u/Jaskirath6969

Even after my brain realized this probably won’t work long term because our needs and expectations are very different, my heart still refuses to let go. I’ve known her (20F) for over a year, and I can’t bring myself to confess because I’m scared of losing one of the closest friendships I’ve ever had.

At the same time, I keep questioning my own feelings. I don’t know if I genuinely love her, or if this attachment comes from the fact that she’s the closest I’ve ever been to a girl emotionally and physically. I get upset when she doesn’t text or call, and a part of me wants her to check on me every day. Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing her, or just missing the feeling of being cared for and emotionally important to someone.

What makes this harder is that she has no idea how I feel. She openly talks to me about her crushes, romantic interests, and even intimate experiences, and every time it happens it genuinely hurts more than I want to admit. I try to act normal, but internally it’s exhausting and painful.

I know I need to move on somehow because hiding all of this is slowly affecting me mentally and emotionally, but I honestly don’t know how to do that without completely destroying the friendship or distancing myself from someone I deeply care about.

How do you tell the difference between genuine romantic feelings and emotional dependency/attachment, and what’s the healthiest way to move forward when staying close to someone is starting to hurt you more than it helps?

Even after my brain realized this probably won’t work long term because our needs and expectations are very different, my heart still refuses to let go. I’ve known her (20F) for over a year, and I can’t bring myself to confess because I’m scared of losing one of the closest friendships I’ve ever had.

At the same time, I keep questioning my own feelings. I don’t know if I genuinely love her, or if this attachment comes from the fact that she’s the closest I’ve ever been to a girl emotionally and physically. I get upset when she doesn’t text or call, and a part of me wants her to check on me every day. Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing her, or just missing the feeling of being cared for and emotionally important to someone.

What makes this harder is that she has no idea how I feel. She openly talks to me about her crushes, romantic interests, and even intimate experiences, and every time it happens it genuinely hurts more than I want to admit. I try to act normal, but internally it’s exhausting and painful.

I know I need to move on somehow because hiding all of this is slowly affecting me mentally and emotionally, but I honestly don’t know how to do that without completely destroying the friendship or distancing myself from someone I deeply care about.

How do you tell the difference between genuine romantic feelings and emotional dependency/attachment, and what’s the healthiest way to move forward when staying close to someone is starting to hurt you more than it helps?

Even after my brain realized this probably won’t work long term because our needs and expectations are very different, my heart still refuses to let go. I’ve known her (20F) for over a year, and I can’t bring myself to confess because I’m scared of losing one of the closest friendships I’ve ever had.

At the same time, I keep questioning my own feelings. I don’t know if I genuinely love her, or if this attachment comes from the fact that she’s the closest I’ve ever been to a girl emotionally and physically. I get upset when she doesn’t text or call, and a part of me wants her to check on me every day. Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing her, or just missing the feeling of being cared for and emotionally important to someone.

What makes this harder is that she has no idea how I feel. She openly talks to me about her crushes, romantic interests, and even intimate experiences, and every time it happens it genuinely hurts more than I want to admit. I try to act normal, but internally it’s exhausting and painful.

I know I need to move on somehow because hiding all of this is slowly affecting me mentally and emotionally, but I honestly don’t know how to do that without completely destroying the friendship or distancing myself from someone I deeply care about.

How do you tell the difference between genuine romantic feelings and emotional dependency/attachment, and what’s the healthiest way to move forward when staying close to someone is starting to hurt you more than it helps?

After your brain realises that it won't work practically but your heart fails to believe so and i cannot confess as I don't want to lose a friend despite knowing her for over a year.

What if I don't feel any feelings for her and all of this is happening because this is the closest i have ever been to a girl (both physically and mentally) and I don't want to ruin the friendship.

After your brain realises that it won't work practically but your heart fails to believe so and i cannot confess as I don't want to lose a friend.