u/KaleParticular2960

I accidently asked a villager to come to my island so I turned off the game right when they asked if I was sure they could come live with me. Since it only gave positive responses and no back out option Im not sure if I'm locked in already. I landed back on my island, is the villager still gonna come thru or did I successfully rewrite the invite?

New to ACNH and haven't built plots of land for visitors yet so I won't know until I further upgrade my island so I'm curious. Stella's my mystery villager i wouldnt mind her living with me but I already have Dom and want different species on my island 🫡

i've been working night shift medsurg on my own for almost a month now and todays the first time I got a complaint about taking long breaks. Everyone in the hospital takes 1hr breaks at night. The house sup is the one who breaks everyone in the hospital since its a small hospital with a low census. I know some that might sleep a little longer but I've always kept a timer on my phone to remind myself to punch in and get back on the floor in a timely manner.

Today is my first time working with this house sup and my second time floating to another floor. While in my patients room she came up to me and said I could go on break. I did a final check on my pt and then headed one floor up to my home unit, clocked out, set up my timer, and took a nap. A minute before my timer went off I got a txt from house sup to come back downstairs.

When I came back down she gave me a talking down saying I cant be late and that she had the rest of the hospital to break. I told her I wasnt late and that I had a timer set up for an hour exactly. Midway through my explanation she kinda just...walks away??? Idk lowkey infuriating

It takes 2 minutes to go upstairs to clock in/out on my floor and another 2 minutes to go down, but I'm going off the time I clocked out. She's going off the time she told me to go on break. Am I in the wrong? Should I just leave my break a couple minutes earlier to make up for distance? Im a new grad so I prob left a bad impression and I don't want this to become something that pops up on my eval.

My SO and I recently bought a place and moved in Jan2026. We used to live at my SILs place because they wouldn't let SO move out with me into an apartment when I asked in 2024. I had toxic roommates and was looking for a place on my own, I asked SO if he wanted to live with me but they rejected the idea since they thought he'd end up paying for everything and didnt want him putting any money into renting. They made the rent super cheap for me so I ended up living with them but I was mostly cooped up in our room and didn't really go down to the shared areas. His MIL made me uncomfortable because she likes to complain a lot and gossip.I also like to have my own space, so I kept to myself.

First day moving out MIL made me cry. She scolded me for not giving them a proper thank you and goodbye for letting me stay with them. Me and SO were in the middle of moving stuff, literally in the driveway while she scolded me. I felt this experience ruined a moment that was supposed to be exciting for the both of us.

Moving forward to now. SIL told my SO that she was going to renovate her house for 3mo. She told him she and her family will stay with a friend while MIL lives with us. SO said ok since we have a spare room. I didn't get a say, they just told me it was going to happen. Since they let me stay at their place for 2yrs it felt wrong for me to say no at the time. But I really wish I did.

First week living with MIL:

1. She doesn't flush the toilet, she'll leave pee and toilet paper for us to flush down

2. She cut open a fruit and left the scraps in an open bin, I walked in the next morning with 20-30 fruit flies flying around in the kitchen (to this day I still see a couple; SIL has maggots in her garbage because of this habit)

3. She's loud: She watches AI slop on blast, exercises in the upstairs room, or slams pots n pans. My puppy can't rest with the noise when I try to put him down to sleep.

4. She buys and cooks for 5 people but the food's all for her. I wouldn't mind but she takes up all the fridge space then complains that we have too much food in the fridge and there's nothing for her.

5. She lets the puppy out of the play pen and then leaves him unsupervised. One time she called me downstairs, laughing that my puppy was chewing on my plants. I told her why she didnt stop him and she said "i was on my phone". She was sitting right in front of my plants and just let it happen.

SO has talked to her about all of these things and she flushes now but what led to to the big fight:

I came home after bringing my puppy to the groomers. She was in the kitchen eating her food and said she noticed the dishes have been in the sink since yesterday. She said the sink smells (there were 5 dishes in there). At this point I was irritated and childishly said: I smell nothing, maybe it's your food? She responded: No, I just bought this food today.

Later I see her talking about me on the phone to my SIL. The moment I walk in she hangs up right away and goes back to the kitchen. I'm furious, I'm letting her stay at my house and she's openly complaining about me. She even lied, telling my SO and SIL that I said SHE smelled. She's complaining that I do nothing in the house and that SO is doing all of the chores.

SO talks to her and I hear them fighting upstairs. She tries coming down to talk to me but I'm sitting outside in the patio tryint to come down. What pisses me off even more, she tries to tell me to come inside to talk to me. She's telling me what to do in MY house? She walks away expecting me to follow her but I dont. She says she cant come outside because it's cold (were in a heatwave; she just doesnt want neighbors to hear us). I call BS and tell her to come outside and talk or we wont talk at all.

She tries explaining that she sees me as her daughter and tried explaining step by step about how she saw the interaction. I said she was being rude. She kept trying to make excuses. I said she doesn't listen and walked away.

My SO was upset I shut her down while she was trying to communicate but gets she's frustrating. He got into a big fight with her trying to explain how her recent behavior can be seen as rude and inconsiderate. She still doesnt really get it. He told her to mind her business while we mind ours during her 3mo stay. I told him I didnt have a choice in her moving in and he says he should've asked and he'll never let this happen again; but that i have to bare with it for just 3mo and then she can move out. I said if I ever hear her talking about me in my own house again I'm leaving. He promised he'll kick her out if it happens but we'll see ig.

Sorry for the long rant I needed it off my chest.

Still in the puppy phases with my 7mo dachshund but am interested in getting a cocker spaniel when my dog is 2yo. I go out on 2-3 40min walks a day, have some intense play times, and do basic command trainings daily. Is this enough for a cocker spaniel? What was it like raising one?

Finally started my job as an RN after 5 months of job hunting in SoCal. Throughout nursing school I have heard so many people complain about medsurg and how they could never see themselves being in this department; I started to think so too until I started my first shift. I work in a small hospital with a 1:5 ratio, my first week I did 3 12 hour shifts in a row all with different preceptors with different teaching styles. Some were old school nurses and some were chill nurses. Overall, I liked my experience working with them even when I felt like I was running like a headless chicken trying to get everything done. I'm not super confident in myself, especially in finding time to chart and pass meds on time, but I think I can get through this and become a good nurse.

I think the nurses on the floor see my willingness to learn/take initiative and are being receptive to my energy. I got a compliment from the old school nurses and one nurse even said it felt like they were orienting someone with previous experience. Ive been given a huge confidence boost after that, I guess faking it till u make it truly works LOL.

I'm glad I picked medsurg to start. Hopefully the rest of my 6 wk orientation goes well and I keep my current mindset. To anyone going through orientation right now, we got this!

For context I have a 5mo old mini dachshund that I am training to be less reactive. I've had him for a month now and I'm the main caregiver/trainer. We go to open fields on parks and do little sit sessions outside our neighborhood so he can observe his surroundings. Over the month hes improved a lot; he doesn't react to adults and cars. He reacts to tiny kids and dogs but less so when at a reasonable distance like across the street (working on it). His main problem right now is when we bump into dogs in public. He is able to be recalled when he is barking but his issue is that we have to keep recalling him since he keeps going back to bark.

Today my bf convinced me to take our dog to a small cafe to pick up some coffee. My bf sat outside while I went inside to order. For the first 15 minutes we were fine until I started to hear barking from outside. One of the customers came in with a medium sized dog and my boy started to bark. We went farther away and we practiced recall but my guy would go back to barking at the other dog (who was thankfully not barking back). I was super embarrassed since the other customers outside were looking and the owner of the other dog said "he's a bad dog" to his kid :(. Hearing this from what looks like to be an experienced dog owner was terrible for my self confidence as a new dog mom.

My bf said to not be bothered by others since our dog is still a baby and we are actively working on training. But comments like these always feel like a kick to the teeth, attacking me and my dog when we're trying to do our best. I keep replaying the incident, keep thinking about how I could have been thorough in my training, keep thinking that I should have known not to bring my dog in public knowing he's still reactive to dogs. My head right now is in circles.

Tomorrow I'm going to sit outside the dog park with my boy to work on his reactivity.

For context I just recently got a mini dachsund (now 5mo), I live in a family/dog friendly neighborhood, and I live in a condo w/ a fenced off patio that faces other condos w/ patios. Roughly theres 6 condos that are all close together, most of them have kids and dogs. I've been training my puppy with basic commands since I got him. For the first 2-3 weeks with me he didnt bark but once he turned 5 months he suddenly found his voice.

I've been teaching him "leave it" when he barks and I have been trying to desensitize him to outside noise by leaving my patio door open for him to hear the people/dogs outside. When he does bark I let him get out 1-3 barks and then try the "leave it" command + treat when he is quiet. Depending if the neighbors dog is barking, I tend to do this a handful of times a day. Today I left the patio door open so when he went outside and barked I could teach him outside too (since dogs are contextual). Some little kids were playing outside with their parents and then went in around the time my dog went out to bark.

Idk if them going inside has to do with his barking or if they were just done playing but I want to hear other peoples view if IATA for allowing my dog to bark outside. He only barked 2-3× and went quiet after "leave it" and some treats, but his bark CAN be loud. Should I try training my dog in some other ways? I often hear the neighbors dogs bark in their homes but I haven't heard them in their patio area.

I got a mini dachsund exactly a month ago and he just started going on walks last week after getting his last set of vaccines. I live in a family/pet oriented neighborhood; every time we go out we end up seeing kids/dogs/moms with baby strollers/etc. I try to go at different times of the day but we always see someone out, even when walking late at night. He's okay with seeing adults but we have problems with him reacting to other dogs and kids. If I can spot a dog/kids before him i try walking away or crossing the street. But with the layout of the condos here, I'm not always able to spot kids/dogs leaving the garage area.

Today some little kids were biking in their driveway and my boy started barking at them, making them stop. Their dad was outside, but I was so focused on trying to recall my puppy I forgot to apologize for the barking. Overall I was super embarrassed and now I'm dreading our next interaction when I go to walk my reactive puppy.

Before my puppy would run back home if anything scared him but after some more experience outside hes more vocal and just stands there. I am able to recall him after some leash tension and a "lets go", but it takes a while for him to walk away. I feel bad that he barks at the kids trying to play outside, I dont want them to feel afraid to play in their neighborhood (though they seem more curious than afraid when I see them). If I continue to walk and recall him when he is barking will he be desensitized to dogs and kids later on? Is this a temporary puppy phase or do I have to do more intensive desensitization training? I have social anxiety and I get so embarrassed when he starts barking at the neighbors (especially as the new neighbor in the area), any tips would help!