u/Jellibab

I absolutely love Civ and have been playing since III. I'm not especially good at the game but I enjoy it, especially the slightly chaotic you never quite know what's going to happen vibes when you refuse to dive into online tips for strategy. I'm halfway through my second game of Civ VII and I want soooo much to keep playing but something feels missing and I can't place what.

The potential I see so far is that: it's stunning. The town/city growth mechanism is clever. The resource organisation is really neat. The game guides you well towards victory conditions you might not otherwise understand if you're new to the franchise. But I've found myself getting bored and reverting back to VI. Adding to the problem is all I'm seeing online is hate for it which makes it feel harder to invest time in the game.

So I'd love to hear: what do you enjoy and what brings you back to it?

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I have two cats: one puts in a full shift at lap time but the other literally never makes biscuits other than tiny air biscuits when he's on his own. Why is there such a difference between them? Does one cat love us less?

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Silly and serious answers please 🙏🏻

My mum was diagnosed with early onset dementia two years ago in a fairly traumatic way (living alone presenting paranoia, extreme anxiety, hallucinations and suicidal ideation before the diagnosis and move to care home).

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We've navigated lots of difficult things over these two years but what's been troubling me recently is my own sudden, intense recollections of random things: a nice day in the park with my mum and friends as a teenager, moments from parents divorce which are less pleasant. Nice memories mixed with more challenging, but even the nice ones come with physical feelings of grief, knowing how my mum is now.

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I'd love to hear from others about their experiences of processing grief, whether having sudden, intense memories at random moments is a common thing, and just generally if anyone has any tips for coping with it.

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Losing someone while they are still alive is tricky in particular because it feels quite taboo to talk about with others - even close friends struggle to know what to say and I get a sense that people irl avoid the subject. So I thought I'd post here. It would be great to feel a bit less isolated in this. Sending hugs to everyone going through this x

Edit: for clarity

My situation spans England and Republic of Ireland so my apologies if this is not quite the appropriate sub. I'm based in England.

Context: I'm my mum's Attorney, trying to manage her home and financials since she lost capacity (dementia) a year ago. I live in England and she lives in Ireland, now in a nursing home but she owns a house in Ireland.

We decided to rent her home so that the income could support her care costs. We spoke to an estate agent local to the house, handed them keys and they were keen, seemed to understand the situation, and we agreed management fee etc. A week later they had a potential tenant lined up and we agreed to go ahead with paperwork on the phone.

Only two days after this the estate agent called to say the tenants would move in the next day. They sent a contract for us to sign between estate agent and my mum (I signed as attorney) and then a tenancy agreement between her and the tenants to sign as well. Estate agent followed up asking for supporting documentation to show my mum's ownership of the property (land registry, ID etc). I arranged this but it turns out my mum's passport is in her maiden name while everything else (banks, land registry) is in her married name (though she has been divorced from my dad for a long time, she uses both names). Her married name is on her driving licence, which I've shared, but this expired last year.

The estate agent admin person called very stressed saying that I need to find out my mum's "actual legal name" and that the property shouldn't have been let until the paperwork has gone through (I absolutely agree, I don't know what the estate agents were thinking letting this happen, and I can't believe she is getting annoyed with me, a person who has zero experience being a landlord and is trying my best to rectify the situation).

I have offered to send evidence of my mums marriage / divorce which shows her name change but I don't know how else we can verify my mum's identity. I've sent evidence of my enduring power of attorney (which also calls my mum by her married name). The admin person suggested we could redo the paperwork in my name, but that I would be an overseas landlord and thus get taxed by both governments. This doesn't seem right to me either, as the house is still legally my mum's and they money will go into her bank account. It's her asset / income, I am only managing it on her behalf. Being double taxed is the least of my worries if I'm being put in the position to sign a contract to rent out a house that isn't legally mine.

So now we are in a position where there are people living in my mum's house, with deposits and first month's rent paid to the estate agent but contracts not finalised. I'm at such a loss as to next steps and absolutely baffled by the Irish system (or lack of adherence to it in this case) and gutted at my own naivety in my rush to stabilise my mum's financial position, trusting an estate agent with the key before signing documentation. And help / suggestions gratefully received!

Legal questions:

1. anyone know another way I can verify my mum's identity? Is it even ok / legal that her passport is in her maiden name if everything else is in her married name? Should I look into getting this updated for her? Either way that is going to take weeks.

2. Does the admin person's suggestion to do the paperwork in my name make sense? Doesn't feel legal to me - I don't want to do anything fraudulent by accident. This might be where UK law is also relevant to this situation.

3. What the heck do we do about having random people in our house? Do the estate agents have any legal obligations towards us at this stage? All the paperwork has been signed but it's the ID verification that's still outstanding. Presumably the absolute worst case scenario is that we get the Irish police involved to remove tenants (how awful for them, just a week moving into a new home) and get locks changed in order to go back to square one?