hiya 17f ive felt kinda lonely and down these days and was hoping to find someone nice to chat with. i have information about me on my profile if you’re interested but i will say im kinda shy so i usually don’t reach out first so sorry in advanc, and im very busy with school but will try to find time to talk if you’re interested in a deeper friendship.
hii you can call me dya im close to 17 and id like some casual friends. i play roblox and fortnite (im new and use switch so not too good tho lol) and im interested in typology, modern history, and music analysis.
no dry texters please, i won’t want to talk to you if i have to carry a conversation but i can talk to you about anything you want pretty much, just state your age when you dm me so ik u actually read my post and are close enough to my age (with 3 years is alright)
im american and not religious so if you want to tell me about your religion or country i’d be interested (im not converting to any religion tho lol).
(if youve dmed me before and i didnt get back to you im sorry try again and i’ll get back to you i swear 🤞)
I was thinking maybe types with fi and te due to having strong opinions and values, but im curious about other’s experiences/thoughts
I know I’m young, but please believe me when I say I’ve struggled with being an fa pretty much all my life. for me it leads me to overanalyze situations and intellectualize my emotions as a way of justifying how I act in friendships/relationships.
It’s gotten to the point where whenever someone does something that rubs me the wrong way, I don’t even trust my own judgment anymore. I’ve had situations where I was completely convinced I was in the right for abandoning someone, only to realize almost a month later that I was actually deeply wrong.
I’ve tried to ‘heal’ my attachment style mostly by forcing myself to push through the urge to leave. But now when someone does something that bothers me and triggers those old feelings of wanting to run away, I genuinely can’t tell whether I’m being rational or whether I’m just reacting to an attachment trigger.
I don’t know what actually constitutes a reasonable dealbreaker in a relationship anymore. I don’t want to give details about the specific situation because I feel like this is a larger issue I need to address within myself to move forward
If anyone has gone through similar please tell me how you managed to tell the difference between actual dealbreakers and red flags or just triggers. If i left anything out lmk
^^ if it got deleted lmk 😭