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I originally posted on another subreddit with the title ”I (20F) have a huge crush on my coworker (27M). What would you do if you were me?”, and I have a little update because a lot of people commented and gave me advice

I should probably also mention that like two days ago after my original post, I actually asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime and he replied “Maybe🤔 we’ll see.” So I kind of feel like I’ve already shot my shot. I honestly don’t know if he meant it or if he was just trying to be nice, but either way it’s simply up to him.

Also after reading a lot of the comments and thinking about it, I decided to back off a little. Not because I’m over him (definitely not 😭) but because I don’t really wanna spend every shift chasing him or overthinking every little thing he does. If he wants to get to know me outside of work, he knows I’m interested.

So when we worked together this morning I just acted like I normally would. He actually came up to me first and asked how I was which was nice.

The only thing I changed was that I stopped going out of my way to find reasons to talk to him. If he was the closest person or the best person to ask for help, I still asked him. But if someone else could help me just as easily I’d ask them instead. I wasn’t trying to ignore him or make him notice but I just wanted to stop making everything about him.

That’s why I thought it was kind of funny that I noticed him looking over at me a few times and he’d randomly come over and say something. That could literally mean nothing and I’m not trying to convince myself it means he’s interested. I only noticed it because I wasn’t the one constantly going over to him anymore.

It also made me realize the Snapchat situation changed. Before he’d sometimes leave me on opened for hours or not reply at all and I’d overthink it way too much. Recently though he’s replied to every snap I’ve sent. The funny part is now I’m the one who’s left him on opened a couple of times and replied hours later. Not because I’m trying to play games or anything but because I’m trying to stop making him the center of my attention.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized there’s not really anything else I can do anyway. He might actually be interested or he might not be. And like I said earlier, he might have said “Maybe 🤔 we’ll see” because he genuinely wasn’t sure or maybe it was just the nicest way to say no. I honestly have no idea and I probably never will unless he decides to do something.

And if he isn’t interested, that’s okay too. Obviously I’d love it if he was but I can’t make someone like me. I also don’t wanna ruin my own happiness over a guy. I genuinely like him as a person and I really enjoy having him as a coworker and friend. I’d rather keep that than make things awkward by chasing someone who’s unsure.

So for now I’m just gonna keep being friendly, do my job and let whatever happens happen. If something develops naturally then that’s great. If it doesn’t I’ll be okay with that too.

I feel like this is the best decision for this for the moment. Am i making the right decision?

I originally posted on here with the title ”I (20F) have a huge crush on my coworker (27M). What would you do if you were me?”, and I have a little update because a lot of people commented and gave me advice

I should probably also mention that like two days ago after my original post, I actually asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime and he replied “Maybe🤔 we’ll see.” So I kind of feel like I’ve already shot my shot. I honestly don’t know if he meant it or if he was just trying to be nice, but either way it’s simply up to him.

Also after reading a lot of the comments and thinking about it, I decided to back off a little. Not because I’m over him (definitely not 😭) but because I don’t really wanna spend every shift chasing him or overthinking every little thing he does. If he wants to get to know me outside of work, he knows I’m interested.

So when we worked together this morning I just acted like I normally would. He actually came up to me first and asked how I was which was nice.

The only thing I changed was that I stopped going out of my way to find reasons to talk to him. If he was the closest person or the best person to ask for help, I still asked him. But if someone else could help me just as easily I’d ask them instead. I wasn’t trying to ignore him or make him notice but I just wanted to stop making everything about him.

That’s why I thought it was kind of funny that I noticed him looking over at me a few times and he’d randomly come over and say something. That could literally mean nothing and I’m not trying to convince myself it means he’s interested. I only noticed it because I wasn’t the one constantly going over to him anymore.

It also made me realize the Snapchat situation changed. Before he’d sometimes leave me on opened for hours or not reply at all and I’d overthink it way too much. Recently though he’s replied to every snap I’ve sent. The funny part is now I’m the one who’s left him on opened a couple of times and replied hours later. Not because I’m trying to play games or anything but because I’m trying to stop making him the center of my attention.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized there’s not really anything else I can do anyway. He might actually be interested or he might not be. And like I said earlier, he might have said “Maybe 🤔 we’ll see” because he genuinely wasn’t sure or maybe it was just the nicest way to say no. I honestly have no idea and I probably never will unless he decides to do something.

And if he isn’t interested, that’s okay too. Obviously I’d love it if he was but I can’t make someone like me. I also don’t wanna ruin my own happiness over a guy. I genuinely like him as a person and I really enjoy having him as a coworker and friend. I’d rather keep that than make things awkward by chasing someone who’s unsure.

So for now I’m just gonna keep being friendly, do my job and let whatever happens happen. If something develops naturally then that’s great. If it doesn’t I’ll be okay with that too.

I feel like this is the best decision for this for the moment. Am i making the right decision?

TLDR: I’m 20F and have a huge crush on my 27M coworker. I’m pretty sure he knows, but I have no idea if he feels the same. We work together, I’m still new, and I feel like I’m overthinking every interaction. I know the 7-year age gap might seem like a lot, so… what would you do if you were me?

Okay I need people who aren’t emotionally attached to this because I feel like I’ve completely lost the ability to think rationally.

I’m 20F and he’s 27M and I’ve been working at my job for about two months. I know a 7 year age gap can seem like a lot because I’m only 20 and I’m sure some people will focus on that. Personally it doesn’t bother me since we’re both adults but I get why other people might see it differently.

Somewhere along the way I’ve developed the biggest crush on him. He’s single, genuinely one of the nicest people there, funny, ridiculously attractive, and just has one of those personalities that makes everyone want to be around him. Every time I see we’re working the same shift, my whole day gets better.

The thing is… I’m about 99% sure he knows I like him.
We make eye contact a lot, and sometimes it feels like we both hold it for a little longer than normal. Then I probably made it even more obvious by posting a TikTok on my Snapchat story about having a crush on someone who’s seven years older. I’m not even going to lie. I posted it because I knew he’d probably see it.
He did😭 Ever since then I’ve been thinking there’s no way he didn’t connect the dots.

The confusing part is that nothing changed afterwards. He’s naturally a pretty touchy person with everyone so I know I can’t automatically assume that’s flirting. But with me he’ll sometimes leave his hand on my shoulder, arm or back until he walks away instead of just tapping me and moving on. It could mean absolutely nothing and maybe I’m only noticing because I have a crush on him but it’s one of those little things I can’t stop thinking about.

Snapchat hasn’t helped either. Sometimes he’ll leave me on opened and reply hours later and sometimes he won’t reply at all. I honestly don’t know if that’s because he’s 27 and doesn’t really care about Snapchat or if it’s a sign that he’s not interested.

I also told one of my coworkers (26F), who’s worked there a lot longer than I have and is basically my supervisor whenever we’re in the same department, that I had a crush on him. I asked if he was single, and before she answered she smiled and said, “Yeah, he is.”

The biggest thing holding me back is work. Dating coworkers isn’t really encouraged where I work even though there actually is another couple there. They both have permanent contracts whereas I’ve only been there for about two months so I feel like I’d have a lot more to lose if I’ve completely misread the situation.

Sooo what would you do if you were me? Would you just keep getting to know him and see what happens? Wait until you’ve been there longer? Or would you eventually ask him to hang out outside of work?

And for the people around his age. would a 27 year old even think a 20 year old was too young or am I overthinking the age gap as well?

TLDR: I’m 20F and have a huge crush on my 27M coworker. I’m pretty sure he knows, but I have no idea if he feels the same. We work together, I’m still new, and I feel like I’m overthinking every interaction. I know the 7-year age gap might seem like a lot, so… what would you do if you were me?

Okay I need people who aren’t emotionally attached to this because I feel like I’ve completely lost the ability to think rationally.

I’m 20F and he’s 27M and I’ve been working at my job for about two months. I know a 7 year age gap can seem like a lot because I’m only 20 and I’m sure some people will focus on that. Personally it doesn’t bother me since we’re both adults but I get why other people might see it differently.

Somewhere along the way I’ve developed the biggest crush on him. He’s single, genuinely one of the nicest people there, funny, ridiculously attractive, and just has one of those personalities that makes everyone want to be around him. Every time I see we’re working the same shift, my whole day gets better.

The thing is… I’m about 99% sure he knows I like him.
We make eye contact a lot, and sometimes it feels like we both hold it for a little longer than normal. Then I probably made it even more obvious by posting a TikTok on my Snapchat story about having a crush on someone who’s seven years older. I’m not even going to lie. I posted it because I knew he’d probably see it.
He did😭 Ever since then I’ve been thinking there’s no way he didn’t connect the dots.

The confusing part is that nothing changed afterwards. He’s naturally a pretty touchy person with everyone so I know I can’t automatically assume that’s flirting. But with me he’ll sometimes leave his hand on my shoulder, arm or back until he walks away instead of just tapping me and moving on. It could mean absolutely nothing and maybe I’m only noticing because I have a crush on him but it’s one of those little things I can’t stop thinking about.

Snapchat hasn’t helped either. Sometimes he’ll leave me on opened and reply hours later and sometimes he won’t reply at all. I honestly don’t know if that’s because he’s 27 and doesn’t really care about Snapchat or if it’s a sign that he’s not interested.

I also told one of my coworkers (26F), who’s worked there a lot longer than I have and is basically my supervisor whenever we’re in the same department, that I had a crush on him. I asked if he was single, and before she answered she smiled and said, “Yeah, he is.”

The biggest thing holding me back is work. Dating coworkers isn’t really encouraged where I work even though there actually is another couple there. They both have permanent contracts whereas I’ve only been there for about two months so I feel like I’d have a lot more to lose if I’ve completely misread the situation.

Sooo what would you do if you were me? Would you just keep getting to know him and see what happens? Wait until you’ve been there longer? Or would you eventually ask him to hang out outside of work?

And for the people around his age. would a 27 year old even think a 20 year old was too young or am I overthinking the age gap as well?

TLDR: I’m 20F and have a huge crush on my 27M coworker. I’m pretty sure he knows, but I have no idea if he feels the same. We work together, I’m still new, and I feel like I’m overthinking every interaction. I know the 7-year age gap might seem like a lot, so… what would you do if you were me?

Okay I need people who aren’t emotionally attached to this because I feel like I’ve completely lost the ability to think rationally.

I’m 20F and he’s 27M and I’ve been working at my job for about two months. I know a 7 year age gap can seem like a lot because I’m only 20 and I’m sure some people will focus on that. Personally it doesn’t bother me since we’re both adults but I get why other people might see it differently.

Somewhere along the way I’ve developed the biggest crush on him. He’s single, genuinely one of the nicest people there, funny, ridiculously attractive, and just has one of those personalities that makes everyone want to be around him. Every time I see we’re working the same shift, my whole day gets better.

The thing is… I’m about 99% sure he knows I like him.
We make eye contact a lot, and sometimes it feels like we both hold it for a little longer than normal. Then I probably made it even more obvious by posting a TikTok on my Snapchat story about having a crush on someone who’s seven years older. I’m not even going to lie. I posted it because I knew he’d probably see it.
He did😭 Ever since then I’ve been thinking there’s no way he didn’t connect the dots.

The confusing part is that nothing changed afterwards. He’s naturally a pretty touchy person with everyone so I know I can’t automatically assume that’s flirting. But with me he’ll sometimes leave his hand on my shoulder, arm or back until he walks away instead of just tapping me and moving on. It could mean absolutely nothing and maybe I’m only noticing because I have a crush on him but it’s one of those little things I can’t stop thinking about.

Snapchat hasn’t helped either. Sometimes he’ll leave me on opened and reply hours later and sometimes he won’t reply at all. I honestly don’t know if that’s because he’s 27 and doesn’t really care about Snapchat or if it’s a sign that he’s not interested.

I also told one of my coworkers (26F), who’s worked there a lot longer than I have and is basically my supervisor whenever we’re in the same department, that I had a crush on him. I asked if he was single, and before she answered she smiled and said, “Yeah, he is.”

The biggest thing holding me back is work. Dating coworkers isn’t really encouraged where I work even though there actually is another couple there. They both have permanent contracts whereas I’ve only been there for about two months so I feel like I’d have a lot more to lose if I’ve completely misread the situation.

Sooo what would you do if you were me? Would you just keep getting to know him and see what happens? Wait until you’ve been there longer? Or would you eventually ask him to hang out outside of work?

And for the people around his age. would a 27 year old even think a 20 year old was too young or am I overthinking the age gap as well?