u/Jaded_Tour520

Me and my ex partner split up a a few weeks ago and I left as she packed up all my things after an argument. It’s not the first time she’s done this as she can’t have an argument or conversation, she gets overwhelmed and shouts and swears and asks me to leave or packs my things. We were together 4 years and in that time she’s packed my things like 5 times.

She has said some horrible things over the years, like if she says something really bad I’ll go, it’s like self sabotage. She has ADHD but self diagnosed, refuses to get a proper diagnosis or try meds. She spends a lot of time off work and isolated. Like she’s scared of the world.

I’m just wondering if I should reach out to her? I worry about her mental health and what she might do. She’s turned so cold and horrible even after everything I’ve done for her. Should I message or call? Or just leave it alone?

Me and my ex partner split up a a few weeks ago and I left as she packed up all my things after an argument. It’s not the first time she’s done this as she can’t have an argument or conversation, she gets overwhelmed and shouts and swears and asks me to leave or packs my things. We were together 4 years and in that time she’s packed my things like 5 times.

She has said some horrible things over the years, like if she says something really bad I’ll go, it’s like self sabotage. She has ADHD but self diagnosed, refuses to get a proper diagnosis or try meds. She spends a lot of time off work and isolated. Like she’s scared of the world.

I’m just wondering if I should reach out to her? I worry about her mental health and what she might do. She’s turned so cold and horrible even after everything I’ve done for her. Should I message or call? Or just leave it alone?

Me and my partner split up last week and we have had very little contact until today when I rang to arrange a date/time for the removal men to get my stuff. She mentioned last week if I didn’t get my things within a few days it was getting put in the skip but today she said you have to come too as I won’t let the removal men in unless you are here, she didn’t want to see me at all last week but now I have to be with them when collecting my things. I also still have a key for the house.

How do I go about this as I’m not keen on going along, not to be nasty but I just don’t want to see her. The breakup was rough as she just threw all my things in boxes, and damaged a lot of stuff and was just being really shitty with me.

She refuses to take ADHD meds and her mood is all over the place, can’t control her emotions and flys off the handle at the slightest things. She has said very horrible things lately but when I have questioned her behaviour suddenly I’m the bad guy. This ain’t the first time she’s done this but it’s definitely the last as I’ve had enough and already got my own place, I just want peace as the last 4 years have been a lot to deal with.

What should I do? I have a lot of things at the house and don’t want more damage or confrontation.

Me and my partner of nearly 4 years broke up a few days ago after her overreaction to a joke, she pretty much told me to leave so I did, this has happened a lot over the years. She loses her temper, calls me all the horrible names etc then after a week or so messages me asking to start over. And it’s all over the slightest things.

She goes from absolutely adoring me to hardly talking or giving me the silent treatment, shouts, swears and loses her temper. Constantly contradicts herself, I’m just so confused by it all. One minute she is saying I’m the best guy she’s ever known etc etc to saying I’m lazy and don’t treat her right.

We moved in together a year ago, she was desperate for me to do so, and in that time she has packed up my stuff 5-6 times. I gave up my home, all my furniture etc to move in and now I’m left with nothing having to start all over again. She doesn’t seem to take any accountability for her actions but when I do something wrong It’s a different story. She constantly complains about house work and me not doing my fair share but I’m out of the house most of the day working, pretty long hours. She works part time. In my opinion I do more than my fair share of chores considering I work 6-7 days a week and pay all the bills.

In our time together I have caught her messaging two guys, one of them saying she misses him and the other arranging a coffee date, but i was told accept or move out, or words similar to that. I take her and pay for all our meals out, date nights and holidays but nothing I do was good enough.

I’m just wondering if this is ADHD or is she using that as an excuse? Has anyone else had the same issues where you do everything but it’s still not good enough. She has a teenage boy who I thought I treated the same, spoilt him with new trainers, clothes, days out etc as his biological parent doesn’t really bother with him. But again she complained I didn’t treat him right, I’m so confused of what’s she see’s and what she thinks. Like I said the relationship is over now as I can’t deal with it anymore. I just wondered if anyone else has had similar experiences

Thank you 🙏