u/Key-Database-6131

Hey everyone,

I want to open up a genuine, judgment-free discussion here. Forget the fear of being critiqued or side-eyed for your views — this is a space to think out loud.

If you were building the "perfect" relationship from scratch — call it an *effective* relationship rather than a perfect one, since perfection isn't realistic — what would it look like? What values, habits, or agreements would it be built on?

& is monogamy — or any relationship completely free of infidelity — actually achievable long-term? Or is it more of an ideal we chase than something people consistently live up to?

And if you think lasting fidelity *isn't* realistic for most people, what's the alternative? Or, what should we do in order to create effective relationships with our partners?

I'd genuinely love to hear from both men and women on this, let's be honest, respectful, and actually learn something from each other.

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Hey everyone,

I want to open up a genuine, judgment-free discussion here. Forget the fear of being critiqued or side-eyed for your views — this is a space to think out loud.

If you were building the "perfect" relationship from scratch — call it an *effective* relationship rather than a perfect one, since perfection isn't realistic — what would it look like? What values, habits, or agreements would it be built on?

& is monogamy — or any relationship completely free of infidelity — actually achievable long-term? Or is it more of an ideal we chase than something people consistently live up to?

And if you think lasting fidelity *isn't* realistic for most people, what's the alternative? Or, what should we do in order to create effective relationships with our partners?

I'd genuinely love to hear from both men and women on this, let's be honest, respectful, and actually learn something from each other.