first time watching a parade (I've been in a few back in Maine) and it was AMAZING!!! Pride parades have consistently been the most positive and supportive environment I've ever been in, I was genuinely tearing up from all the love :)

Is there anything else going on today/tonight that doesn't cost anything? As much as I'd love to go to a club or smth I can't even afford rent sooooooo

Ok so I just posted about Jamie's dad and his possible ❄️ problem, but in that post I briefly made mention of something that I've actually been wondering for quite some time, so I'm asking about this as well lololol

Do we think Jamie has ADHD?

I know some people get annoyed at people trying to diagnose characters as neurodivergent all the time, but I really mean no harm, he just exhibits a lot of traits of someone that may have ADHD (or maybe he just exhibits a lot of traits that I attribute to my ADHD and I'm just projecting lololol)

While I've watched the series through numerous times, I haven't in a while, so I don't have a lot of specific examples, but like his entire vibe all the way throughout feels like ADHD mixed with some cPTSD (from his not so great childhood). Some (admittedly vague) examples I can think of include:

-Often moving around a lot, except when he's upset. I think about the scene on the pitch where he's bein all extra going over to Beard and Ted, or when he does a round off(?) somewhere with Roy I think (maybe in Amsterdam?); stuff like this not only feels a bit hyperactive, but also a bit showy (not necessarily a trait of ADHD on its own but I do feel like it would make sense in the context of HIS ADHD if he had it, if that makes sense?)

-This could be attributed solely to his childhood, but included with everything else it builds a stronger case for ADHD so I'm including it: his sensitivity to perceived rejection and/or criticism. RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) is a very common symptom of ADHD, and I feel like Jamie really exhibits this in the beginning of his character arc. His reaction to being subbed out in that one early game, his reaction to thinking Ted sent him back to Man City, the auction stuff, it feels like more than just, "I'm a big celebrity player who has to protect his reputation" to me, especially in the context Keeley (sorry if that's not how you spell her name) gives when she says something to the effect of, "not everybody's out to get you/some people are trying to help you" (I know that's not the quote but that's the essence of the quote that's relevant). That tells me that there's a real pattern of perceived persecution in Jamie's mindset, which is often present in those with a bit of RSD

-His *spicy* attitude; at first, he's actually being a dick, but in the end, despite being a much kinder person overall, he can still get under others' skin when he wants to. Again, not solely a trait of ADHD, but those diagnosed often exhibit slight behavioral issues/a bit of trouble getting along with their peers in childhood, some even into adulthood (and with Jamie finding such public success so young, i think it's safe to say that, ADHD or not, that might've stunted his emotional/social growth a bit, at least in the beginning of the series). I'll even admit that I have a tendency to intentionally slightly get under my friends' skin sometimes, though never with the intention of actually upsetting them (I tell all my friends pretty early on to tell me if anything I say actually bothers them, and some friends don't like that type of joking/interacting at all, so I'm mindful of that)

-Others' initial perception of him as... not the brightest. I actually think Jamie's pretty intelligent, especially emotionally (obviously by the end of the series, but I'm gonna make the argument that his EQ as far as perception of others' emotions was present throughout, how do you think he was able to get people so angry? You have to be able to read their emotions somewhat). Those with ADHD often don't *look* smart or intelligent, for a number of different reasons. In Jamie's case, I think he can initially seem a bit daft, head in the clouds, not really thinking things through, that sort of thing. But the more you see him/get to know him, the more you see that underneath the perceived absentmindedness, he really is thinking things through, especially out on the pitch (especially when they get to playing total football, even one of the pundits remarks that he's thinking several moves ahead iirc)

Has anyone else gotten the sense that Jamie might have ADHD, and if so, can you help me put a better argument together? Cause I can just tell that this is not the strongest case made, I feel like I've made better cases in my head 😭 I would wait to post this until watching the series through again, but by that point I'd probably forget (thanks ADHD) so I'm just hoping this isn't a completely convoluted mess

Again, not trying to be one of those posts that everyone gets annoyed with and the whole, "not everyone is neurodivergent jeez" thing, I've just wondered for a while how others feel about it and the inspiration to post has struck, so gotta take advantage of it before it disappears for who knows how long

Also, I briefly searched the sub and didn't see any threads about this, sorry if I missed one lolol

So I see a lot about his alcoholism, but I was under the impression that he also had a bit of a ❄️ issue as well?

Like, his movements (except for in rehab obvi) are usually pretty jerky and constant, and that alone doesn't necessarily mean anything (we can often see similar movement in Jamie, though to me he gives off more ADHD vibes), but he's like constantly wiping his nose with his hand. Go back and watch the scene between him and Jamie after the Man City match (phenomenal scene, when I tell you I *lost it* when Roy hugged him), everything about his physicality gives more than alcohol to me.

Am I way off, or has anyone else gotten this impression?

Just surprised me :D