u/Jo_Mason24

Hello

It's been 27 months and 7 days since I last saw my daughter after her mum relocated her overseas overnight (she was 16 at the time). I think about her daily, and cry often.

So as not to go into so much detail, I will highlight the key points:

- I worked and provided, my ex stayed with our daughter most of the time

- my daughter formed an unhealthy attachment to my ex and her family

- my ex's mum had alienated her from her dad's family, her dad beat her up and abused her, her mum manipulated her, both parents neglected her owing to her brother's illness

- over my daughter's entire life when I was there, she had consistently expressed love and care and appreciation to me

- my ex would get jealous when my daughter and I got closer, she would often use words like us and your dad, express strong emotions Infront of my daughter following petty arguments to make her think I had done something horrible to her

- my ex would project her negative views of my entire family unto my daughter, often blaming them for things that were actually her fault

- on the night of the departure, I had had enough and I told her we needed to separate, I will go to a hotel for a few days to cool down, and we can talk procedures afterwards, she packed her bags, took my daughter, didn't notify her school, didn't leave a letter, left the house a mess, travelled overseas, and ghosted me

- for 1.5 years my daughter would not communicate with me except on one messaging platform (which my ex had access to when she was growing up), she would make it a point it's her choice to relocate, respond to me very coldly and briefly

- for that 1.5 years I was holding back from talking about any details, but then I felt I had to say something, especially after I told her I'd like us to have a meaningful relation after the divorce, she said she doesn't hold grudges - I called out what her mum did as a crime, very cruel, told her I developed complex PTSD, defended my self as a dad who cared and supported but sometimes made mistakes, and told her I will always be there for her

- for 2 years now I have been consistently sending her money

- but since my last message, I couldn't live with the continuous struggle of wondering if it's her mum using my daughter's socials, or just her pervasive control over her. I couldn't bear see the same person that one year before sent me a card box telling me what a great dad I was, treat me this way and become the whip with which my bitter ex continues her family's heritage of alienation and projection.

- I know it's hard to say even with such details that I shared but I wonder if there is hope. I realize money doesn't equate to love and communication but the contradiction of being told she's an adult and given the cold shoulder while others tell me hang in there and keep sending messages of love feels like I am imposing myself.

- is there hope? Based on your experience if it has any similarity?

I leased an apartment for 1.5 years and at the end of my lease during the intense rains, the paint started bubbling in the walls near the floor. I bit the bullet and repainted the whole apartment. The bubbling returned. Now the landlord is telling me they are getting repair quotes to deduct from my deposit.

I think this is grossly unfair. I have paid the attestation fees when legally it was their responsibility, repainted the whole apartment and cleaned it, installed lights when there were none, and handed over the apartment 9 days prior to the end of my lease.

My question is, if push comes to shove, do I have a good chance in the tenancy dispute center to have my deposit returned? What timeline do I need to be mindful of to not lose the chance to complain? Sharing prior experience is appreciated.