u/Kaeddar

I (39f) don't know if this is my natural impatience or I'm playing too much video games where progress happens in an instant or is life trying to teach me a lesson here...

2026 is bringing many improvements into my life: stable job, new appartment with no roommates, a new car, getting rid of some of the debt... But for all of that I had to wait for weeks or months, even in situations whare it seemed like a quick process at first.

Last months seem to me like a constant stream of waiting for people, asking and hearing that I have to wait more and more. People straight up lying about things or ghosting me or forgetting to reply.

I was supposed to move to a new place in May, but the renovations don't seem to end and whenever it seems that it's done, something new to be fixed suddenly appears.

I'm used to the present day job market, so I'm aware that it takes a long time sometimes, however a lot of the delay is caused by people being unreliable and it's frustrating.

I wanted to take an online loan for a car, but there's some clerical error and I have to go to the bank myself and if the bank can't process my application on time, I will not be able to pick up the car before my vacations...

A couple of years ago me and my partner moved to a warmer country for the winter, which was a great experience and I'm grateful, but again, there was a couple of delays and instead of going in October, we left in December.

I know it all seems kinda like first world problems, but should it really be this hard? I'm just trying to have a normal life, I don't expect everything to come easily to me, I put a lof of hard work to make life better for me and my loved ones, it's just that sometimes despite me doing everything I can, things slip out of my reach and I have to climb again to grab them.

Or maybe I grew up because my parents sheltered me from all that? Or did they have it easier? They lived in a house built by my grandfather, had stable jobs all of their lives, my dad used to sell and buy a new car in one afternoon every three years or so.

I'm halfway through life and learned a lot of hard lessons and still sometimes can't understand how it all works and what I'm supposed to do.

Sorry for this ramble, it's late and I'm tired. I hope you all have a great weekend <3

Miałam do ogarnięcia pilną rodzinną sprawę i wyjątkowo z Krakowa, gdzie mieszkam, pojechałam do Koszalina samochodem (moim zwyczajowym środkiem transportu jest pociąg). Gugle-srugle pokierowały mnie "najkrótszą trasą" przez A1, gdzie zjechałam w okolicy Torunia na drogę krajową 25. Wszystko byłoby spoczko, gdyby nie to, że owa droga jest rozkopana w wielu miejscach, czego gugle-srugle już nie pokazały...

Z tego co patrzę, alternatywne trasy to albo przez Szczecin albo Trójmiasto, ale obie są prawie 100km dłuższe, więc nie wiem czy mają sens... Czy ktoś z Was zna lepiej drogi na Pomorzu i jest w stanie coś doradzić? Z góry śliczne dzięki <3

I have ADHD diagnosis. I currently work in this corporate job and I want to keep it for a while. It's not my main career but I need this job for now.

Anyway, my project hasn't officially started yet and for the most of the day I have literally nothing to do. I can work 50% from home, which helps, because I can do other stuff at home, but sitting in the office slowly becomes hell. I tried doing some courses, going to the kitchen to write or doing research for hobbies whenever I have hyperfocus. Unfortunately, finding myself engaging things to do is exhausting, and there are days where I just scroll reddit or watch youtube shorts for 8 hours straight.

I talked to my manager that I could do other things in the meantime or help some other team, but she told me that I need to wait for the project to start and to enjoy this free time, which is nice of her, but it's hell for my brain.

So, I'm asking you, beautiful people of reddit: do you have any survival tips?

Have a lovely day! ❤️

I live with my partner and a flatmate. The flatmate had been our friend for a couple of years before we decided to move in together. Both us and her were looking for a new place and were in a tight financial spot so renting a place together seemed like a good idea at that timne/

A couple of months after moving in together, I lost my job and had to change careers and ended up with a huge depressive episode. At the same time, the flatmate turned out to be unreliable, dirty and disrespectful. It took us a year to figure out a system for chores that works for everyone, we tried talking with her multiple times and it's generally better, but there's some things she just doesn't understand about living together. I don't want to get into details, it's not important.

It's been almost 2 years now and it's been exhausting for me. Dealing with my own depression, looking for a new job every couple of months and every day having a "surprise" at home with either unnanounced guests or a pile of dirty dishes.

Fortunately, me and my partner will be moving out soon, in a month or so. I now have a stable job and my mental health is slowly improving. My nerves are frayed and I'm simply tired, yesterday I broke in tears when I came back home after a long and stressful day and couldn't even make myself tea because the kitchen was unusable. I told about this in chatgroup but she did what she always does in these situations, being like "but you sometimes don't clean too". My partner has much more patience than me and is dealing much better with all this and tries to understand me, but sometimes I feel very lonely with these emotions.

So I have a perspective of a ~month of this bs in front of me and I don't really know what to do. The friendship is over, I don't want to work on it, and I don't want to fight and try proving my point every time, because it's even more exhausting. I just want to survive. Maybe I'll go for a short workation? Visit my mom for a couple of days? I dunno.

Any survival tips will be greatly appreciated, have a lovely day good people ❤️