u/JinxXedOmens

Honestly quite baffled to be honest. Substitutions happen all the time, granted, and I'd say eehhh 90% of the time the replacement is useable enough vs what you actually ordered... but tulips? As a substitution for a cabbage? I guess my garlic butter cabbage is going to look interesting tonight. Gotta admit, the tulips look lovely, and it gave me a good laugh first thing in the morning.

Curious if anyone can beat this one?

Okay so I'm 90% sure that I'm not the asshole here, but the reaction I'm being given over this is getting just so out of proportion that I'm second-guessing myself.

I was visiting my friend and his girlfriend yesterday at a cafe. They have a 4 year old daughter and the girlfriend is about 5 months pregnant with another, and he recently told us and the rest of us group of friends in a group chat that she had a scan and it's going to be a boy. Logical assumption, to me at least, is that because my friend told us all what the gender will be that the two of them had basically made it public to everyone.

So we're at this cafe, we're having a nice time, they have brought the daughter along and she's doing some colouring at the table while we chat. I bring up how happy I am for them that they're having a boy, because he always said he wanted one boy and one girl, and the kid stops colouring and asks what I was talking about. I said something along the lines of "well, your dad has a little girl already, and now he's going to have a little boy, too!" and she just looked really blank and then started crying. She asked "I'm going to have a brother?" and pointed at her mum, because the kid knew she was pregnant (logical assumption --> kid knows mum's pregnant, parents have revealed the gender to friends --> kid knows too???) and when I said yes she fully threw her pencils on the table and started bawling and shouting that she didn't want a brother, she wanted a sister, that she hated her parents and she would never speak to them again etc. Caused a HUGE scene in the cafe and we all quickly left because people were staring.

I was completely baffled and didn't really know what the hell to do at this point, and just sort of looked at them in silence and my friend and his girlfriend just said "we're going to go now" and walked back to their car with the daughter still throwing the tantrum of the century.

Now I am 90% sure I'm NTAH here because how was I supposed to know that they hadn't told the kid when they'd told everyone else what the gender was going to be? But I have had an absolute tsunami of texts from my mate since, saying how it was their responsibility to tell the daughter that she was gonna have a brother, that they just "hadn't found the right time because it was a big deal" etc. I don't have kids, I don't really know how I would approach that conversation, but I just jumped to conclusions and assumed that ship would have already sailed. He's been saying that I ruined the moment, that the kid is misbehaving around them and basically living in constant tantrum mode, is being rude to the mum, and that I was absolutely out of line to have been the person to reveal that news to the kid. AITAH for assuming that, because us friends were told, that the kid would have been told as well?

EDIT FOR CLARITY: There was zero discussion in the group chat of keeping the information secret, there was no "keep this under wraps" convo. Nothing indicated that the news was a friends/family only thing. All 7 of us in the friend group assumed that was "the big reveal".