u/Kayleigh2025

I don't know if I should be alarmed or not. I've been on HRT (Estradiol 5mg weekly injections and daily Spiro 100mg) for over 7 months now, no complaints on the hair front, as a matter of fact it seems thicker and healthier.

However, last night I was using a herbal color shampoo and I noticed a great deal of shedding, more than normal, and it got me quite alarmed.

I typically only wash my hair once or twice a week, and I expect some shedding, but in this case it was noticeably more than I'm normally used to.

I've been through a lot of stress lately (divorce, work, etc.) and the weather is changing as well, so I don't know if that's a factor.

What I'm asking is whether I should get on some hair loss med before it's too late?

I've been avoiding them since I hate the idea of having yet another drug that I'm taking for life, but at the same time as bad as hair loss is for a man, it's 100 times worse for a woman.

Any thoughts or suggestions? Am I overreacting? Am I underreacting?

Had kinda a double whammy experience yesterday with my ex telling me that I probably have clinical depression (despite me trying to explain to her that I am the happiest I've ever been in my entire life) and that is why I'm probably wanting to live as a woman.

Meanwhile my sister tried to victim-shame me because I didn't disclose to everyone around me that I was suffering from gender dysphoria since way before my egg cracked.

In general, I get far more misgendered by my cis women friends than any of the men around me.

Most of my male friends have started correctly gendering me from the very beginning, adopting my chosen name, and been overall very supportive.

The cis women have been by far the exact opposite, making me feel like I'm just going through a "phase" while adding to the guilt of basically destroying everything around me for no good reason.

Not only does it seem like they don't understand me, but they seem to have no interest in trying. Like they decided that an AMAB wanting to embrace their feminine identity is obviously misguided and wrong.

I just don't get it -- I mean here I am feeling incredibly genuine and myself for the first time in my life, and to them I'm just an inconvenience.

I'm sorry for venting about this, but since those two conversations yesterday all I want to do is cry.

First, a few things about me -- I'm a bit older, in my 50's. Before my transition I was strictly dating women, and now that I'm about six months into HRT I'm beginning to realize that I'd like to be with men, or at the very least that I'm bisexual.

Needless to say, I'm extremely intimidated by the idea.

Aside from not really knowing where to begin, at six months into HRT my body is still changing. My breasts have grown quite a bit, but I still don't consider them fully "boobed out" is that makes any sense. Same with my hips, arms, face, etc.

In addition, although I've been doing laser hair removal on my face, I still have a fairly noticeable shadow on my upper lips and chin, and due to a substantial amount of grey/white hairs I will need to start electrolysis soon if I ever hope to have a smooth face.

I've never been intimate with a guy, never kissed a man, held hands, cuddled, flirted, made out, etc.

I'm a total and complete noob!!!

While the idea of being intimate with a man turns me on (a lot), I also feel incredibly self-conscious about the way I look, and I don't know what his expectations might be.

For instance, if I find someone and spend the night with them, how are they going to react when, the next morning, my face is not as smooth as the night before?

Would my total inexperience make for awkward intimate moments?

Also, are they expecting all transgender women to have DD's and how would they react to my B's when I take off my bra?

But even before it gets to that point, there's the talking, and flirting, and holding hands, and cuddling, and making out -- it all seems so crazy scary and intimidating that it just makes me not want to even try.

Most importantly, how do I stay safe?

I would love to hear about what your experiences were when you first started dating men. What was that very first date like? Were you nervous? What was it like when he reached out and started kissing you (or did you make the first move)? How did you go about finding an interested man? How many dates did you go on before being intimate? Did it hurt the first time? Are there things that you wish you knew that you would have done differently?

Anything that you're willing to share would help me to understand what I'm in for, and how to best prepare myself for what is likely to happen.

TIA!

I just got back from a concert and I was looking around to see if I could find anyone I'd be physically into, but all I saw was a bunch of gross, sweaty, hairy and overweight incel-of-the-year candidates.

In my head I keep imagining being the girlfriend of someone whom...you know...showers regularly, keeps their growables trimmed and well groomed, and doesn't look like his parents still dress him. In reality it seems like just about every male I see smells bad, hasn't set foot in a barbershop in years, and is convinced that baggy t-shirts and skater shorts are effective ways to hide their poor eating habits.

I'm starting to wonder if I will ever find someone who doesn't totally gross me out.

Am I asking for too much?!?